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Article About The Advantages and Benefits in Being Single
The Benefits of Being Single
If you just recently broke up and are trying to figure out what the benefits of being single are, you're in the right place. There are so many advantages to not having a partner that it's quite frankly amazing every time you rediscover all of them.
Don't get me wrong. I have an awesome girlfriend right now and there are a ton of great benefits to being a relationship as well. In fact, I'll be writing an article on the benefits of being in a relationship later as well. However, the benefits of being single are completely different. As such, I felt they both deserved quality articles.
If you're still having a hard time getting over your ex, realizing everything I am going to share with you in this article should help.
The first benefit you get when you become single is that you have complete freedom to do whatever you want. Normally, in relationships you have to compromise. You have to do things your partner enjoys but that you really would rather not do. Well, when you are single, you decide whatever the heck you want to do and can do it whenever you want.
Want to stay at home all weekend drinking beer and watching football or playing video games? Want to go out and party at a club all weekend with your friends? You can do that too. Want to stay out till 3 in the morning? The list just keeps going on and on and on.
When you are single, you have the freedom to do whatever you want, whenever you want and you don't have to explain yourself to anyone. You are your own boss.
Now that your ex is out of the way, look at all the space you have around your house or apartment. He or she is longer helping to make a bigger mess and all of his or her stuff is completely out of the way and gone.
What will you do with all this empty space? Start filling it with stuff that you love. Are you an artist? Buy a new art set and put it where your ex's stuff used to be. Use whatever your hobby you have is or want to get into to fill the empty physical space your ex left for you. Also, this is effective at helping you get over him or her, because you will also be filling the empty space in your heart and mind that he or she left with your new hobby or passion!
As a nice side bonus, you also now have more space in your bed. You no longer have to worry about sharing blankets and you can take up as much space as you want! Want to sleep sideways one night? Diagonal? You are now free to do that.
We often tend to put our partners up on a pedestal in relationships. However, when the relationship ends, this only causes suffering, because we can only remember the good memories of them. We fail to remember how much pain they caused ever since the beginning of the relationship.
Try and remember all of the fights you and your partner had. It will make it easier to understand why they couldn't have stayed in your life any more when you realize just how much pain they caused you. Maybe there was jealousy thrown in there and that caused even more suffering for both of you. Regardless of what it was, just remember whatever caused the pain and be happy you no longer have to deal with that any more.
Any time you are attached to anyone or anything, you suffer. That's because we desperately try to cling or hold onto what we have and are attached to out of fear of losing it. This grasping and clinging is what causes so much pain when we feel it slipping away.
Now that you are single, you no longer have to suffer this pain.
More Time With Friends
The chances are that when you were in a relationship, your ex took up most of your time. You probably always had to go do things with them, when your friends would rather that you spent time with them instead. Now that you are single, you no longer have to choose between your friends and a partner. Whenever you feel like going out and doing something, you can do it with your friends and they'll always be there for you.
I'll bet they miss you, if you haven't spent a whole lot of time with them while you were in your past relationship. Get out there and start bonding with them more!
Do Whatever You Want
The best part of being single is that you can do whatever (or whoever) you want. You can flirt with any attractive person you meet and you can date whoever you want and you can make out with whoever you want. Complete freedom! Now, I'm not advocating you go out and be a sleaze bag or anything, but just that sensation of being free to do whatever is a nice thing to have.
You no longer have to worry about your self image, if you really don't want to. If you were eating healthy and staying fit to impress your partner, you don't have to do that any more. Want to eat a gallon of ice cream all by yourself while you sit on the couch like a slob? Go for it!
There are so many things to enjoy about being single. Have fun!