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Dating Tips for Nerds, Dorks, and Weirdos

Updated on July 3, 2011
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Don't be Afraid to Date!

Let's be honest - deep down inside, we are all a little different. Every person has an inner-dork or an inner-weirdo. Some people are just a little dorkier than others. There is nothing wrong with a dork, a geek, a nerd, a weirdo, a freak, or whatever other label you want to give someone who walks to the beat of a different drum. Every single person, no matter how bizarre, is dateable.

Yes, I said it! There is truly someone for everyone. If you are a nerd or a dork, and you are reading this, yes, there is hope for you! You are completely dateable. Someone out there will love you for you. The secret is being the charming person you know you can be and then slowly unleashing the inner-dork. It is not being dishonest. You are putting your best foot forward and then, little by little, you can let your geeky side show.

The truth is, everyone is a little uncool. Some people just hide it better than others. But really, everyone wants to be able to show their inner-nerd to someone. You can be the person to bring that out in another person! You just can't expect to be a total dork on the first date or two. So let me give you some helpful first date tips.

Conversations to Keep to a Minimum on the First Date

This hub is assuming that you are on a first date with someone you do not know well. If you already know your date well, like say, the two of you play Dungeons and Dragons together all the time in your Mom's basement, don't hide your inner dork. The two of you are perfect for each other already. This is intended for blind dates, internet dating, bar pick-ups, etc.

So, let us first discuss some topics that should be avoided whenever possible during the first date. You can talk about these topics some, but too much detail can get a little dull.

Remember, less is more with the following topics:

  • Your computer
  • Your video games
  • Cute stuff your cat can do
  • The voices in your head
  • Role playing games
  • Chess
  • Weird Al Yankovic
  • Harry Potter
  • Lord of the Rings
  • Star Trek
  • Star Wars
  • The X Files
  • Twilight
  • Ghost shows of any type
  • SciFi movies
  • Strange odors of any type
  • Living in your parents' basement
  • Comic books
  • Burping and farting
  • Pi
  • Algebra
  • Scientific stuff only you know
  • Your perfect GPA
  • Chess
  • Card games and board games
  • Your high IQ
  • Your high paying IT job and all the mundane daily details

Introducing the Geek Within

I know what you are thinking, "If I can't discuss all these activities, what can I discuss?" First of all, there are a number of topics you can discuss such as: food, weather, other customers around you, the recession, school or work, and much more. Second, you can discuss some of the above listed topics, just don't bore your date with all of them. Slowly introduce a nerdy topic or two into the conversation. Here is one example:

Dorky guy: "I really like movies. What kind of movies do you like?"

Girl: "I like comedies and Sex in the City. What do you watch?"

Dorky guy: "I like action adventure movies and science fiction."

Now, one of two things are likely to happen. Your date will get excited because this is the moment she can introduce her geeky interests or she will shy away from this conversation. Here are the examples:

Positive response:

Girl: "Oh, I love the X Files movies. I used to watch the show all the time."

Dorky guy: "I watch the X Files, too! What was your favorite episode?"

Negative response:

Girl: "Oh. Hmmm. I think I would like to order a salad."

Dorky guy: "Mmmm... Yes, I think I will have a chicken sandwich."

Don't Give Up!

If you get the positive response, that is excellent. Perhaps you can introduce another dorky topic or two. If she is a total geek, keep it going. This is a match made in heaven. However, don't give up if you got a negative response. Maybe she just doesn't like science fiction. That does not mean she does not have a dorky side. Give it another try. Here is another example:

Girl: "What do you do for fun?"

Dorky guy: "I like watching sports, going to concerts, and going to the movies."

Girl: "I went to a Taylor Swift concert last week. What was your last concert?"

Dorky guy: "I went to see Weird Al. He is amazing!"

Once again, this could go two different ways. Here are the options:

Positive response:

Girl: "Really? I've never seen Weird Al in concert. How was it?"

Negative response:

Girl: "I just remembered I promised I would give my sister a call. She isn't feeling well. Please excuse me for a moment."

You Win Some and You Lose Some

OK, this girl is obviously not feeling what you are saying. Either she really is not into any geeky, fun stuff, or she is just not into you. Don't feel bad. There really is someone for everyone. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Also, there are plenty of cliches in this paragraph. I need to move on.

Don't feel bad about yourself. You know you are awesome and you've got the high video game scores to prove it. There are other chicks out there that will totally dig you. So go out there and start dating again.

P.S. Weird Al Yankovic concerts happen to be truly awesome. No matter who you are, you haven't lived until you've been to a Weird Al concert.


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    Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    Hahaha... marriage does seem like it would be a lot easier than this, doesn't it?

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    TheNewCinders 6 years ago

    This soooo makes me realise I wish I WAS married!! :)

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    Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    Thanks! I am glad you enjoyed the hub. Embrace your nerdiness! There are many of us out there.

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    Sranunta Lamduan 6 years ago from Bangkok, Thailand

    It's very funny hub and I really like it. Well, I can consider myself nerd and wierdos, LOL.

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    Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    Thomas - Yes, this advice can work out well online, as well as with mail order brides. Sure, if you are talking about someone else's odor, that can work. It would be especially a good idea to mention if someone walks by and emits a foul odor. You don't want your date to think it was you!

    I would say once the restraining order comes into the situation, probably these rules don't apply anymore. But before the restraining order, sure.

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    Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    Painted Seahorse - Thanks! I am glad you enjoyed it. I think everyone has an inner nerd. Guys just have to know the right way to approach the inner nerd when talking to their dates.

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    ThoughtSandwiches 6 years ago from Reno, Nevada


    Somehow...your title spoke to me... Ok...let's get into no girl who 'knows me well' is willing to go out with me (I mean really) ...these will work well on the next internet, barroom, or mail order bride pickup.

    Now...'strange odors' of any kind? What if we are talking about one of those 'other customers' and it applies...? WAIT...i need to get pen and paper...


    PS...Do these dating niceties apply when the 'date' is (technically) a 'stalk'?

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    Brittany Rowland 6 years ago from Woodstock, GA

    Very funny and well-written, and there's some good advice in there, too. As a nerdy girl, I'm happy to talk about this sort of stuff. Hubby likes that about me.

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    Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    Thank you for your comment and the vote. I am just trying to help the nerds of the world out there.

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    SpiffyD 6 years ago from The Caribbean

    I liked this hub; it had a good mix of serious and funny in there. I voted it funny (cuz I couldn't vote it "serious").

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    Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    Hey, thanks! Yes, many of us have an inner nerd that just waiting to come out. I am happy to debate about Harry Potter with the best of the nerds, but I am not bringing that up on a first date. I hope I've helped many nerds, geeks, freaks, weirdos, and dorks!

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    nycgrl 6 years ago from New York

    This turned out fantastic! Another funny hub. And it's so true that a lot of girls have an inner nerd/geek inside them, I am living proof! Most guys don't think so but I love my nerds and have dated many :-) and yes the minute they bring up Star Trek or video games/computers I am totally up for chatting lol.

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    Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    Thank you for the compliment. Dating is so scary. It really is all about lowering your standards at this point.

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    Movie Master 6 years ago from United Kingdom

    Hi Jeannieinabottle, your writing is like a 'tonic' sooooooo funny, this takes me back to just how scarey dating was! yep being married is good....

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    Jeannie InABottle 6 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    Yes, there are definitely benefits to being married. The best benefit is never going out on the dreaded first date again. Thanks for the comment!

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    Emma 6 years ago from UK

    There is a benefit to being married!! lol. x