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Married Christians Can Enjoy Exotic Intimacies Too

Updated on July 8, 2016

I consider myself a Christian and would enjoy sex just like I used to when I get married. That is one aspect of my life that will not change. I wonder if some people are afraid to become Christians only because they don’t think they’ll enjoy a desirable sex life. Well, let me tell you, it has been said over and over that Christians and other churchgoers are the biggest sex freaks abroad.

Through Christian Love


Intimate Inclinations

Intimacy for a Christian can be as exotic as any kind with a marriage partner. If you want to have intercourse on the counter top in the kitchen then just keep it in there. It is the business of no one else. However, I don’t advocate watching pornography. That is no longer enjoyable to me (since my teens years)... Pastors, elders, deacons and other church officers are usually discreet about sex but there is now a need for the church to teach sex education and allow young adults especially in planned parenthood that any act of sex is important and accepted between two people who are married. It is also okay to know that married Christians are as creative in sexual act preferences between each other although it is done between single sex partners as well. By the way, let me say that I do not hereby, refer or relate to same sex partners.

While On The Subject Of Christian Morality

1 Corinthians 6:9 says,

Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men. Generally, the things that Christians do intimately, stay in the bedroom. God blesses us for that.

Safe Sex

There is one thing for sure that would make having any kind of intimate relations bad for a Christian and that is promiscuity (having intimate relations with various persons) along with unprotected intercourse. There is an unknown body of people of all kinds with HIV, AIDS and other sexual transmitted diseases that must be dealt and lived with. Why take chances? It is best to be safer than sorrowful. A true Christian can live life to the fullest under the auspices that God made. A most blessed life is what God intended for every Christian if we just trust in Him and accept it.

The Power To Overcome Temptation

God has given everyone the power to overcome temptation especially once becoming a Christian. You can compromise with your mate to accommodate and communicate to help them understand that you need to have sex in a certain way sometimes. In marriage there is no rule or law against that.

Sometimes You Can Show Him How Too

Communicate What It Is That You Need

Communicate what it is that you need so that your mate will have the opportunity to keep you from being tempted to go elsewhere. Don't let it be said, "if you had told me that you wanted it like that then I would have accommodated you. I didn't know. You never told me." If there’s ever any dissatisfaction, the reason for much dissatisfaction may be due to lack of communication. For instance, your mate may consent to performing 1) oral sex and vise versa if you bathe or shower just before going to bed. 2) The female partner may consent more often to the male performing longer if he does more caressing, takes it slow and easy without plunging, thinking that he is making a greater impact (that is sort of selfish) unless she demands it that way (rough sex). Those are just two example situations. There are more. Christians or any other sect of people; communication, understanding, love and respect makes every kind of sexual encounter a fantastic one for both partners. So yes, God made us to enjoy sex in every aspect of it as long as it is under His institution of Holy Matrimony.

God Created Us To Use Our Tools

Yes, God created us to use our given by Him tools to please each other righteously and Him too. Anytime you are pleased by your righteous mate, God deserves the glory and praise from both sides of that pleasure. Who else could have created us to give and receive such great pleasure? There is nothing to know better than to know that you are enjoying any and all kinds of sexual pleasure within the Kingdom of God by being married.


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      Word 3 years ago from Chicago

      Yes, God made us to feel and enjoy sex as we should but not to enjoy it promiscuously. We are to cherish it with only one marriage partner at a time. Thank you for stopping by and keep coming more often. You'll enjoy this community. We have a nice click going on.

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      Michelle Ascani 3 years ago from Deep in the Heart of Texas

      We teach our children about sex as well (age appropriately). Maybe not quite this detailed yet. Oldest is 14. LOL. Sex was always such a hush, hush topic in my house growing up, so I got wrong information from those who were eager to tell me about it (other kids). Children need to have the proper understanding from the beginning! Its so intimate, special, and purposeful! God really knows what He is doing!

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      Word 3 years ago from Chicago

      Thanks for stopping by Rajan, You know what's happening. Thumbs up for that superb comment!

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      Disillusioned 3 years ago from Kerala, India

      You are right. You have clearly set the boundaries within which an enjoyable love life is possible for the married couple.

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      Word 3 years ago from Chicago

      Thanks Lady Guinevere for your adorable comment. At least Adam and Eve got us all started (LOL)

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      Debra Allen 3 years ago from West By God

      Oh Wow, I just loved this hub!!! I voted up and across the board! I wonder if Adam and Eve had SAFE sex since they did not have a lot of children? Hehehehe. Then again they were not "Christians".

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      Word 3 years ago from Chicago

      Hi Jan and thanks for stopping by. Your comment added greatly to the point of view. Thanks for the vote up too!

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      Janis Leslie Evans 3 years ago from Washington, DC

      I agree with DDE, interesting topic, word55. You are that sex should be enjoyable as a Christian. It is a gift and we should embrace it and not place negative connotations on it. I agree that there is a spiritual component to married sex that takes it to the next level. I admire the chances you took with this one by saying it like you mean it. Voted up and interesting.

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      Word 3 years ago from Chicago

      MsDora, your comments are genuine and happen to be right on target. I think that when people attempt to put Christians down then they short change themselves. They should want themselves to be better Christians. We live in a world of God in Christ. To enjoy life we all must surrender all to that -:)

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      Dora Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      I agree that good sex is for the Christian. I think especially for the Christian couple since it is holy and they are holy. Thanks for underscoring that it belongs in marriage.

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      Word 3 years ago from Chicago

      Hey Jodah, It took a lot for me to come out with it. I'm glad you think highly of it. I needed that kind of feed back. Thanks buddy!

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      Word 3 years ago from Chicago

      Hi DDE, Sleep in separate rooms huh? What is their problem? Love Overboard? Thanks for your gracious comment.

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      word55, well written hub on a subject most people won't discuss. Your hub explains the topic really well, and dspells the myth that Christians can't have a satisfying and erotic sex life. As you say whatever both partners in a marriage are comfortable wit s fine as long as they keep it between themselves. Also that people practice safe sex and are not morally promiscuous with lots of different partners etc.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Interesting Topic! I know of a Christian couple recently married about four months now and they sleep in separate rooms. It explains how much of a sex life they have and he does not like such talk.