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Can Long Distance Relationships Really Work?
I have been in a number of long distance relationships. From those experiences I can say that in the end they don't really work out. That doesn't mean that you should not go into a long distance relationship. You just have to keep in mind that by getting involved in a long distance relationship you are only setting yourself up for heartbreak. So, before you get involved in one ask yourself if you are willing to risk ending up with a broken heart because in most cases that is how it is going to end.
Long distance relationships are the hardest because you cannot see each other or spend time with each other on a regular basis. And there is always the risk that one of you will meet someone or be introduced to someone close by and will end up falling in love with that person, in turn leaving the other person in your long distance relationship heartbroken and alone.
In the end, the only way a long distance relationship can last, thrive and actually become meaningful is if one of you leaves your hometown behind and moves to the hometown of the other person. Another option would be for both of you to leave your hometowns and move somewhere entirely different, but that is not the best choice of action.
Without one of you moving to where the other lives the relationship will be filled with lots of negative things like stress, loneliness and sorrow, tears, and potential heartbreak, which may scar you or the other person for life.
Of course even long distance relationships have happy and exciting moments that a person will remember and treasure for a lifetime. And regardless of the outcome in the end there is plenty to write about, think about and digest.
So, are long distance relationships better than not being in a relationship at all? Being in a long distance relationship does bring you moments of happiness, excitement, and adventure, at least in the beginning, but most likely it will not work out, leaving you with a desire to not get involved with anyone ever again for fear that it will only end in a bad way. So, perhaps it is not a good idea to get involved in a long distance relationship. At the very least you shouldn't get your hopes up and not get in too deep, as the heartbreak, pain and disappointment will be even worse than it can be.