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Do you Have a Problem with Confrontation?

Updated on April 6, 2017
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How to deal with confrontations

Confrontations

Do you find it an easy task to confront people?

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Confrontation with co-workers

  • How can you blow off steam without burning the bridge?

    The problem is as follows:

    He is the manager at a local butchery works well with his co-worker; they have a fair understanding of their working situation.

    There has been a shortage of stock at the workplace.

    The manager worked alone for a few years and the stock-take figures was all in order.

    Since working with his colleague the stock-take figures have dropped.

    The manager does not know how to confront his co-worker.

    It is difficult for him as they have formed a good working relationship.

    There has been a few incidents noticed about the co-worker due to no cash-slips seen as evidence for the buying of most items.

    The manager did not inquire about such sales. The shortage of stock means the money has to be deducted from the manager's salary.

    The two choices, I see here, is that the co-worker thinks he won't get caught out, or wants the manager out of his job.

    Is the co-worker that stupid to think that the stock-take figures won't show evidence of any stock gone missing?

    · Do you find it an easy task to confront people?

    Confrontation is not always a happy moment for anyone. It all depends on what the situation is and how you choose to cope with the overall incident.

    You want to clear up the air but fail to do so with certain thoughts behind your mind.

    Remember confrontation is not avoidable.

    · Why do you think confrontation should be avoided?

    If you have something to get of your mind try do it right away.

    · What are you waiting for?

    The longer you take the harder it gets on you.

    You can try make all the excuses you want to but confrontation can't be put on hold.

    · Why do you choose to make excuses for confrontation?

    Sometimes you want to avoid pain, and hurt.

    You think that confrontation will cause you to lose a friend.

    The individual can take confrontation harshly and become weak in thought.

    You want to avoid conflict you don't confront them to make you the bad person.

    Confrontation can make you feel stressed out.

    · Do you really need to make yourself all stressed out and bothered about confrontation?

    Confrontation can make any relationship or situation complicated and all worked up.

    If you choose not to attempt any chores that you don’t like make yourself heard.

    Don't keep silent and continue to do what you don't enjoy or don't want to do.

    If you want to make conversation about something that is not right do it immediately to have a clear mind.

    You can also get nervous about confrontations.

    Be honest with yourself and others.

    You can have a good working relationship with co-workers; you should come right out with what is on your mind.

    The problem may get tricky at the beginning but once cleared you can have a peaceful mind.

    In this case if the manager has evidence of why the stock-take figures have dropped and he should have placed his cards on the table immediately.

    The individual should take responsibility for their wrong doing.

    Be the winner or the loser in this game the ball is in your court. Whichever you are it will all work out in the end.

    When you avoid confrontation it becomes harmful to the other individual.

    It would mean the other individual can continue doing what bothers you.

    You should let yourself be heard by the other individual.

    Don't be afraid of hurt or pain.

    In keeping it all in you are only ruining your health.

    To get out what is on your mind do it with ease.

    Do what you know is killing you on the inside.

    When people fail to confront others they are insecure and don't know how to be straight out with people.

    Avoid sweeping the dust under the carpet at some point you will have to get rid of that dust.

    It would start to hurt you in some way.

    Don't cover pain with drugs or alcohol.

    Two people involved in a confrontation can become argumentative and aggressive toward each other.

    Usually the Peron with the problem can be offensive or defensive.

    · How can you be less fearful to Confrontation?

    Prepare yourself for the challenging moment.

    Approach the individual directly.

    As much as you dread confrontation don't be afraid do it.

    Confrontations can be from your past or from your present.

    Don't feel you will disappoint the other.

    Emotions do get in the way and you don't want to look mean to the other person but lets face it you have to deal with confrontation.

    Be in power and show your strengths.

    Don't doubt yourself when in a confrontation.

    It has to work out and you have to get it out of the way.

    Evaluate the problem and take action.

    You must identify the problem and take in the details.

    · Look at the situation from all sides and then ask yourself what to do?

    Don't confront an individual if you are angry that won't go well at all.

    Don't think a confrontation is about fighting that is a wrong way to see a confrontation.

    Speak to the other person respectfully and choose a quiet time to discuss the issue.

    There is no need to confront someone in the presence of others. It should be handled privately.

    Make sure you understand the reason for your confrontation and avoid frustration.

    Don't blame the other person.

    Work it out in a professional manner.

    Confrontations don't always end in great way or in a positive way.

    · Are you eager to open up in a confrontation?

    · Do you love or hate confrontation?

    · What is confrontation about?

    When you confront an individual it is about solving a problem it is not about fighting or arguing.

    If your confrontation is effortless with no huge arguments then you have succeeded in your plan.

    Communication is the key in all relationships.

    Avoid torture and let it out in the open. Do this with a proper plan.

    You can end up with a bad relationship if you choose to set the other right.

    Don't forget confrontation is not about putting that person on the right track it is about you clearing the air.

    You can form a relationship with your co-worker, and think everything is fine and when you see a problem trust is lost right away.

    · How can you work with another and trust that person?

    With trust you see a good working place and a good working partner.

    The little issues which go unnoticed because you feel trust is accomplished won't always show you the truth.

    In this story trust is lost and the co-worker needs to be confronted about the wrong going on in the workplace.

    Keeping silent is another problem in this situation.

    The manager is not positive enough to clear the air here.

    He is not sure of what to do.

    A plan in emotion will solve confrontation moments easily, and whatever the outcome that remains to be seen after all said and done.

    Confrontations don't work out if you are set to fight with the other person.

    Your good approach counts more for the way you handle the confrontation.

    If you fail to confront a co-worker your boss will look at you as high maintenance. The boss will see that you as not doing your work like you should have been in the professional manner.

    You are then blamed for what went wrong.

    · Do you want to be looked at as high maintenance in your position?

How to handle Conflict and Confrontation

Handle Conflict bravely

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      John Hansen 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Good hub Devika, I have always had trouble with confrontation. I wish everyone would do the right thing and try to sort out problems to avoid it. I will stand up for what I believe in though. Voted up.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Confrontation is necessary sometimes. It the motive is right, and respect is in place, the outcome is not be as important as the fact that what needs to be done gets done. It takes courage filtered through humility.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I have no problem with confrontation but I do avoid it 90% of the time. :) Interesting topic this morning.

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      Great hub DDE. We must be able to deal non-violently, maturely and spiritually with confrontations and it should work out okay as long as you're not guilty of wrongdoing. It all depends on the circumstances.

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      Aga 2 years ago

      I am awful when it comes to confrontations. I rather suffer and not say anything, than confront somebody. :-(

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 2 years ago from Philippines

      I hate confrontation, but your article and the video at the end made me realize that confrontation can be a very positive thing. However, there is an art to it and it must be done skillfully. Now, it's time to get me some skills.

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      Mel Carriere 2 years ago from San Diego California

      I love that quote about flowers being grown with rain not thunder. That is excellent advice. I think society teaches especially men that we have to be loud and bombastic when confronting others, and this is why many of us shrink from doing it. Great hub!

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      Shyron E Shenko 2 years ago from Texas

      Devika, good information. I have always had trouble with confrontation. But I will do what needs to be done.

      Thumbs-up UAI, and shared.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Jodah great to have you at my hubs again thank you for the vote up. Your comments mean a lot to me as do the rest of the other comments..

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora,'' It takes courage filtered through humility.'' Well mentioned and so true thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi billbuc thank you very much.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      word55''It all depends on the circumstances.'' That too is another issue about confrontation thank you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Monis Mas confrontation can be made easy if you say it out directly without hesitation. Thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi grand old lady thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Mel Carriere thank you and a great quote indeed.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Shyron E Shenko thank you for Thumbs-up UAI, and shared I appreciate your kindness in stopping by

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      Lisa VanVorst 2 years ago from New Jersey

      Well written article DDE. I am the type of person who tries to avoid confrontation because it causes me such stress. You are right though; sometimes you just have to confront it, discuss it and get whatever is bothering you off your mind. The more you avoid confrontation the more it eats you up in side.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      lisavanvorst thank you for understanding my view about confrontation your presence is always appreciated.

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      Janellegems 2 years ago from United States

      Another Great Hub. At times I do not like to confront, but sometimes it is absolutely necessary and you are right, it must never be done when we are angry. Thanks for sharing the right way to confront with the right heart and right spirit and showing that confrontation is not about arguing and fighting.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Janellegems, thank you for stopping by here. Have a great week.

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      Linda Crampton 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Confrontation is often very difficult. When it is done, it should be done with respect, as you say, Devika. Thanks for sharing some interesting thoughts about confrontation.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you for sharing your kind thoughts here.

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      lyns 2 years ago from USA

      Great hub, confrontation is never easy love the steps you gave on how to deal with confrontation going into it, I love the video as well, it's so true because confrontation is stored in the memory of the brain, this is why I think it's so difficult because of the strong uncomfortable feeling. Thanks for sharing this one on the hub, need more of these great subject and writing voted up. The video is awesome and very true. 75214312p lyns

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      lyns thank you for making the time to stop by

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      Raine Law Yuen 2 years ago from Cape Town

      Interesting points you made. My experience has been that although it is a good thing to confront the situation, people tend to get defensive even when you try to be mature about a situation. I guess some people will work it our with you but my experience has been that people don't like to admit when they are wrong or nasty - even when its painfully evident.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Raine Law Yuen different people think differently thank you once again for stopping by at my hubs.

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      Linda Bilyeu 2 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I have no problem with confrontations. I do prefer to avoid them, but if the circumstance calls for me to confront some one, I surely will.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Sunshine625 thank you for stopping by

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