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Dealing with a one night stand: how to?
How many of you have had a one night stand? Think about it long and hard before coming up with an answer. Be aware that not everyone is built to have a casual fling. There are still some hard core romantics that believe that love and intimacy still go together in this ridiculously fast paced world. The only problem with love is that it takes forever for it to happen to someone, which is why one night stands happen. It gives the chance for two random people to briefly connect before disappearing into the night. One night stands are really considered to be a relationship speed bump before getting to the real thing. Think of them as test driving a car before putting down a payment or any real long term mileage on the vehicle. One night stands aren't for everyone because some believe that physical intimacy isn't like a disposable wipe. When someone experiences one for the first time, a sense of awkwardness envelopes them. How do I avoid any long term commitments once the hook-up is done? Should I leave things with a definite end or open ended one? Honestly, it's hard to real say what the right answer is because it really depends on the situation, or hook-up, itself. Your current bed partner could either be looking for a soul mate or a quiet exit. Gauge their interest before making the next move. Depending on the person, you can try to be upfront with them from the beginnings that this hook-up can't be a permanent thing. That's not always a recommended suggestion to take due to the fact that you partner might not like the idea of being treated like a 24 hour bug. The other option would to keep them in the dark about your ulterior motives, but that never ends well for either party. Ultimately, the best way to deal with a one night stand is not to have a plan. Flings are meant to be fun and impulsive. This is no different, except the fling has a 24 hour expiration date on it. Have fun responsibly of course and move on once it's over. No one likes it when you stay longer at a party than you really have to. Of course, not every party is meant to go into with complete blind faith in someone, even if you know the person. Be careful before partaking in one for starters. Make sure your potential lover hasn't taken a trip to crazytown or isn't carrying a disease. Try to be safe even when you're having an impulsive adventure.