Can a Relationship Survive the Distance?
Are long distant relationships possible? For some couples it seems to work for them or safe to say they make it work for them. However is it worth it? Do you find yourself sacrificing things, people, and your time to be with someone who is physically not with you?
When it comes to people in the armed forces they make that choice to defend our country and leave their loved ones at home waiting for their return. Those families will always be praying for the safe return of their loved one. It’s with great respect that can support their spouse’s choice to live this way. Unfortunately many times they are hit with the sad news their loved one did not make it. Their lives have been shattered by a tragedy that happened to them thousands of miles away.
There is a complete difference in being in a relationship with someone who lives a few hours away. A huge issue when they are separated by a border and oceans apart. How do you manage better yet can you?
Today’s society has so many young couples ready to fly across a few states to try and start a life together as a couple. Let’s face it Skype, Snapchat & Facetime aren’t enough. Every human being in the world craves the touch/ affection of another human being not via an app. Seriously, how long can this type of relationship last; be realistic at one point in time one will crave the real thing.
When you’re a young couple that has been traveling back and forth between states for so long; shouldn’t this be a sign it isn’t going anywhere? Life and times right now are hard as it is to keep up with the “It’s your weekend to come over or I can’t do this anymore”. If this has been on ongoing issue for whatever reasons the answer is “It’s not going to work.” Start cutting your losses and begin a new chapter in life. Love is stronger than anything and this is the only thing keeping you going. They are the words that you love to hear from that person. However when that person no longer wants to compromise visiting, keeps making excuses or begins to beg you to drop your life and move into theirs; is the time when you really have to ask yourself if this is what you want. Or are they the person you want.
Long distance relationships can either make you or break you. It’s up to you to decide. Is the love you feel for that person strong enough for you to let go of the life you’re currently living? In many cases some are willing to give it a try and it works out well for them. Then there are others who don’t even make it past 3 months.
Allow me to put it this way. If you love someone deeply and they want you in their life; do it. Life is about taking chances. Life is too short to let it pass you by. You can spend half your life waiting for the right person and if at a certain you haven’t found him right in front of you. All the while someone a few hours away is waiting for you. Explain to me what you’re waiting for? Oh yes the never ending “they need to put a ring on it.” It’s a cliché.
In today’s world waiting for the ring may not happen when you want it too. Ask yourself this wouldn’t you rather test the waters before going into deep; such as marriage? So many young couples today rush into marriage after months or a year or two into marriage only to divorce few months or a year later.
At the end of the day it is your choice to make and only your choice. Do not ever let anyone influence your decision. Always follow your gut instinct because sometimes following your heart can break it..
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2020 Lynn Rocha