Building intimacy with your spouse

Intimacy is having a close familiarity/friendship with your partner. It also denotes mutual vulnerability, openness and sharing.

Most times people confuse intimacy with sex, but that's not really what it is because two people can be having sex without being intimate. Building intimacy in your relationship is very important.

When you are intimate with your partner, you are mentally, emotionally and physically close to him/her. You also tend to know him/her.

For your relationship to truly succeed, you need to stay connected and build intimacy with your partner. The deeper the intimacy, the more you will have the experience of total connection.

Here are tips on how to connect more with your partner and build long-lasting intimacy:

1. Open up.

Feel free to show your partner everything he/she needs to know about you. Always try as much as you can to be plain. Your partner also needs to know who you really are so they can fully accept you and love you for who you are. It is not advisable to build your relationship on the foundation of lies and deceit because it will eventually collapse.

For your partner to really know and accept you, you need to be honest and also allow yourself to be vulnerable. The more you open up, the more easier it is for your partner to know you better and open up as well.

2. Often make physical contact.

Hugs, kisses, and especially backrubs are all crucial points of physical contact. Holding hands is so important. One of the greatest killers of intimacy is a partner who would rather hold the tv remote than their partner's hand.

Sometimes you can hold your partner's hand while taking a walk together. It helps you feel more connected to them.

3. Encourage your partner.

Sometimes we do forget the weight our partner carry and how they struggle daily. You need to always encourage them with your words and actions, this will help them bear the weight easily. Be there for them during the good and the bad times. It helps build your intimacy.

4. Always appreciate and compliment your partner.

No matter how long you've been together with your partner, don't take them for granted. Always appreciate their efforts and also compliment them. Acknowledge when your partner tries something new. If there's any qualities you admire in your partner, always talk about it and praise them. Never forget to always express how much you love and cherish your partner.

5. Always be emotionally available.

You need to be more emotionally available if you want to be more intimate with your partner.don't be too occupied with activities that you end up forgetting your partner's need.

6. Try something new together.

You can make out time to spend with your partner and try something new together. It can be helping your partner for a project or maybe assisting with a chore you usually avoid.