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Divorce at the Age of Sixty

Updated on October 6, 2017
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Divorce after Sixty

Divorce is painful at any age in a marriage

Are you planning divorce at the age of sixty?

Lynette's divorce was not caused by infidelity, or by the constant fights they had.

After Lynette re-invented herself her husband's resentment caused big gap between them.

She was confident in her marriage and in herself. Challenges led her to better prospects.

The husband's life was different and he grew less confident when he saw the change in his wife.

The couple saw life in their own perspectives and that destroyed their marriage.

It is not that a couple shouldn't have their own perspectives in a marriage, just the way one becomes affected by that perspective.

He was threatened by is wife's role the way she flourished made him see her in a different way than that home-maker.

If a woman earns more money than her husband it feels wrong.

If a man earns more money than a woman it is fine. No problems with that!

When woman meet new people in their chosen careers men become less confident in their jobs. Sometimes he will undermine her confidence.

He did not see how unhappy she was in their marriage.

Sometimes he just didn't see it her way.

No marriage is perfect but to divorce at sixty is ridiculous!

When you lead parallel lives in a marriage what is left of that marriage?

The problem with most marriages couples get to comfortable with each other and forget how to appreciate one another.

Their comfortable zone is taking their partners for granted, and expecting everything to be the same.

A change is not allowed for their partners.

It has to be the same as when you have married and that is it! You got to go through the same old routine no matter what happens in your daily lives.

The moment one partner seeks a different path the other feels left out and unloved, or lonely.

Everything is nice when you first meet what happens after a year or two into the marriage?

Ellen and her husband were married for many years and finally, she wants out of their marriage. Her husband is seventy years old and she is sixty years old.

The many years spent together comes to realization and something goes a miss.

After all those years why won't they try and work it out?

Too many high expectations leads to such cases!

These men feel their wives should stay that way for the rest of their lives. If they married a typist she must be that typist. She wasn't supposed to change, no matter how she felt about herself. Unfortunately, for these men people do change and nothing can be as they have wished it.

It is never too late to change you hairstyle or your habits is it?

When men realize the change in their wives they are stunned!

How and why has she changed?

It feels inappropriate for women to change anything about themselves.

Divorce for Ellen's husband was shocking and not real.

The feeling of divorce shattered the old guy.

Generations ago most women tolerated mediocre marriages.

The ordinary marriage where the wife is the home-maker and the husband is the breadwinner.

Higher expectations have changed the order of mediocre marriage.

The couple did not communicate instead, kept silent about their problems.

It is easy to get away from conversation when you watch television for hours on each day.

When two people fail to speak out they become mute by watching television.

In this case, they had nothing to say to each other even on a dinner out for the evening they were silent.

They had reached the breaking point!

Another couple in the divorce route.

Sheena is seventy five, and was married for thirty years to her husband aged sixty.

She feels much happier on her own and never thought of marriage in the beginning of her relationship.

After divorce she has chosen her own destiny.

Sheena wanted her life back and enjoying life is key to her chosen lifestyle.

It takes courage to leave your partner at sixty or over the age of sixty.

You spent many years together and one day choose to leave for your reasons.

While the other partner is blinded by the reasons for your divorce, it is sad to face such a stressful moment at that time in your life.

Most women stay unhappy in their marriages and grow old and gray with one man.

She worked in the mornings as her husband did every morning but, when she came home each day to see him sitting on the couch watching television that hurt her a lot.

This woman wanted out of their marriage she couldn't take that anymore.

He didn't see it the way she did that is a problem in many marriages.

He don't see it like she sees it!

Most women want their lives that you don't find in mediocre marriages.

Years fly by, and when you look at yourself in the mirror what do you see?

You forgot how to live life and how to enjoy life.

It has been too long taking on all the responsibilities while he just sat there and looked forward to you waiting on him.

One partner is often up for challenges and the other doesn't care to take part in these challenges.

No two people will see their marriage in the same ways.

A marriage to most men is to have family with a wife who will be that stay-home-mom. They don't realize that don't happen anymore.

After she has his children she is forgotten and just got to follow what he says in their marriage.

Once most men retire they seek a different lifestyle.

Especially when men don't seek adventure after retirement their marriages become unhappy and lonely.

It is understandable if men spend too many long hours working their day jobs and family life gets lost in that time.

Divorce at sixty and over the age of sixty is complicated. At that age most couples have children and grandchildren.

To be apart in such glorious times is not good for families.

Divorce disrupts any family life but at sixty you have to sell your four-five bed-roomed family home and to search again for another home.

Overall, women take on more responsibility in the home.

Women tend to lose sight of the man they once married.

Two people grew apart of the many years together. She noticed the man he had become and he didn't notice the woman she had become over the years.

Does he love her?

Has he taken her for granted?

A phase of adventure for many women who turn sixty and want more for their lifestyles. It is not just about sitting at home every day.

There is more to life than to sit at home and watch television. You need a social life.

The sedentary lifestyle is no longer for sixty year old women.

Being single at sixty has improved the lives of many women. A man is not an option and is not needed. Women who have the financial independence don't need to marry.

When you feel great at sixty you know you have more to live for than being married to someone who don't care for you.

The upsetting moment in asking your husband for a divorce when in your sixties is a breakdown for a couple.

You would love to ''turn back the clock'' that is how some couples feel when asked for a divorce.

Friends feel pity for you going through a divorce and the situation is humiliating.

After forty years of marriage he felt everything was good but she didn't feel that way.

A divorce is a loss, and leaves you alone. Single and you don't where to start again.

Pensioners going through a divorce is ridiculous!

A couple met in their teens and were inseparable for more than fifty years but she had to get that divorce.

Everything got destroyed but there was no turning back.

Children and grandchildren are affected in the divorce.

The painful moments are too hard for the couple.

An example:

She divorced her husband at sixty and is happier without a man in her life.

The endless work she did for him didn't pay off in their marriage.

He is living with his mother.

She took care of him as his mother did and living back with his mother he can have that same care.

I don' blame all men, ''most men, forget they have a wife.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 41 hours ago from New Delhi, India

      Divorce at any age is sad and unfortunate! I always believed that couples become so much used to each other, as they age together, that they can’t live without each other. But you are right, there are exceptions.

      Sixty is a major milestone in a couple’s married life, when many things have to be reworked and planned with a new vision. Most couples do it with understanding of each other. But there can be cases such as you have mentioned above.

      Nice, thought provoking article. Thank You!

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      Devika Primić 10 days ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Mona Sabalones Gonzalez thank you for sharing your interesting comment. I so agree with you. Divorce is just part of how most couples deal with their pain, and disappointment.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 11 days ago from Philippines

      Great article! Can't imagine why people would divorce, even if you listed so many reasons why they do. It seems to me that when a couple stays together, as they age they should be closer together and be ready to be there for each other when they die. It's hard to die alone and unloved. People at 60 if they stayed together that long, shouldn't look at regrets and resentments but more at the happy memories they built up together. But not everyone has the same experience or expectations, as your article so clearly shows. Great work.

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      Devika Primić 19 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you kindly for stopping by.

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      Linda Crampton 19 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Divorce is always sad, especially when children are involved or when partners have been together for a long time. Once other solutions have been tried, however, I think that sometimes divorce is the best choice, no matter what the age of the couple. Thanks for another thought provoking hub, Devika.

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      Devika Primić 19 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. thank you for commenting. I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Dave 19 months ago from Lancashire north west England

      Devika, once again you have chosen a good subject matter, which has always promotes many interesting comments. Your unique writing style covers this human emotion category with great skill. Well done.

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      Devika Primić 19 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi FlourishAnway Thank you very much for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 19 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Shyron E Shenko Thank you for stopping by. Always appreciated! Blessings to you too my friend.

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      Devika Primić 19 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      emge thank you and so glad you came by.

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      Devika Primić 19 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi ezzly thank you for stopping by. Your comment is meaningful to me and I appreciate that you came by.

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      Devika Primić 19 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Mel Carriere thank you for commenting. You understand my views on this topic I appreciate that.

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      FlourishAnyway 19 months ago from USA

      No matter the age, it's important to not stay with a partner who makes you miserable.

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      Shyron E Shenko 19 months ago from Texas

      Devika, divorce is sad at any age, but why stay with someone when you are unhappy no matter what age you are.

      I am married to my second husband and could not imagine life without him. I was very unhappy with my first husband, and I divorced him, and he was not happy but I was the one working and just wanted a meal ticket.

      Very interesting hub.

      Blessings my friend

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      Shaloo Walia 19 months ago

      Divorce is painful at any age but even more painful in old age. While reading about divorces in old age,I often wonder why people become so intolerant!

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      Madan 19 months ago from Abu Dhabi

      A topical subject as my realise late in life they are incompatible. Personally I don't favor divorce at all at any age

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      ezzly 19 months ago

      Great read ! It is so true that people become complacent. "The problem with most marriages couples get to comfortable with each other and forget how to appreciate one another." You should always try to remember to say thank you , to recognize the effort the other person puts in for you. Even if it is just making a cup of tea!

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      Mel Carriere 19 months ago from San Diego California

      Longevity in a marriage is no guarantee of continued success. Sometimes children are what holds a marriage together. When the children grow up there is nothing left. Great article!

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      Devika Primić 19 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi always exploring thank you and that is how life is a bit of happiness and unhappiness. A divorce hurts everyone in the family and some friends too.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 19 months ago from Southern Illinois

      Divorce is painful at any age. Sometimes it is necessary for happiness. I think the children suffer no matter their age. Interesting topic..

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      Devika Primić 19 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc thank you kindly for sharing your experience always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 19 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Ericdierker thank you for supporting me. Have a lovely day.

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      Bill Holland 19 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Close enough...I was 55 when I got divorced....does it change our lives? Most definitely, but if we are willing, we also learn valuable lessons.

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      Eric Dierker 19 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Interesting slant on the issue of divorce and why. My wife is flourishing and I find it refreshing and good.

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 19 months ago from Norfolk

      Divorce at any age is shocking for everyone and certainly does destroy families but it can be particularly difficult for older people, especially men who seem less adaptable to the change. Men so often spend half their lives trying to crush the very thing which first attracted them to their wife instead of encouraging them to just be themselves.