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Cheating On Your Partner

Updated on January 19, 2019
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' Femi is a writer and graphic designer. He obtained his B.Sc. (Ed) in Computer Science from Tai Solarin University of Education, Nigeria.


Spring is usually the time of love, but summer romances also open the door to summer infidelity. A long holiday away, and you don't know what's going to happen.

Typically, nothing but the draw of the long, hot summer nights, a little drinking and a sexy person next to you at the bonfires can cause trouble for the relationship that has already been troubled.

If you both agree to take your vacation separately and don't want to see other people out there, and then you meet someone else while you're out, the first thing you should do is think through. How long have you been and what are you losing from cheating? It's never a good idea to hurt someone else, especially if your partner was loyal and supportive through your relationship.

Sometimes, however, things happen. You don't want to break with your partner and you feel awful. You must tell the person with whom you cheated. This means you have to fall on your sword and admit that you made a mistake. This probably means that you will hurt the person with whom you had a business, but the sooner you become honest, the better. It is unfair to all concerned to say nothing and then go home, just dodge calls from them or avoid them.

Do you say that you cheated on your partner? It's a very private affair. The answer depends on how well you can sleep and live with yourself during the night. How bad is it going to hurt them, can they forgive you and move on, or would they tell them the end of the line? There's no easy reply. Telling your partner that you have cheated so that you feel better is low and shows just how selfish you are. It's also low not to tell them so you won't get into trouble. The question that you have to ask yourself is what motivates you to tell them?

If you are unhappy with your relationship, it is not necessary to cheat, just bite and break up. If you love your partner but think about cheating, your relationship is missing and you have to talk about it before you decide to cheat. Open communication from the start is the best thing you can do for everyone involved, because cheating hurts three people; you, your partner, and the poor hapless saw in the middle of it.

After an affair, wounds can be cured. Couples forgive and move on, the problem is they don't forget, and you may have been testing for years and proving your trustworthiness. The bottom line is that it seems to be worth nothing.

© 2019 Oluwafemi Okeowo


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