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Cheating And Infidelity-Who Has The Right?
Who gives anyone the right when it comes to cheating and infidelity? Is there ever a legit reason or an excuse? Can someone ever be forgiven for going down the road of temptation that should never be visited?
Does anyone ever have the right to be a cheater when it comes to relationships? The questions are endless and really I know many are going to say this is an opinionated question and answer and maybe it is. However if that's the case then I would like to offer my opinion.
The difference we need to understand is rights versus mistakes. In my opinion absolutely no one has the right to screw around on their significant other. However people do make mistakes and that's where decisions need to be made.
So now we are going to have a band full of people running around, screwing around and saying it is a mistake. Well I'm sorry to say crap just doesn't work that way.
At some point common sense has to come into play. One other thing I do want to say before I go on with this hub is the entire time I have been with the girl of my dreams I have never even thought of screwing around. Just so you know this isn't a hub trying to justify something I may have done in the past.
Cheating And Infidelity-Do You Have The Right?
When it comes to cheating and infidelity I don't care what the circumstances are. No one ever has the right to cheat on their significant other.
Many people will make all kinds of excuses but at the end of the day if you think you have the right you are wrong. Bottom line is if things are so bad that you need to cheat you should have ended things first.
I know people can end up in very bad relationships and end up cheating out of spite. My honest opinion on that is it shouldn't happen.
Play your games, fool with the mind and have all the fun you want. At the end of the day cheating and infidelity is not a step you want to be involved with.
Think about it not as the doer but as the person being cheated on. You know that know matter how bad things are it will be devastating to be cheated on. You will be out for someones blood.
The best thing to do is either make your relationship work or get out of it before anyone gets hurt any worse than they already are.
Cheating And Infidelity-Mistakes
So is there such a thing as a mistake when it comes to cheating and infidelity and can these mistakes be forgiven.
Again this hub is my opinion so some may agree and others may disagree and I am okay with either one. I think it is absolutely for mistakes to happen. I am not saying mistakes are okay but it really is important as to how these mistakes are dealt with.
As long as we know the difference between a mistake and ignorance. I dont condone someone screwing around once a month and calling it a mistake.
I will use an example of a friend of mine. He was working two jobs when the couple were younger. He was just trying to make ends meet. Well in his trip to keep money in the bank account he neglected his wifes needs. She was left alone every night with the kids while he went to work on his second job of the day.
Eventually she had a mild affair with one of his friends. She did it because she was young and lonely. She did however feel like crap after it happened and couldnt keep it a secret from her hubby. She knew she had made a mistake and was willing to take what she had coming at her.
Well the young couple talked things out and decided to not let a mistake wreck their marriage. it opened their eyes to a lot and twenty some years later they are still together and more in love every day.
This is a story that could have gone terribly bad but as a couple they worked things out and in this case cheating and infidelity did not win.
Cheating And Infidelity-A Final Word
At the end of the day no one is a winner when it comes to cheating and infidelity.
Oh sure some people may get through it while others will never survive it. You as a person need to decide if life really is that bad. If it is cheating really isn't the answer.
Maybe you need to get out of the relationship or better yet see what a bout of counselling may do. People may be surprised how things can turn out if they are willing to put in a little effort in saving the relationship.
Bottom line cheating and infidelity just isn't worth it.