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Break Ups are Happening
All dreams over the years suddenly cracked like pieces of glass and every thing seems normal except something deep in the soul. This age of ‘big dreams’ has invented another word ‘ break up’. Today relationships are fully packed with breakup and Ex’s. Committed relations are there but materialistic and practical aspects are becoming more powerful.
People feel easier in shifting relation than shifting train. Ohh…I remember someone's words, ‘ Now train has left the station.
Why breakups happen?
In old fairy tales, movies, and novels or in real life, we have seen ‘two hearts in relation’ and suddenly some outsider appear and story gets a twist. Many ups and down they face and finally all is ended either happily or with some tragic end. Outsiders are as important in Love tales as real heroes because they make tale really sensible.
In contradiction of my above lines, I am going to add that Outsiders are not that important if ‘two hearts in relation’ are completely committed to each other. No body can be ‘big outsider’ if you are not ready to welcome them. Every relationship has its own share of fights, arguments and misunderstandings but if we are attached somewhere inside, nothing can effect relationship. On the other side if our inner bond is loosing grip, we start creating arguments, making fake reasons and tend to move from relationship.
A breakup is hard to bear but moving on is worse especially if you are still in love with you ex. Few days back, my one close friend shared his heart. His voice was really bold n confident but eyes explained another tale. He is broken inside. How can you see person with some one else, whom you have seen in your dreams?
One things that I want to put here is that sometime 'people in relation' themselves are responsible for breakups. No body from outside does anything but their own perceptions become ‘big hindrance’ in relations.
They start doubting their partner and kill their own relation. Few expressions we often listen. I remember few.
- You are not caring, he/ she is more caring
- Why you are doing it for them not me?
- You are meant for me only
- You have people around you, so you will be fine
- Delete me from Facebook account
Here I will say that there are endless excuses if you have decided to move but relations are really hard to through in fire of breakups