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Can you Destroy your Marriage with Love?

Updated on April 30, 2017
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Can Love Destroy a Marriage?

Can love destroy your relationship in a marriage?

People have their ideas of love, such as love is the cause of stress, in their lives.

The naive individual has the idea that love can destroy them.

Is Love overrated?

Yes, love is overrated.

Sometimes the loser you meet encourages the negative thought of love in your mind.

The painful moments you experience from a cheater, or a liar allows for such conversations.

The level of hurt you get from a negative relationship can make you view love as a destroyer in your relationship.

Love is what you need to commit to another person.

If you allow love to destroy your then it will take over your life.

First loves destroy your thought of love in a second marriage.

Couples fall out of love in making their own mistakes.

How often have you heard, ''I love you,'' but, ''not in love with you.’’?

The first date forwarded you in a relationship and much later into a marriage.

Years later you realize no time for each other, and your once happy lives together falls apart.

How do you figure that happened to you and your marriage?

Why does this happen?

A couple who fails to understand the meaning in an infatuated relationship and a love relationship sees a downhill marriage.

To grow in love is not part of their understanding.

The partner who wants to be right and searches for the wrong in a partner is destroying their marriage.

Focus on fixing the issue than seeking out the right and wrong in the problem.

Couples in such cases don't see the love they have for each other, instead focus more on the problematic issues.

Love lasts when couples make the effort for each other.

You can destroy your marriage when you hold resentment and anger toward your partner.

The blame toward your partner for past issues affects the marriage in the present moments.

Couples grow and change all the time.

The different reasons for letting go of each other are understandable.

You feel disconnected for some reasons which your partner does not see as you do.

It is tempting to not be the same as you felt in the past.

Both partners need the attention and got to make the marriage work together.

What is in a Marriage?

The moments spent with your partner are crucial and special.

The changes made from dating to actually living together can be scary.

You must realize when you live together as a couple the changes gradually take over your daily routine.

The daily routine sets in and you expect to see the dating moments in a live in arrangement.

Marriage changes everything in a relationship.

Love changes your life forever.

What goes through your mind?

The time spent together is different and you become alone and worried.

You feel your partner does not care for you anymore.

Everything is new and exciting at first in a relationship.

It depends on how you choose to act toward these experiences.

The moment you look at your life in a negative way, everything around you becomes just that.

You feel lonely and you want out of that marriage.

Your partner neglects you and seeks attention with someone else.

Marriage has its ups and downs, and sometimes loves just aren’t enough.

You can pick anyone you want in your life.

The charm of that person hooks you and that changes you forever.

You need to be in a healthy relationship with someone who is understanding, and not too charming.

Hate.

Money is a problem issue in most marriages.

Intimacy is another problem that many partners fail to chat about.

Resentment destroys any marriage.

Anger shows hate in a marriage.

Addictions are one of the causes of a failed marriage.

Negative points cause partners to lose respect for one another.

Depression sets in when partners stop communication.

Stress is a silent killer in any relationship.

Weakness in a person makes a marriage fall apart.

Criticism allows for partners to stay apart.

Nagging makes a marriage unhappy.

Downer being the negative partner in a marriage allows for a not so good marriage.

Appreciation, partners tend to lose this part in a marriage.

Listening is a lack of skill that allows for a non-communicative marriage.

Understanding,

Neglect, partners sometimes feel left out in their relationship.

Losers are those who don’t see their partners as worth it.

Abusive Behavior

Charming Behavior

Happiness.

Sadness.

Tired moments.

Not relaxed or comfortable with your partner.

Blame.

Less romantic.

One-sided marriages.

Arguments

Yelling.

Constant fights.

Honesty.

Liars.

Cheaters.

The reality of love and marriage does not kick in until the honey moon phase has disappeared.

You destroy your marriage with the main focus of love.

The problem lies with you and you destroy a good marriage with love.

Can marriage destroy love?

You think you know what love is and that is how you destroy your marriage.

The dream of loving your partner is one part of your life, the other is marriage.

You meet people and assume you have love right away.

Love is about moving in the same footsteps as the other person as in dancing.

Health

Harmony

Love is when your partner gives into you no matter what prevails.

You give love before asking for love.

Share the moment and give love to your partner.

A marriage should happen right after the honeymoon phase.

Don't delay the needs of a marriage.

The sooner you get into the marriage life of events the better for you and your partner.

You shouldn't start before the honeymoon phase.

Start while the goings is good.

Most marriages end as soon as the honeymoon phase ends.

The honeymoon phase is a good time to share those romantic moods.

People shouldn't marry so easily.

Do you think one can marry their partner on the basis of their how they look, and what features they have?

A barrier should be created to allow couples to marry after a two year stay together.

In those two years you will know if you want to marry your partner for their looks, or for their features.

Be mature before you say ''I do.''

Marriage is a commitment and you should think carefully before you rush into blurting out those final faithful words.

Most marriages end because faster than it started for many couples.

Why does this happen?

Couples who marry in a romantic mood don't think of the reality of their marriage life.

People think it is time to marry just after a special moment experienced.

The thought of marriage is not for poets, so being romantic and to marry in that mood well, that marriage won't last for you.

Poets write romantic words to charm partners and readers.

These words are meaningful when writing poetry and lives for romantic moments.

Marry your lifelong partner when you are in your own normal mood. Think with a prose mood.

You need to understand what you are doing to yourself and to the other person.

Life is no bed of roses and still most couples don't see that part of their marriage when they say ‘I do,'' in a romantic mood.

Life is tough you shouldn't ignore reality.

A fact of life that you should not avoid at anytime in your life.

A marriage can't destroy love. The love you have for your partner is realistic.

The romance you shared at one time is destroyed in a marriage.

The puppy love you often hear of is killed in a marriage.

Don't pour your heart out to romantic love that is where you go wrong in marriage.

Don't think of romantic love as nourishment to your relationship in a marriage.

Live in a marriage with the thought of reality. Don't depend on romantic love that would hurt you.

The marriage is not destructive.

Marriage brings out what you have hidden inside of you.

If you thought you couldn't love someone marriage brings that out in you.

Love, if used as a bait in a marriage won't last long, a love that would disappear.

You have an opportunity to marry and accept each other for what you really are.

Love is in a marriage but can be easily destroyed by you.

This happens to two people who don't how to love each other in a marriage.

In a marriage you grow with love and each other.

To love someone you need to focus on yourself and the other person from within.

If you make your focus on intimate feelings of love, you are right away misunderstood on the meaning of love in a marriage.

Love can't be destroyed by anything small.

Something triggers your brain to love that person and that love is for eternity.

Love is real when you are in the presence of the other person, and the greatness of happiness.

The moments together show your love for one another.

What is love in a marriage?

I know from my personal experiences that love is a deep understanding of me and my partner.

Love is not possessiveness it gave me freedom to be myself..

The other person is with you to make the moment special and happy is real love.

Two people who are in love grow in love more each day.

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      Eric Dierker 17 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well that certainly is a novel way to look at it. Much food for thought here.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Ericdierker, Thank you very much for sharing your view here. A long hub to read but I think it is an informative one.

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      Bill Holland 17 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Excellent reflections here. I do think one can strangle to death a relationship with misplaced love, or controlling love, or possessive love....and you mentioned all that here.

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      Linda Crampton 17 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You've included lots of interesting ideas about love in this hub, Devika. They are thought provoking, as always.

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      Madan 17 months ago from Abu Dhabi

      Very intrresting post with new ideas, but perhaps could be possible.

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      Michael-Milec 17 months ago

      Devika, Your is great observation of modern "love" with countless faces. Too much talk and words of pretentious feelings wrapped in one word of "love", surely can and is destroying marriages / relationships. An unknown enigma to this couple. We will be celebrating sixtieth 'christmas' knowing each other - and just about that time we have learned and accepted sole meaning of love we live :' Love is patient, love is kind; does not envy, does not boast; is not proud, is not rude, is not self seeking, is not easily angered ... Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres... By this kind of love no marriage can be destroyed.

      Because LOVE never fails.

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      Dave 17 months ago from Lancashire north west England

      Devika, this is a very informative hub, written in your unique style. There is a lot in this piece for people to give serious consideration too. As always every aspect of your subject is covered in detail.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc Thank you very much for sharing your opinion. I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC Thank you for supporting me always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      emge thank you kindly for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Michael-Milec, ''Love does not boast.'' So true about that. I know of someone who shows off her love and that is not love. Thank you for sharing your views here. It is of great importance to me to have such feedback.All my best to you.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. Thank you once again for a valuable comment. I appreciate your time taken to stop by.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 17 months ago from The Caribbean

      Devika, you handled your unique title very well. There is love and the various thoughts of love. Real love is not destructive. Good discussion.

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      Surabhi Kaura 17 months ago

      Thank you for sharing this hub, Devika. Very well articulated! It was worth a read. God bless :)

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      sujaya venkatesh 17 months ago

      a need of the hour hub

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MsDora thank you for another helpful comment. A Merry Christmas to you and a Prosperous 2016.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Surabhi Kaura Thank you kindly for stopping by. All my best to you.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you sujaya venkatesh I appreciate you stopping by.

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      FlourishAnyway 17 months ago from USA

      A unique take on love and marriage

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 17 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I don't think you can love too much, but a clinging vine can be too much. Interesting topic.

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi FlourishAnyway thank you very much for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      always exploring thank you for stopping by

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      Word 17 months ago from Chicago

      Hey Devika, I like this. Of course, love cannot destroy my marriage. This was a very good read. Happy Holidays!

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      word55 Thank you and Happy Holidays to you too.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 17 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Very nice and interesting observations. I was curious to read your title but you justified it by your unique style of writing. You made some thought provoking points. An interesting read indeed.

      Thank you for sharing!

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      Devika Primić 17 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi ChitrangadaSharan thank you very much for a lovely comment. I appreciate you stopping by. A Happy New Year to you.

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      Deborah Demander 16 months ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

      Interesting article.

      Thanks for writing.

      Namaste

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      Devika Primić 16 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you Deborah Demander for stopping by I appreciate you comments.

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