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Being friends with your ex, does it work in the long run?
Things to think about
If you want to be able to move on and find a relationship that works, you cannot let your ex in the position to throw a wrench in the new relationship. Your new mate will definitely be jealous over the ex that continues to hang around and the new man will also think that you are not over your ex. I have experience with this.
When I was in my freshman year in high school I made best friends with this boy and then after we graduated we started to date, after promising to always remain friends, three years later he was cheating on me and I left him. I tried to remain friends as we promised but he would throw a wrench into every relationship I had from there on, even if there were boundaries in place. Finally I decided to give him up over a year and half ago, after 13 years of friendship, and now I have this incredible relationship with a man (i met a year ago on the 31st of October) that is more than I could have imagined a man would be. I really thought of my ex as my soul-mate, but I was wrong...there was a reason it didn't work and honestly if we would have ever tried again it would have been the same all over again and I would have missed out on the man I have now.
I think if you want to move on with your life, you need to move on with your life. How much baggage do you want to carry into any new relationship? And how would you feel if you hooked up with a guy who was best friends with his ex and they were hanging out and still close? Could you honestly deal with being the third wheel and would you be okay with that?
I am not saying it isn't possible to stay friends but often one or the other in the ex-dating situation is secretly hoping to have their ex has a fall back in the long run. So what is best for you? If you plan on having them as a fall back, then why waste time? Just get back together and work out your problems , you obviously don't want to let them go. Why continuously hurt them and yourself and risk bringing others into the situation to get hurt by you both?