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Married Christians Can Enjoy Exotic Intimacies Too
I consider myself a Christian and would enjoy sex just like I used to when I get married. That is one aspect of my life that will not change. I wonder if some people are afraid to become Christians only because they don’t think they’ll enjoy a desirable sex life. Well, let me tell you, it has been said over and over that Christians and other churchgoers are the biggest sex freaks abroad.
Through Christian Love
Intimacy for a Christian can be as exotic as any kind with a marriage partner. If you want to have intercourse on the counter top in the kitchen then just keep it in there. It is the business of no one else. However, I don’t advocate watching pornography. That is no longer enjoyable to me (since my teens years)... Pastors, elders, deacons and other church officers are usually discreet about sex but there is now a need for the church to teach sex education and allow young adults especially in planned parenthood that any act of sex is important and accepted between two people who are married. It is also okay to know that married Christians are as creative in sexual act preferences between each other although it is done between single sex partners as well. By the way, let me say that I do not hereby, refer or relate to same sex partners.
While On The Subject Of Christian Morality
1 Corinthians 6:9 says,
Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men. Generally, the things that Christians do intimately, stay in the bedroom. God blesses us for that.
There is one thing for sure that would make having any kind of intimate relations bad for a Christian and that is promiscuity (having intimate relations with various persons) along with unprotected intercourse. There is an unknown body of people of all kinds with HIV, AIDS and other sexual transmitted diseases that must be dealt and lived with. Why take chances? It is best to be safer than sorrowful. A true Christian can live life to the fullest under the auspices that God made. A most blessed life is what God intended for every Christian if we just trust in Him and accept it.
The Power To Overcome Temptation
God has given everyone the power to overcome temptation especially once becoming a Christian. You can compromise with your mate to accommodate and communicate to help them understand that you need to have sex in a certain way sometimes. In marriage there is no rule or law against that.
Sometimes You Can Show Him How Too
Communicate What It Is That You Need
Communicate what it is that you need so that your mate will have the opportunity to keep you from being tempted to go elsewhere. Don't let it be said, "if you had told me that you wanted it like that then I would have accommodated you. I didn't know. You never told me." If there’s ever any dissatisfaction, the reason for much dissatisfaction may be due to lack of communication. For instance, your mate may consent to performing 1) oral sex and vise versa if you bathe or shower just before going to bed. 2) The female partner may consent more often to the male performing longer if he does more caressing, takes it slow and easy without plunging, thinking that he is making a greater impact (that is sort of selfish) unless she demands it that way (rough sex). Those are just two example situations. There are more. Christians or any other sect of people; communication, understanding, love and respect makes every kind of sexual encounter a fantastic one for both partners. So yes, God made us to enjoy sex in every aspect of it as long as it is under His institution of Holy Matrimony.
God Created Us To Use Our Tools
Yes, God created us to use our given by Him tools to please each other righteously and Him too. Anytime you are pleased by your righteous mate, God deserves the glory and praise from both sides of that pleasure. Who else could have created us to give and receive such great pleasure? There is nothing to know better than to know that you are enjoying any and all kinds of sexual pleasure within the Kingdom of God by being married.