Date Night at Home
All couples have been told to schedule regular one-on-one time. 'Date Night' is the default answer to most problems in modern marriages. And research backs this up.— Bruce Feiler
Everyone in a relationship has the need to escape their everyday lives, even if it's just for an evening. But, instituting a regular 'date night' can be very difficult. Whether it's kids, finances, or time, there is often something that gets in the way of being able to go out on a date with your spouse. Life gets in the way. But, that doesn't mean you shouldn't make one-on-one time with your spouse a priority.
I think part of what makes date nights so difficult for most couples is the common misconception that it has mean getting dressed up and going out. It doesn't have to mean that. Why not consider and/or try a date night at home? A "staycation" for date night, if you will.
There is something connecting and almost sensual about cooking with your partner. Moving side by side and creating something gives you a connection that is different from the everyday.
If you have kids, maybe put them to bed and then cook a late dinner with your spouse for just the two of you.
You don't have to cook anything complicated or make it too difficult. Just pick a favorite food and get in the kitchen! Pour some wine, put on some music, talk, laugh, dance, and cook some food. It's a great way to connect after a long week.
Friday night is our date night. We really carve out time for each other.— Karen Kain
I think this is an often overlooked activity for couples to do together. But, why not get in your pjs, make some hot cocoa or pour some wine, and pull out one those old board games from childhood? Nostalgia is a great tool for connection.
Date night doesn't have to be all about deep conversations and getting dressed up. After a long work week, why not dress down and just have fun?
If board games aren't your thing, then fire up your gaming console and play a video game together. Let him (or her) teach you to play their favorite game. Even if you aren't good at it (like me), it can still be fun and give you some laughs together.
Movie nights don't have to involve driving to the theater and spending a lot of money. Make a movie night at home. Rent that action film, or chick-flick, or comedy, or thriller you've been dying to see and haven't had time for. Pull out one your old favorites and re-watch it for the thousandth time.
Make some popcorn and cuddle up on the couch together. Just take the time to push everything else to the side and just unwind together.
Keep it Simple
I hope I've helped to inspire you to instate date night in your house. I also hope I've helped you to realize that it doesn't have to be a complicated and stressful thing. Sure, getting dressed up and going out is great and it can be a lot of fun. But, date night doesn't have to be all about that.
Don't stress! There are so many ways to make a night of it without spending a lot of money or making big plans! Find something you love doing and share it with your spouse. I already mentioned cooking, games, and movie night. What about a paint night at home? Get some canvases and paint, and go to town, see what you create! Find dance lessons on line and fulfill a fantasy. The possibilities are endless!
Keep it simple! If you have the ability to go out, then do it! But, the main point is that you are making the time for you and your spouse to do something together without kids, or work, or money, or whatever clouding your minds.
Get out there (or stay in) and make a date night of it!
© 2018 Mandy Baker