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Couples Faking Happiness in a Marriage

Updated on April 3, 2018
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Love is rare when its true focus on the happiness and love you have for each other.

Fake Love and true Love

A marriage is commitment, whereby two people fall in love, and take a step to make a change in their lives freely.

The marriage becomes unhappy when these two people stop communication.

What are the signs of fake love and marriage?

Are you in a real marriage or just faking it?

You need attention in a marriage that's if you have a true marriage.

It is easy to manipulate your partner.

You pretend to love your partner by making the scenario look real when actually it is not.

Faking your laughter and emotions to make the other think you really love them is an act from someone with a poor character.

Some people just want something from that partner or is the codependent one.

If you want a real marriage, communication is key to that good and healthy relationship.

The moment you feel your partner is a stranger to you that shows bad communication.

Being disconnected from your partner physically and mentally doesn't show a real bond it shows separation from each other.

What is true love and fake love in your marriage?

The one who loves you unconditionally is the one you can count on always, and you can say that you have true love with that person.

Though the person you choose to be with, ''till death do us part,'' is not always a trustworthy.

The fake love is with that type of person.

You have trust, a match-made in heaven with someone you have honesty and love with, so being with someone like that is rare, and that is true love.

Every time you chat to your partner you hesitate that relationship is not for you.

Sometimes couples stay together to use that relationship to be attached to their partners.

This happens when a partner won't leave for insecure reasons.

They feel afraid to move on and that nobody else will want them.

It is a big world out there, and meeting new people is an experience to meet new goals and to be happy again.

You feel uncomfortable in your relationship and stay for the wrong reasons.

Without bonding you don't have a relationship that is true and honest.

Feel pure for your partner; faking your happiness is not sign of good health for you both.

Your heart must be into the relationship to actually feel something for your partner. The lack of touch for each other allows for disconnection and unhappiness.

Faking your actions for each other doesn't allow for true feelings for one another instead it allows for making the marriage a crumbled one.

You feel happy when you are together and want to show off your love with your partner.

When you constantly kiss and touch your partner in the presence of others just for the sake of making others see you have a happy relationship. That is not a good sign that can ruin a couple.

You tend to please your partner and make your partner feel doubt free.

For example:

He married her at a late age, and provides for this woman. They fake their happiness, in the presence of others. He rubs her shoulders, and occasionally she kisses him to make others think their marriage is perfect and fulfilling. It is obvious that these actions are not true.

Behind closed doors they are unhappy. She forces a kiss on his lips to make the moment look good in the presence of other people.

Money keeps them together without his wallet she won't live her fancy lifestyle.

When two people have true love and happiness they don't behave different behind closed doors and out in public.

I believe that if two people have true love and happiness, they have the same behavior whether in public or behind closed doors.

Sometimes couples just need each other for different reasons. His heart beats faster when he sees the other woman that is temptation to be with that other woman.

He is happier when he sees the other woman, which too is a sign he is not happy in his marriage.

Special times are spent with special people and truly loved ones.

You have false love when you feel better spending too much alone time.

Trusting your partner is not always easy. You try to love each other but deep down there is a lack of a trust.

So, love shows you the true meaning of trust. If you don't have true love trust won't come easily in your relationship.

The connection between two people falls apart when love is not there.

You can't be with someone you barely love.

Doubts drive you apart and you shouldn't be in that marriage.

You form a relationship before marriage and once you married everything else builds up gradually.

Have you been in a fake relationship and didn't know how to get out of it?

Fake marriages without knowing it causes you unhappiness.

The relationship seems to be perfect and good.

The fake relationship leads to marriage and is soon discovered through the unhappiness of one of the partners.

Some fake relationships don't get into the level of a marriage due to the lack of all aspects used in a relationship poorly.

You are not always sure of your partner.

Feelings are insecure and in fake relationships partners exaggerate their love for each other.

Special moments are rare and not memorable.

Communication is rare and a fake relationship is a mirage.

Love is there and is disappears.

Your partner is not loved through all times together is when you are in a fake relationship.

Emotions are less and passion is none.

In a fake relationship partners can't do without each other, and in true and happy relationships partners mean everything to each other.

So, when two people can't do without each other that shows attachment and are in a fake relationship.

You think your partner is the perfect one and think of your needs before his that is fake love.

You want to spend your time with your partner and it is not just a few hours. All the time!

You have become infatuated with your partner quickly.

Jealousy comes between your relationship.

Fighting constantly and compromise is not accomplished easily.

Acceptance is great when you have true love.

Your partner's needs come before your needs.

Time spent apart is approached freely. You don't mind your partner being away from for a short period.

You fell for your partner but slower than your partner had for you is a sign of true love.

One trusts their partner with no doubts.

You grow together in all paths of life, and appreciate one another.

You fall in love with someone and accept them for who they really are.

Do you think love is rare?

Fake relationships are mostly about showing off love for one another in front of others.

This is to show jealousy and possessiveness.

Love when is true, is rare and not the showing off kind of love.

Partners are chosen and for different reasons.

The most important about any relationship is to be happy, to trust, one another and to love each other unconditionally.

You can compromise easily if you have an understanding of your argument.

When you fail to understand your communication with each other the relationship becomes harder.

You need to have an understanding to one another, to be loving, and caring toward your partner to get the same treatment back.

Be honest about loving someone

Fake Relationships

Love truly!

You can't fix yourself by breaking someone else.

Fake Love

True relationships

Have you been in fake relationship?

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© 2017 Devika Primić

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      5 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Clair Raymond, thank you once again for comments. A marriage is not worth working hard for if you are in a loveless and unhappy one.

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      Claire Raymond 

      5 months ago from UK

      You are so right, marriages take work, but you shouldn't ever be unhappy in a marriage, if you are, what is the point?

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      8 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      January Moon thank you for sharing your feedback. I am glad you stopped by.

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      January Moon 

      8 months ago from NY, Now Living in Atlanta Ga

      Wonderful topic! This should be discussed more. It’s a touchy subject, some people are not ready to face the truth.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      8 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway, thank you and kind gesture too. i appreciate it your presence at my hubs. Have a lovely week!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      8 months ago from USA

      For some reason, I couldn't comment on your newest article about breakups, but I thought I'd stop by and say hello.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      9 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello, C E Clark, so nice to hear from you. It has been a while since you stopped by. Hope all is well with you! Thank you.

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      C E Clark 

      9 months ago from North Texas

      Glad to see you are still writing thoughtful articles that hopefully get people thinking about how these important issues may effect themselves and their own relationships/marriages.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      9 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Nell Rose, thank you for commenting on this hub. I so agree with you!

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      Nell Rose 

      9 months ago from England

      Its the smiling outside that gets you. Everybody asks if you are okay, and you say yes while glaring at your partner! interesting stuff, and good to see you!

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      9 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Marlene Bertrand, thank you for the comment. Couples who fake happiness in their marriages are fooling themselves.

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      Marlene Bertrand 

      9 months ago from USA

      I absolutely enjoyed reading this article with excellent observations of marriages. I believe in unconditional love, but it also takes two people to make a marriage work. I definitely don't believe in being phony. I like your image that states, "It must be hard putting makeup on your two faces everyday."

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      9 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Shaloo Walia thank you for comments.

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      Shaloo Walia 

      9 months ago from India

      Interesting analysis of relationships!

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      10 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Mona Sabalones Gonzales thank you kindly for comments I appreciate you stopping by. You know exactly what I mean about faking happiness in a marriage.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 

      10 months ago from Philippines

      This article and the accompanying videos are absolutely revealing about the nature of fake relationships. Funny how a lot of Hollywood stars have no qualms about getting into fake relationships just for show. Well, that's er showbiz, hahah.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      11 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Hari, Thank you for stopping by.

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      Hari Prasad S 

      12 months ago from Bangalore

      Devika,

      Great work of thorough analysis. Liked to read it.

      - Hari

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      12 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Nadine May, thank once again for your feedback. I appreciate all comments. Wow! That is courageous and you surely did the right move there.

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      Devika Primić 

      12 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Fullerman5000 Thank you. After several observations on this subject I chose to write about it. I live in a small community and was surprised to hear of the many unhappy and convenience marriages. I wouldn't be in a marriage if my partner didn't treat me right or if it wasn't for love.

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      Ryan Fuller 

      12 months ago from Louisiana, USA

      I have seen this in several relationships unfortunately. I have had friends who married and were divorced within a year or two. It is like they were never truly in love, just felt they had to get married. It's a shame sometimes.

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      Nadine May 

      12 months ago from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa

      You are spot on: communication is key to that good and healthy relationship. It took me years to wake up from the fact that my marriage was fake, but I stayed for the children's sake, and knowing that I could not financially support them in the custom they were used to. To the outside world, our marriage seemed fine, but I knew better. When my children left home I prepared my husband for a divorce. I had no intent to ever attract a similar relationship so I became a marriage counselor and over a period of 5 years helped other couples and myself to gracefully made a closure.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      12 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway you are so right! Thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 

      12 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Harishprasad, thank you for sharing what's on your mind. I appreciate your kind words.

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      Harish Mamgain 

      12 months ago from New Delhi , India

      Devika, you 've analyzed a fake and miserable relationship so perfect that it isn't possible for me to add to it something more.

      In a relationship, if love is missing, then nothing is present ! You write so well. I always enjoy reading your articles.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      12 months ago from USA

      If you have to fake it, people will know and it will show through.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      13 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you for that. I too feel the same way. Savvydating, I appreciate your comment.

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      Yves 

      13 months ago

      Faking happiness in any kind of relationship is soul crushing. No amount of money or reputation is worth that. Good synopsis, DDE.

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      Devika Primić 

      13 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Shyron E Shenko Thank you for sharing your opinion. I appreciate it! Form my observations of a couple living next door I wrote this hub. I know a few couples who pretend to be happy and that is not a healthy lifestyle for any relationship.

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      Devika Primić 

      13 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      fpherj48, I was away on holiday to South Africa and writing wasn't on my mind. I am pleased to read a comment from you. I know a couple who pretend to be happy. She married t his man for his money. Daily they argue they live next door to us. I wrote this hub after my observations from this couple. Behind closed doors they are different and in public places show another part of them in trying to pretend to be the happiest. It has been a while since I have written a hub. Hope you had a rest after that long drive! Thank you very much for sharing your comment.

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      Paula 

      13 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Devika....Hello there stranger! Good to see again and read another fine article by you. Oh, if I could tell of all the many couples I've known in my day who spend all their time & energy "pretending." It's a real shame they do this but they feel they must for some strange reason. Apparently they realize their marriage is a sham and simply don't want others to judge them poorly, so they put on a perpetual act. Really now, just who are they fooling?

      Most people know sincerity and phoniness when they see it, don't you think? I guess they can fool some people, at least for a while. It's a very uncomfortable experience for those who know them well and understand the truth of the situation.

      Perhaps they should spend some time actually working on falling in love again? Just a thought.........Have a great night, Devika

      I had a long drive today and it's time for me to say Good Night!

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      Shyron E Shenko 

      13 months ago from Texas

      Many people fake love in their relationship for the benefit of their family, which is a shame, because it holds the one who truly loves the other hostage and puts their children in limbo and will cause them to have issues in relationship they have in the future.

      This is really an insightful hub.

      Blessings my friend.

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      Devika Primić 

      14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MartieCoetser, thank you and I appreciate your comments.

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      Devika Primić 

      14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi ChitrangadaSharan, thank you very much for your comment. I am glad you found his hub valuable.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 

      14 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Great insightful hub that makes one think! True love is rare and difficult to find. Sadly most relationships today are based on selfish personal interests. Loved your quotes .

      Thanks for sharing this excellent and valuable hub!

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      Martie Coetser 

      14 months ago from South Africa

      True love shines. People who are compelled to fake love must be extremely unhappy. Thought provoking hub, Devika !

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