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Domestic volence: How you can help the victim? 7 important tips!

Updated on March 3, 2012

domestic violence : supporting the victim

  • If you suspect that someone is experiencing domestic violence, ask them about it. Be gentle and tactful don’t push them if they get uptight or angry, and say nothing is wrong. Keep the lines of communication open by saying. ‘ I am really sorry, I just wanted to help, I will always be here if you ever you need to talk’. Then back off, but keep in touch.
  • If a victim confides in you, it is very important that you take what you are told seriously. If a victim’s experience is trivialized by the listener, the victim may not ask you or any other help in future. This can lead to very bad consequences for the victim.
  • You must not discuss the disclosure to family or friends, as if the abuser gets wind of it, the victims life maybe put in danger! In addition family or friends may take matters into their own hands.This can have disastrous results.
  • If the victim decides that they wish to remain or return to an abusive partner, do not show your disappointment , anger or frustration to them. If you do this, they may cut you off, and will also be unlikely to ask for your help or confide in you in future when they need help. This has led to some being maimed or even killed.
  • You must not trivialize the abuse suffered by the victim, because although it may not be physical, Sexual, verbal, financial and emotional abuse can be just as harmful, and in most cases, usually leads to physical abuse.
  • Show the victim that you care by supporting them. You can do this by always being availablreto listen, letting them know they can ring you at anytime, giving them a place. to stay or helping them find one, cooking for them, giving them clothes, going to appointments with them ETC.
  • When you feel they are ready, give them informaton about domestic violence . you could give them websites to look at, or take them to speak to a professional who can help.

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      Titi Ajayi 5 years ago

      Thanks for the information. Trivalizing the abuse is really dangerous. Not believing is far more dangerous. To be able to help, one needs to develop the skills and awareness......reading in between the lines you may say, Genuine concern goes a long way.

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      Mrs L A Gibb 5 years ago

      may I correct my message above, rhe second sentence should read. Thats what we all hope our works what we write on about abuse to save someones life.

      my article on hub pages is a christmas wish for every one to share

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      mrslagibb 5 years ago

      thank you for your reply. It will and should help some one someday. Thats what we all hope our works what we write on about abuse ti save sineibes kufe, I have written a couple articles myself under a pen name. But hub pages are proud that people write their own unique work. I think my articles are unique, but because they are under a pen name It seems that I am not allowed to publish them under my real name. I have written to hub pages about this but I got no response so far about it.

      If you would like to read these articles.

      http://beyondjane.com/women/domestic-violenceabuse...

      http://socyberty.com/advice/coping-with-an-abused-...

      Like you all, I want is to save someone's life.

      if you like you can read a hub that I have already go on here.http://mrslagibb.hubpages.com/hub/A-Christmas-Wish...

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      tracy imevbore 5 years ago from england

      i know, the danger is that you begin to think its your imaginaton if no one believs! that caan then lead to mental health issues

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      seekingpeace91 5 years ago

      Thanks for this hub- great advice to help someone who needs it. The line about not trivializing the abuse is so true! Too often people say, "it can't be that bad." Making this mistake with a victim can be so dangerous for them, in many ways.

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      Serena Gabriel 5 years ago

      Good list. Sometimes the signs are there for a while before the actual violence starts.

      Voted up!

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      tracy imevbore 5 years ago from england

      thank you i hope it helps someone stay alive.

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      Mrs L A Gibb 5 years ago

      thats real good advice.

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