ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel
  • »
  • Gender and Relationships»
  • Weddings & Wedding Planning

David's Story

Updated on March 2, 2015

Everyday we wake up and deal with it without second thought. We go to school and visit the bathroom to relieve our self with little hesitation. It's the middle of the day you head out to get a snack to help you get through the day. When someone catches your eyes. Your in class taking a survey. Male or female the question askes you? These are all examples of our sexuality. What is your sex male or female? For many of us that is an easy question to answer. We all know what our sex is right?

Well unfortunately there are some of us that are not sure what the answer is to that question. For instance the children born with ambiguous genitalia. They have both male and female genitals. They are not sure where they fit in this society. Similarly for many years David Reimer also didn't know where he fit in this world. But David story was different. He was born a normal heterosexual boy but at the age two after a botch circumcision he lost most of his penis and was raised as a girl.

I came upon the David Reimer story from the book:"As Nature Made Him. The Boy Who Was Raised As A Girl." It was written by John Colapinto. As I read the book my heart was filled with anger and resentment. I mean David Reimer had a very hard life. The kids teased him relentlessly because he didn't fit in. He was too rough for the girls. Also the boys didn't want anything to do with him because he was a "girl." I remember being a kid and having a strong need to belong and be accepted. I try to put my self in David shoes and I feel his pain of not belonging. School was not the only place that David felt he didn't belong. He also felt he didn't belong in the sex force upon him at home with his family.

David Reimer's family were also suffering. For instance his father Ron and mother Janet had guilt in their heart because they felt they made the wrong decision. Regarding changing the sex of their baby boy. They were constantly lying to their two sons. Likewise David's twin brother Brain had to choose between his "sister" or his "friends at the school they both attended." His friends did not like David because they thought he was weird. In the end he chooses to have friends.Which he felt a great amount of guilt throughout his life. All this suffering was created because of one mans need for his experiment to work at all cause. The man I'm referring to is Dr John Money.

John Money came up with the radical theory that all children are sexually nurtural until the age of two. That if their parents nurture their children to their desire sex. Nurture would trump nature. For example a boy could be a girl if nurtured properly. To me personally that sounds ridiculous. Nature will always trump nurture. Unfortunately for many years Moneys theory was used in a lot of surgeries for children with ambiguous genitalia. Instead of waiting for them to be old enough to decide what sex they want. They were assign a sex and forced to live with it. To me that sounds outrageous. I think about these poor children and what they must've gone through? It must've been really hard and confusing for them. My opinion is. It is obviously better to let them decide for themselves. It was obvious moneys sexual theory was wrong.

David's case proved that with devastating consequences. At the age of 38 David Rimer drove to a supermarket and shot himself in the head committing suicide. When I originally found out about David committing suicide. I was sad but not surprise. After all the heart ache he experienced in his life. One don't expect him to have a long happy life. I mean how long can you live with a broken heart? Because of all the doctor visits and him constantly being observe he felt like a broken man that couldn't be fix. In the end he took matters into his own hands. RIP David Reimer you will never be forgotten.

David at around 18 years of age.
David at around 18 years of age.
The three members of the Reimer family. Which thankfully became only two members.
The three members of the Reimer family. Which thankfully became only two members.
Back to his old self.
Back to his old self.
David as Brenda.
David as Brenda.

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: "https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr"

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)