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Break Ups are Happening

Updated on November 20, 2012

All dreams over the years suddenly cracked like pieces of glass and every thing seems normal except something deep in the soul. This age of ‘big dreams’ has invented another word ‘ break up’. Today relationships are fully packed with breakup and Ex’s. Committed relations are there but materialistic and practical aspects are becoming more powerful.

People feel easier in shifting relation than shifting train. Ohh…I remember someone's words, ‘ Now train has left the station.

Why breakups happen?

In old fairy tales, movies, and novels or in real life, we have seen ‘two hearts in relation’ and suddenly some outsider appear and story gets a twist. Many ups and down they face and finally all is ended either happily or with some tragic end. Outsiders are as important in Love tales as real heroes because they make tale really sensible.

In contradiction of my above lines, I am going to add that Outsiders are not that important if ‘two hearts in relation’ are completely committed to each other. No body can be ‘big outsider’ if you are not ready to welcome them. Every relationship has its own share of fights, arguments and misunderstandings but if we are attached somewhere inside, nothing can effect relationship. On the other side if our inner bond is loosing grip, we start creating arguments, making fake reasons and tend to move from relationship.

A breakup is hard to bear but moving on is worse especially if you are still in love with you ex. Few days back, my one close friend shared his heart. His voice was really bold n confident but eyes explained another tale. He is broken inside. How can you see person with some one else, whom you have seen in your dreams?

One things that I want to put here is that sometime 'people in relation' themselves are responsible for breakups. No body from outside does anything but their own perceptions become ‘big hindrance’ in relations.

They start doubting their partner and kill their own relation. Few expressions we often listen. I remember few.

  • You are not caring, he/ she is more caring
  • Why you are doing it for them not me?
  • You are meant for me only
  • You have people around you, so you will be fine
  • Delete me from Facebook account

Here I will say that there are endless excuses if you have decided to move but relations are really hard to through in fire of breakups


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      Jaspal Singh 5 years ago from India / Australia

      Dear Houa Lor. Thanks for adding your valuable comments.

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      Houa Lor 5 years ago from Minnesota

      I so agree with you. I feel that if two people who are truly in love would never let someone, like an outsider, come between their relationship. All that said, in stories and novels, why it happens, it's because readers expect something like that to happen. In real life, though, the situation and ending are so different. Break ups don't heal in two weeks and they hurt a lot. Thanks for a great article.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      I have always believed in a philosophy of mine " Once a third person or a mediator gets in between the two.. the relation will end.. now or later" and believe it or not... i have seen this come true.. for me once and for many of my friends

      You are right.. the world today is more material and establishing a true connection from heart to heart seems unattainable 'cause such hearts are difficult to find!

      Great write

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      Jaspal Singh 5 years ago from India / Australia

      Michememe. I agree when you say that all breakups are not bad, particularly when you feel that relations is loosing its charm but before deciding to move, one must try to understand right situation. Some time small misunderstandings, confusions, arguments make relations uncomfortable and most of the time such situations need only extra care to make relation confortable. Breakups should not be termed as way to new adventure. Thanks for you valuable comments.

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      Miche Wro 5 years ago

      For seven years I avoided relationships like a plague. Your hub says why "Breakups" it is hard to give your heart and love, only for it to end up as memory. However, I met someone fell in love and guess what we broke up. He wasn't ready for a relationship, neither was I, but I loved him anyway. What I learned in this past relationship was to love again. So I focus more on the lessons learned than the hurt than came from it.