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Do You Welcome Communication In Your Relationship
Are you open to communication in your relationship or are you only willing to talk about certain topics? Do you have those “I won’t talk about…” topics? Why is that? Can you call what you have a stable, healthy relationship when there are things you cannot talk about? You’ve chosen someone to be your most trusted friend and there’s always more you can learn about your partner by communicating. Granted, there are topics that may have to wait for the right time to talk about -- not everything is advantageous to say, so save it for another time.
There are two reasons communication is essential to a stable, healthy relationship. First, when communication is weak, your relationship suffers. You begin to feel out of touch with one another. Have you felt this distance in your relationship? Perhaps you gradually stopped sharing those precious thoughts and moments together. Think back and remember the times when you couldn’t wait to speak to your mate about the dumbest thing you saw or heard. No one else cared, but your mate would love it when you shared your thoughts with him or her. Do you still feel excited to share even little things with your mate?
The second reason communication is essential is because communication helps you through those confusing times. You may not understand why your mate is acting a certain way. If you were communicating all along it would be easier to talk about any issues that may arise. I know people that prefer to talk to others on the outside of their relationship rather than their closest neighbor sleeping right next to them! Does this happen because your mate is unapproachable or is it that you haven’t communicated in so long, you don’t try anymore? Then how could you say you are in a relationship? At this point you need to re-evaluate. Something is definitely missing. In any case, the only way to recover what’s missing is to Communicate!
If your mate stops talking to you, believe it or not, this is an opportunity to communicate! Find out if your mate finds that you are unapproachable, negative, or belittling. These are all areas that can be fixed with a little work. At some point you will have to take time to put everything aside and focus on you two.
There are three things to keep in mind as you start talking again: 1) stay positive, 2) be gentle and 3) show compassion for one another. Don’t make your partner feel like you don’t want to talk or that they may only say certain things to you. Open the floor to those “back in the day” talks. Remember those days -- before the struggles and resentment - when your love was new? Don’t talk for only one night. Call each other throughout the day to say something caring. Anything that’s worth it is hard work. But your hard work will only bring joy to your relationship.
Communication is not always easy for some but think about it, at some point you did it well! You communicated how much you loved each other; you communicated you wanted to spend the rest of your lives together and you communicated that you were in it for better or for worse. Why stop now? Find that special something you had before and work hard and get it back. Welcome communication in your relationship. This builds bonds that cannot be broken – a genuinely stable and healthy relationship.