If you suspect that someone is experiencing domestic violence, ask them about it. Be gentle and tactful don’t push them if they get uptight or angry, and say nothing is wrong. Keep the lines of communication open by saying. ‘ I am really sorry, I just wanted to help, I will always be here if you ever you need to talk’. Then back off, but keep in touch.
If a victim confides in you, it is very important that you take what you are told seriously. If a victim’s experience is trivialized by the listener, the victim may not ask you or any other help in future. This can lead to very bad consequences for the victim.
You must not discuss the disclosure to family or friends, as if the abuser gets wind of it, the victims life maybe put in danger! In addition family or friends may take matters into their own hands.This can have disastrous results.
If the victim decides that they wish to remain or return to an abusive partner, do not show your disappointment , anger or frustration to them. If you do this, they may cut you off, and will also be unlikely to ask for your help or confide in you in future when they need help. This has led to some being maimed or even killed.
You must not trivialize the abuse suffered by the victim, because although it may not be physical, Sexual, verbal, financial and emotional abuse can be just as harmful, and in most cases, usually leads to physical abuse.
Show the victim that you care by supporting them. You can do this by always being availablreto listen, letting them know they can ring you at anytime, giving them a place. to stay or helping them find one, cooking for them, giving them clothes, going to appointments with them ETC.
When you feel they are ready, give them informaton about domestic violence . you could give them websites to look at, or take them to speak to a professional who can help.