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Building Your Self-Confidence With Diet, Hygiene, and Clothes to Get a Girlfriend

Updated on May 23, 2019


There are a lot of ways to go about “getting a girlfriend” these days. There’s advice for how to go out and meet people, online dating, and all sorts of strategies proposed for how to interact; however, very often the advice fails to take account for the weakest link in the plan, your own self-confidence. Working on your own self-confidence is not only an important step if your end goal is a relationship, but it also helps to create a better and more fulfilling life. Self-improvement is far more likely to result in achieving your aims than any strategy that involves trying to fake your way through a social interaction. Now, assuming you’ve already taken some steps towards adding a little bit more physical activity into your life, some other steps you can take involve improving your diet, hygiene, and clothes.

Diet: Eat Healthier While Still Keeping It Simple

Exercise alone can’t make up for having a terrible diet. Eating poorly can even lead to lower energy levels making it even harder for you to get up the will to exercise. Having to ascribe to a diet, count calories, or trying to micromanage a diet can be tiresome and also likely to fail. The real goal is to make subtle changes to your diet that are easier to keep that doesn’t have you acting like an ascetic monk in the face of a piece of cheesecake.

Sugary drinks are one of the biggest contributors to empty calories in our diets. One easy way to cut down is to simply refuse to have these in the house. Not having them readily at hand, and not grabbing them out of the vending machine at work and school, is a great way to start cutting down to only the occasional drink. The added benefit in cutting sugar is that sugar is not great for our skin. If you still want that precious caffeine, coffee and tea are far healthier alternatives. Energy drinks, however, just say no.

Drinks alone are not enough. It’s understandable that you wouldn’t want to spend a lot of time cooking food, particularly when recipes are designed for multiple people. With a few kitchen instruments, you can start to incorporate some simpler and healthier meals into your diet. One of the nicer things these days is that the frozen food aisle has added a number of healthier steamer bag options for relatively cheap. A blender can be used to make a number of smoothies that can easily be made with some milk, ice cubes, and frozen fruit. Get yourself an apple peeler and a toaster oven, arrange the apple slices on some bread, add some cheese, then toast it for a nice hot apple sandwich. Then there’s a host of soups you can make from canned ingredients. The important thing is to find healthy recipes that you can put together in 5-10 minutes. Or, for slightly longer recipes that you can throw into Tupperware and make a number of meals from. Make the effort to find healthier alternatives to quick microwave meals.

Do Not Do The Dew
Do Not Do The Dew

Hygiene: Don't Overlook the Simple Stuff

Ideally, this shouldn’t be a section that you need; however, having gone to college, it does need to be pointed out for some people. First, shower regularly. Brush your teeth. Wear deodorant. You know, the basics. Shaving is another great skill to focus on. Unkempt facial hair, neck beards, and patchy stubble aren’t great confidence boosters. You can pick up beard trimmers on the cheap these days, and if you’re not comfortable with a razor, electric ones are reasonably priced. Once you’ve sorted out your face, the next step is finding a hair style that you feel good with, and doesn’t take an inordinate amount of effort to style (i.e. more than you’re willing to do). You might take the time to scroll through a google image search for men’s hairstyles. Another good option is to put your hair in the hands of a professional, who will likely have at least some idea of what might look good on you. These hygiene tips might seem simple and obvious, but they’re often overlooked. A regular hygiene routine, while subtle, will help you to develop a positive self-image.

Clothes: Finding What Fits

There are some elements of lifestyle choices that can have quite an impact on your own self-image. Choosing better clothes is a really good way to start liking what you see in the mirror. Hopefully, somewhere along the way, somebody let you in on the secret that a t-shirt and cargo shorts is a disaster. While the summer months don’t offer a lot of great choices, plain t-shirts are great and often fit better than brand shirts you might have acquired. There’s also collared shirts and button downs. The colder months offer a multitude of long sleeve options including dress shirts and sweaters. Combine these with some decently fitting jeans, a belt, and brown or black shoes and you’ve got a simply yet easy outfit. Just avoid excessively baggy items.

Also, if you’re like me, and feel like you look terrible in glasses, Wal Mart Vision Centers, and possibly other locations, offers reasonable prices on eye exams and contacts.

Is it possible to look good in these?
Is it possible to look good in these?

Conclusion: Incorporate It Into Your Daily Life

If your goal is getting a girlfriend, you can’t go wrong with first looking inward, taking steps to be happier with yourself, and building up the confidence that will help you go out and interact with other people. The problem is when the steps themselves are an overwhelming set of steps. Rather, I suggest working to incorporate these steps as part of your daily routine, which is why I favor simple steps you can add and take, which may even save you time as well.


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