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Misleading signals?

Updated on March 8, 2014

Do guys always give misleading signals?

Sometimes, I really wonder do guys always give misleading signals? Erm.. I don't really say misleading signals as flirting. It is different. Flirting is a basic instinct, part of human nature. This is not surprising: if we did not initiate eye contact or express any interest in members of the opposite sex, reproduction will not take place and the human species would become extinct. When saying misleading signals, means that guys tends to do the 'wrong actions' toward girls and let the other party misunderstand that he likes her. Often we are the ones being said we are thinking too much.


Signs of flirting

In a lot of cases, when a guy is flirting, I think it is pretty straight forward. Like the blog I had read: "Signs of flirting."

  1. He stares at you a lot.
  2. He hits you a lot. (just play hitting )
  3. He uses the first thing that pops into his head to start a conversation with you
  4. He yelled, "Hi!", to your mom that day she picked you up from school.
  5. He blew off his buds to go see "Run Away Bride" with you cause you couldn't get another girl to go and didn't want to go alone
  6. He tries to make you laugh anyway even if he gets hurt in the process
  7. His voice gets softer ("Hey, you") when ever you two talk
  8. You hung up on him. He called you back
  9. You where invited by him to a group outing
  10. He called you to talk about nothing at all
  11. He imitates your laugh. OK, you do snort sometimes. Which makes you laugh even harder
  12. He remembers little things you mention in casual conversation
  13. He sometimes stares straight into your eyes
  14. He every possible way to touch you (your hair, face, ass, thighs, etc.)



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Misleading... ...

But when I mean by saying 'misleading signals', I mean their actions lead us to think otherwise. A very good example: there is this Mr nice guy in the office. He is always nice to every lady in his office. The way he speaks, the way he looks at the ladies, what can I say. He is an absolute gentleman. Even when having lunch with his female colleague, simple gesture like choose food for her and offers to carry her handbag. Hey! If that Mr nice is not interested in his colleague, obviously that's a wrong signal. And it's very wrong, It will just mislead that lady to think he is interested in her but the fact is not! He is just a gentleman, Mr Nice Guy!

There is nothing wrong when a guy is nice. In this twentieth century, obviously being a gentleman is a plus factor especially when he is with who he likes. What if there isn't any chemistry at all, they are just plain friends. Should there is be a limit in being 'nice'? Usually, girls based on their instinct. When guys overdo, it will lead them to wonder, "does he like me?" There few actions which I really feel that it can be really misleading..


So guys, do take note:

  1. When you going out with a group of girls, please if you want to be a gentleman. Pay attention to all the girls in the group. Don't offer to carry one girl's bag but all. At least, we will that you are a gentleman, not fancy on one.
  2. Talk the same tone to every girl in the office. This is very important that the way you speak, it will give wrong impression of you like her when is not.
  3. Never send any misleading flirting messages to the girls. When messages like: I am all alone in the night. You are just like a star in the night. No matter how lonely I am, I know you are always by my side. If you don't mean it, don't send.
  4. The language of touch. A light touch on a girl's face, hand, etc is a kind of misleading signal.
  5. Humour is an essential element of flirtation but if you misuse it, it becomes misleading. Playful teasing allows the girl to increase the 'personal' content of the exchange and misunderstand that you like her.
  6. Never give those affectionate eye contact.
  7. No misleading words like "I love you", "I miss you", "Don't let me worry about you"...
  8. Never ask a girl out. If there is need to, tell her the reason so that she will not misunderstand.
  9. Always keep a distant posture between you and the girl. This is known as 'non-verbal leakage': sometimes your unintentional feelings 'leak out' in your posture may lead to misunderstanding. Leaning forward, and an 'open' posture are actually signs of attentiveness and interest or liking.
  10. Never, never be too nice


Girls, please wake up

Of course, the lists can just goes on and on. I really feel that guys should take note by not giving any misleading signals cause in the end, he might just says "I'm just being nice" leaving us to wonder, "Does he like me?" or "I think he likes me. He's just not ready to confess."

In the end,"Hellooo! Girl, wake up! He is just not that into you!"

© 2008 plentyoftots

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      Ajacar 

      7 weeks ago

      I met this guy at work, about 6 years ago. I’ve always felt there was an attraction between us but he mostly worked on a different floor. When he was on my floor, I noticed we always stood pretty close together. I always thought there was a mutual attraction, but then I would go back to thinking maybe it was just me. We’ve gone to lunch a couple of times before. A few days ago, I texted him to see if he wanted to go to lunch because my regular lunch buddy was out that day. His response was “I would love to go to lunch with you”. Next day, I get all dressed up to meet him, I was like a school girl with a crush going on a first date. The butterflies were ridicules. When he finally came down, he tried to put his arm around the small of my back, I backed away, but I think I only did that because there were other work people in the lobby and I didn’t want anyone else to see. After the lunch, I felt weird, like it ended abruptly and there should have been something else. Then we both went to our own work floors. The next day, I texted him to see if he was ok, and he said, why, and I said because something felt weird to me yesterday. And he said he missed me. I said so I wasn’t imagining things and he said no. I then asked him so what am I not imagining, and he said you and me. I then sent a smiley face emoji but I haven’t heard back from him. And I can’t stop thinking about him. We are also both married, me 14 years, and him 12. I just wanted to vent, and I can’t vent to anyone I know. Thanks for reading.

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      Savannah 

      5 months ago

      i'm getting mixed signals and don't know what to think. So I've been talking to this guy everyday for about a month now. We've been having deep and personal conversations. When we hang out i catch him staring at me and if he is walking past me he'll sometimes put his and on my back and he finds ways to touch me but that could just be an accident. Now the reason I'm having doubt about his feelings for me is because he calls me dude when we text. Now it does seem like he's not calling dude as much but is still doing it. I don't know what to do or how to feel. I would love hear everyone's input

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      Anonymous 

      6 years ago

      That's true. A simple action from a guy can really mislead a girl into thinking otherwise. It's really dangerous. They should be more careful. And when you realize that the guy isn't into you, the girls will look like fools who think too much.

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      unknown 

      8 years ago

      ... or better yet ASK what his intentions are. You would rather we act like brick walls instead of being friendly and polite? A simple "Why are you hanging around me so much?" will probably get a guy to directly or indirectly give up his desires of the relationship at hand. Is it really that hard?

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      Rianna 

      8 years ago

      There is this boy at my school.I thought he liked me and everyone else did to.Turns out he liked the girls that don't like him then me. Will he ever like me?

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