Don't Love Anyone to the Point of Losing Yourself

Sometimes in a relationship, we love so hard that we lose our Identity. I for one, have been there, done that; when I was younger. When we're young you want to be a perfect person to the one you love. We often go out of our way to please and satisfy our mate, to show them how much we love them. We"re never suppose to love anyone to our destruction, love is good but not that good.

In any relationship we have to always love ourselves just a little more. When we were young and in love, we didn't know any better, but once we have been through the wringer and gained some experience and knowledge; we know better. I believe in love and in loving my mate, but not to my detriment. I'm just as important as my mate. Never let your mate be your God, because if you do; you will be taken advantaged of and misused and abused.

We all know that God has our best interest at heart and would never do anything to hurt or harm us. The power of our love is in the hand of our lover or mate, but we're giving them power they don't they deserve. All I'm saying is to love someone, but always love through sane actions not insane actions. If you want to be happy in love, then aways put your self and what you want and need first.

I'm not saying not to give your 50% in the relationship, all I'm saying is never give total control of your life to anyone but God. If we give total control to man, our lives will be very unhappy and in constant turmoil. We should love yes, control no. Try to make the right choices, in who we pick as our mate. If he's loving , respectable and know God, I think we have a great chance of having a great future in loveland If we think about our needs as well as our mate or spouse.

Benny Faye Douglass (C) Copywrite 2009