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Be patient. Be you.
I once had a boy who tried to tell me what to wear. Shortly after, I had one who tried to tell me what to eat, how to act, and who to be friends with… (Which basically consisted of his friendship and his friendship only.) I wondered, “Why do boys think it is okay to tell a woman how to be herself?” We teach our children at an early age that being you is so important, but we cant uphold the meaning of the phrase. We candy coat, toss in a smile, and maybe a few words of encouragement to the saying “ Always be yourself.” However, the blatant truth is that even when we are being ourselves we will still face ridicule and criticism. I’ve been told that I am loud, crazy, eat too much etc. but you know what, I am happy. Who I am makes me happy, and I don’t feel like I should have to change solely because I want a guy to like me or I want to have more friends. When girls feel the need to start acting like something they aren’t, that’s when confusion hits. I remember wanting to fit in with different cliques, so I would change my hair, I would eat less. I would start to become interested in ideas that others favored. However, it didn’t make me happy. The same goes for dating, Lets be honest I’ve dated some real winners, but you know what I have learned so much from those relationships. For one, I found out exactly the type of guy I do not need in my life. Secondly, I figured out any guy that wants to occupy my every waking hour/second is not the one for me. I need time to myself. I don’t need feel like someone is watching over my every move. I know how to basically survive at this point. I don’t want someone who blows up my phone with text messages at 3 a.m. just to make sure that I am not out somewhere. (Like dude, no I like my sleep and I need it to function.) Thirdly, I don’t need a guy who texts my friends constantly asking what I am up too. That’s weird, and they find you creepy. I am my own person. I am mine. Until, the day I get married I will always be mine. (Unless the crazy dog lady plan really does work out) Girls, if you are in a relationship where you feel like you cant even order a soda at a restaurant without a guy going, “ Are you sure you should drink that? Its pretty high in calories.” You shoot that boy a carrot stick, and you move on with your life. One last thing, be patient. It will be tough. Nothing ever good comes easy. Have faith in God, your parents, and yourself. No matter how many times you think your parents are wrong, chances are they are probably right. They have lived their life full of mistakes, breakdowns, and they have learned life lessons. When they give you advice, it’s probably because they have been there and they don’t want to see you make the same mistakes. Pray about everything and I mean everything. Any little thing that troubles you.. Pray about it. God will give you an answer, sometimes it might not be the answer we are looking for, but that’s because he has something better in store for you.