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Dating someone who is insecure

Updated on March 30, 2015

So you met someone who is great. The problem is that great person is insecure. How do you handle this situation?

First of all try not to get too upset. He or she loves you and he or she wants to be with you. The reason why he or she is so insecure is because they have been hurt in the past and care a lot about you. He or she does not want to lose you. You are only going to make his insecurities worse by telling him or her if he or her does not change you will leave. He or she wants and needs you to hear that you will be with him or her no matter what. He or she needs you to reassure him that you are not going anywhere.

Second put yourself in his shoes. What if you were insecure of losing someone great? Would you want someone to tell you that they would leave if you do not change? No that would only make things worse. If it is hard for you to deal with, it is even harder for the person who is going through this.

Third Be patient. This person needs your love and trust. This person needs to see that you are not going anywhere. Trust does not happen overnight. Trust is something that builds up over time. It is especially hard after someone has been burned time and time again. Overtime it forms and people in a relationship begin to let their guard down once they see that the person they are with are true and really care about them.

Fourth Do not do anything to make the situation worse. Do not flirt with other guys/girls. Do not brag about someone else. Do not talk about spending time alone with someone of the opposite sex. This goes for anyone in a relationsip. When two people are in a relationship they should not want to be alone wit anyone of the oppsite sex. It is fishy and disrespectful to the person that they are with. This person is insecure and needs you to make him or her feel that he or she is your priority. Do not treat the person you are with as an option. You would not like it if it was done to you.

Fifth do loving things and show that person that you care. Show them that they have nothing to be worried about. Tell them each time he or she does something nice for you that you appreciate him or her. Contact him or her when you are thinking about him or her and tell him or her how you feel. Compliment the person you are with and just do small loving things that show you care.

Sixth reassure him or her that you are not going anywhere. When dealing with someone who is insecure the worst thing that you can do is give him or her an ultimatium. Sure being with someone insecure is hard but think of how they feel. They will start to feel that they will begin to walk on eggshells.

Seventh do not do anything to make him or her insecure. Do not do anything that will doubt you care about this other person. When someone is insecure they need someone to raise them up and not bring them down.

Eight make sure the person is getting the help he or she needs. If he or she feels the need to talk to someone offer to go with him or her. Show him or her that you are by his or her side. Insecurities are not just something that you get over. They are wounds that take time to heal but with the right help and the right people they heal faster.

If you are dating someone who is insecure be patient and be loving. They are going through a hard time and they need you by their side. Do not get all upset saying how you cannot deal with it. That is only going to make things worse. They are sensitive and need your love. When you are in a relationship with someone you have to put the other person first. To love someone is to care about their needs and stay by their side when they are going through a hard time.

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