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Breaking off an Engagement, who gets the ring?
Breaking off an engagement
Relationships come and go some are special and loving and others are fueled by lust, they are fantastic while they last and when you are in a loving relationship nothing else matters, the world could stop spinning you wouldn't notice because you are in love and everything is great in the world.
Imagine your surprise when he suddenly gets down on one knee and asks you to be his life partner as he hands you a small box containing the most beautiful ring that you have ever seen in your life, you say yes and for that split second in time you are the happiest girl on the planet and nothing will ever spoil the memory of this moment.
Three months later things have changed, you no longer feel the same way about each other and you are both unhappy together, you decide to call off the engagement and go your separate ways, so what do you do with that beautiful ring that you love so much?
Do you give it back or do you keep it?
Who gets the ring?
The relationship is over, broken beyond repair and there is no way on this earth that you two will ever get back together even if you were the last two people on earth you would live on different continents.
So who gets the ring?
There are many schools of thoughts on this debate, He gets the ring because he paid for it, she gets the ring because it was a gift to her from him. no matter what at the end of the day someone will stake a claim for the ring and the argument will go on long into the night.
Breaking up is difficult on both partners and deciding who gets to keep the ring is a decision that should be made when both parties have calmed down, maybe after a week or two when you both have a clear head you could both sit down and discuss it calmly.
Yes it was a gift from him to you but it was to signify his intention to be his wife. He now no longer has the intention of making you his wife but why should you give him back the ring.
He gave the ring to you because he wanted you to have it just like every other gift he has given you in the past, does that mean that he wants the Christmas and Birthday presents back that he gave to you in the course of the relationship?
Before any decision is made there are many factors that should be taken into consideration concerning who gets the ring.
Male Hearts Break too!
When he Should Get The Ring
Most people think that after an engagement breaks up that the ring automatically stays with the woman, simply because it was a gift from him to her, it is true that most of the time she will get to retain the ring but there are times when she will feel obligated to give the ring back to him.
The three main reasons for her handing the ring back to him are:
She breaks off the engagement.
She has been found out to be cheating on him.
The ring was a family heirloom handed down from generation to generation.
Another reason a woman would give the ring back to him would be quite simply as a way to sever any remaining ties between them or she throws it back at him in the heat of an argument.
He Broke her Heart
When She Should Get The Ring
The Ring was a gift from him to her so in reality it is at her discretion what happens to the ring after breaking up.
Apart from the reasons above the ring is hers to do with what she wishes especially if he cheated on her, broke up with her or even if the break up was amicable the ring is hers the contract is annulled and void and her reward for putting up with him for so long is the ring.
So What Does She Do With The Ring?
Incredibly only 5% of women keep the ring and with 4% of those 5% the ring is stuck in a drawer as a keepsake never to see the light of day again the other 1% wear the ring on the other hand.
20% of Engagement rings from failed relationships end up in water, either thrown into a river or thrown into a lake or even into the sea.
50% of the rings are sold on to a Pawn shop or a scrap gold website.
15% of the rings are given to friends and the remaining 10% are lost or the owner can't remember what they have done with it.
Who Got The Ring?
Have you encountered a broken engagement if so who got the ring
It is always sad when a loving relationship breaks down, but it is better to find out that it is over before you go the full hog into marriage, If you cant get on together as an engaged couple then the chances of a successful marriage is very very slim.
It may sound difficult at first but you will get over it and your life will go on for the better and one day you will find the right person for you.