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Defining Lonliness

Updated on August 9, 2009

Lonliness

Your child goes off to college and you have an empty nest so your are lonely.

You move to another town so your are lonely.

There are lots of reasons to be lonely. But that lonliness that dwells inside your soul and eats the blood life out of you, that is lonliness.

 

This is Loneliness

Loneliness can destroy a person. That feeling of impending doom, that we will never feel that touch that warms our soul. When we are betrayed by a spouse, girl friend, partner the feeling that nothing will ever be the same is true. It won't. You have the anger which shows and in return turns people away. Sitting by the cell phone when there is no one to even going to call. Clinging to every bit of emotion or attention for the body craves it like a drug. It craves the touch, the smell, the yearning to be loved, even if you know you can't really love back. Self Deprivation sinks in. Instant gratification makes it go away for a moment but we don't think of it returning for we are so in love with getting affection, whether it is real or not. Oh, you love me, good I love you too and the loneliness disappears long enough for reality to set in and it's over. Like a one night stand. Instant gratification made it easier to sleep, someone to hold you even though they probably didn't remember who you were, it felt good, if only for a moment. Then soon that gut wrenching feeling that turns your stomach into knots returns for it's over, the high is gone and the loneliness creeps back in. Everything becomes grey again and you seek anything to make it go away. Some turn to Alcohol or drugs, some become sexually promiscuous because sex is confused with love. You become more and more vulnerable, easily taken advantage of. Before you know it you are right back where you started, it is a cycle. It's not a good feeling, so why do we allow ourselves to get to this point? Low Self Esteem.

Boosting your Self Esteem

I have listed for you some great hubs that will help you conquer and raise your self esteem.  Look deep on the inside, find that inner child and start to heal.

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