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Dirty Old Men Are Yesterday's Studs
Mother Nature's Revenge!
There are young “studs,” and there are “dirty old men.” We've all heard these cliches, and probably used these labels ourselves, whether known or not known to us.
Men can be tagged with these names because of their mannerisms, expressions, or personalities. Body language, facial gestures, and flirting is not limited to the female sex. Some men get attention by boisterous and out-going behavior. Others get noticed because they are quiet, reserved, and seem to have mysterious qualities.
A stud, as defined in the dictionary, can be a small piece of metal, small earrings, a lesbian, animals that have premium blood-lines are desired for breeding purposes, and a guy who is popular with the ladies. He can, usually, be found surrounded by ladies when attending parties or other gatherings. A stud is a sexually-promiscuous male person; wolf; or tomcat. Basically, a young masculine male person who is strong, handsome, and buff. Apparently by all accounts, a stud is desirable and in demand.
A man with a friendly smile, personality, manners, and an attractive well-toned body will never be forgotten by women they meet. Additional attention getters also include confidence, honesty, courtesy, and compassion. Of course, men who are comfortable with their sexuality, possess individualistic style, successful or wealthy can be bonus characteristics, although they are not as plentiful.
Let's just quit the adjectives and get to the verbs. Men with muscled arms, well-defined stomach muscles and detailed thighs will attract a woman's attention just by walking into a room. When they walk or sit the package between their legs can gain a woman's attention. Seeing without really seeing intoxicates the mind with erotic and sensuous thoughts, similar to sheer nighties or bikinis.
Ladies, a stud will be comfortable with his person, and, most likely, is able to obtain an erection quickly. They are willing and eager! It's possible they might lose control and ejaculate before they wanted, however, another erection can be achieved in a matter of minutes for a repeat performance.
So, what changes? Why do men stop being a “stud” and change into “dirty old men?”
Dirty Old Man
The dictionary defines a 'dirty old man' as: An adult male, usually middle-aged or elderly, who acts in a lewd manner.
Men over the age of 50 automatically qualify for the title of 'dirty old man.' Being over age 50 does not, necessarily, make a man dirty. However, many suddenly seem to be fixated with younger women. And, women know that an older man, often times, have the means to provide expensive material possessions, then could be gotten from a younger man.
This is not to say that all older men are easily tricked to presume they are equal to a young man in the sexual performance department; Although, many 'think' they are. Many older men, just as older women, have learned techniques to give mind-blowing orgasms, but when the lights are turned on, they can never again have the visual appearance of a young man. So, it seems a man having great sex before the age of 50 would be considered a stud, but the moment he turns 50 years old, he turns into a 'dirty old man!'
Most people mourn for their lost youth, and do not welcome and embrace getting older. They are not indifferent to the aging reflection in the mirror. Mother Nature can strike with a vengeance, and suddenly impotency, decreased libido, less than firm erections (or no erections), and make it impossible to orgasm. Any or all of these things can cause sexual dysfunction in a man's body, and all too soon, he is on the bench, without a sex life. It seems to be at this point when men change from studs into dirty old men, and enter into a foolish and losing battle for a second childhood.
Most often, a man would rather become vocal and suggestive, rather than admit an inability to perform sexually. They know, or are afraid, that their appearance and stamina has departed, or they would be unable to perform if an opportunity were to come their way. Sometimes they believe the only way to be noticed and get attention is to be vocal, offensive, or get sex by molestation.
However, many more men remain sexually active, and remain attractive and desirable. But, even the most healthy male will revert to lewd gestures, sexually-toned remarks, and try to touch a woman's behind or breasts. This, gentlemen, does not add points to your scorecard, and will earn you the title of a “Dirty Old Man.”
A man who experiences poor self-esteem because of inadequate sexual ability, wants to maintain his status among the opposite sex. Unfortunately, they can go about it all wrong. All they really need to do is to revisit the natural personality qualities that made them popular and desirable in their youth. Somewhere along the line, they became lazy and took for granted that the male body was all that was necessary to suggest their masculinity and manhood.
Of course, good sex is not the only thing in a relationship. Women reach their sexual peak much later than men. So, by the time impotency, decreased libido, stamina and performance problems appear in a man's body, a woman's sexual awareness has just begun. This is about the time that women begin to notice younger men. Not because they seek to return to their youth, but they want the erotic sexual experience that young men offer.
Representations of sexuality in older men in American society are neither flattering or accurate. Labeling someone as a “dirty old man” is to perceive he is having sexual thoughts, and this is not always the case. Labeling every man that looks at a young girl is no different than suggesting every young girl wearing a short skirt is a hooker.
Do sexual thoughts change as a man gets older? I don't think so, but I do think he remembers his youth, and often wishes he was as virile as he once was. So, before labeling all older men as “dirty old men” perhaps a moment of consideration should be extended. A smile or glance in his direction can bring back happy memories for him, and make his day. He's done it all before you were born, young ladies, you don't have a patent on youth.