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Dealing with a Selfish Friend

Updated on November 16, 2015

Not all friends you meet in this world will be true. So if you meet a true friend consider yourself lucky. You have probably heard people say that before and that is the truth.

Some friends are selfish in the way that they are only out for themselves. They do not care about your happiness. If it means that you are ahead and they are behind they will not be happy.

Say you are out with your friends one night and you see a guy who you were always attracted to. You tell your friend and then are ready to take a chance finally on the guy. Your friend says "I am too." That is not a friend. After that she keeps on going on and on about how good looking he is when she just met him even though she knows that you liked him from day one. A true friend would not do that to you. A true friend would encourage you to talk to him and make your move and she would get her own guy.

You tell your friend that you got a promotion at work and the first thing that pops out of her mouth is "I am Jealous." A true friend would not say that. A true friend would be happy for your accomplishments and hug you and say "Good for you."

Friends who try to make a move on your guy or admit to being jealous of you are jealous and selfish friends. They are toxic people that you do not need in your life. You do not need them to go out with. If they do this with one guy they will do this with every guy. Every time a guy tries to take your number or something good happens they will interfere. You do not need those types of people in your life. When you go out you are supposed to have a good time. You go out to have fun not to be stressed out.

Friends like this will keep on doing this and it will get to you. It is best to cut the ties early. You do not need that stress in your life. Life is too short to be all stressed out. There are plenty of people in the world who would be happy to be your friend. True people can be hard to find but they are out there and as the saying goes "It is better to have one true friend than a million fake ones."

When you are on your phone and your friend is leaning over to see what you are looking at you have to watch that too. Friends know when to keep their boundaries and do not invade their friends privacy. If a friend invades your privacy and is into your personal business then it is time to let this friend go. She wants information that she could use to her advantage. A true friend will wait for you to tell her what is going in your life rather than seeking what you are doing.

Know that you are worthy of a good friend. Do not take this kind of abuse. If you work with this person or have to see them on a daily basis do not tell them everything that goes on in your life because they get jealous and are only out for themselves. If you do not have to see this person then cut them loose and move on. In time you will make another friend and you will meet someone who will treat you much better.

Good friends are hard to find but they are out there. So do not waste your time on ones that are out to hurt you. Do not put yourself through the pain of getting hurt time and time again. If you are a loyal and good person then you deserve to be around people who are just as loyal and good as you are. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be with people in your life who are happy for you when something good happens to you. You deserve to be around people who have your best interest at heart. So don't settle for anything less.


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      Adriana 2 years ago

      Being flexible in a friendship goes a long way also. I had a friend that was not willing to compromise and acknowledge their mistakes. If you can't sit down and talk it over as equals then it's a deal breaker. Give and take is an important factor in any relationship. Also it's important to respect each others different interests.