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Can I please get me some BrotherHusbands?!

Updated on March 8, 2011

Gosh.. TLC's new series 'sisterwives' has me slightly confused. Obviously there is jealousy between all of the 'wives' now that their 'husband' is hooking up with his 4th 'wife'. I just don't know how they do it.

Now I'm all for not conforming to society. I like to live free and to build my own world around me the way that makes me happy and the way I'd like to live. And heck I let other people live the way they want as well! This show on TLC isn't all that bad, it's hard to watch especially when the 'husband' doesn't say anything when one of his 'wives' is jealous or upset because he is not spending enough time with them.. I can guess it's wonderful and awful at the same time for them. Neither of the women are going to get all of his attention and they always know he is sharing.. I'm sure all the help with the children and housework is great though! Having 3 or 4 women in the house. But..hmm I just don't get it..

While I was watching one of the episodes last night one of the women said to the husband 'how would you feel if I were to get another husband and stop paying as much attention to you?' and he did NOT like that!

But in the back of my mind I'm thinking - well it's only fair no? :p

Why is the man allowed to have all these wives, but the women are not allowed to have more husbands.

I've never been a sharer myself, so I would not be able to live this way. But the husband must feel at the top of the world with himself. Look at all the women he has ALL to himself. I can only assume he must feel powerful, and 'special'.

But do the women feel special? I don't think I would..

In my mind, they're almost slaves. They are to honor him and only him, no matter how many wives he takes on. I wonder if they have been brainwashed into thinking this is right. I really don't know, it's just hard to understand.

Obviously, for the most of us, we've been raised to be a 'certain way', so we live that way and it feels right to us. And I'm sure in most cases this way of life feels right to them too. So I will not disapprove of them, I just can't see myself being in that situation, and I only hope that they ARE truly happy and loved.

The video above is a whole other side to polygamyand I really do not see this on TLC's sisterwives, which is good because this video truly disturbs me.. I am almost at a loss for words. These women all talk the same, very high pitched quiet voices, very slow, it's almost as if they were drugged. But I'm going to assume that this is just the way they were brought up and the only way they know, THIS is normal for THEM. Which in turn, makes me sad. I think when it comes to the point where one man has 50 wives, there is a problem..

On TLC's sisterwives, at least the husband does give them love and respect and seems to treat them well. Everyone seems happy for the most part, content with the way they've chosen to live. The women above just seem 'wrong.

So when are women going to stand up and get brotherhusbands anyway..that's all I want to know :p If the men can do this, can't women too?



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    • bugslady8949 profile image

      bugslady8949 7 years ago from The Bahamas

      this is a very interesting hub. I do not like to share and when it comes to my husband if i ever do get married. this life would not suit me. they should have brother husbands sharing one woman. I think that would be interesting.

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      Jenna 7 years ago from Halifax, NS

      i think as long as everyone is really happy, not fake happy, it's ok lol. it's like night 'n day between these two videos here isn't it. it's easy to spot the unfortunate....

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      Sunny Robinson 7 years ago from Tennessee

      Upon actually watching the first video this time around, I can see how the family is actually interested in each other and formed an unity with each other. I think that's all that really matters.

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      Sunny Robinson 7 years ago from Tennessee

      This is an interesting hub. I've never watched Sisterwives.

      I think it depends on the polygamists involved. Maybe four was too much for them. But for the most part, I find that there are many polyamorists who would love to have polygamy legal. Those polyamorists have variety of configurations. Several men, one woman - several men, several women - etc.

      I do believe if the wives were wanting another man in the mix, it should be okay. Jealousy is always going to be an issue for anyone in any type of relationship or marriages, it needs to be discovered what the root of it really is.

      Marriage should never be one of power, unless the power is shared, agreed on, and consensual.

      Again, interesting hub! I'll definitely have to sit down and watch Sisterwives sometime.