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Falling In Love On-line

Updated on May 11, 2011

Giving your heart in Cyberland

Can one fall in love on line and can it ever truly be as real as love off-line. This has been a question for many since the internet appear on our little home PC's. Thank you, Bill Gates, for that. Fallimg in love on-line is not so far away from the "pen-pal" world that my generation grew up with. Especially during War time, many young loves blossomed from simple kind words sent to a soldier far away. Soldiers far away from their home land looked for and even depended on those letters to take them through another day, just one more night of bombs and gun fire and the sounds of thier commrads dieing. This is true no matter what war or what country was fighting.
Falling in love, with only a possible chance of ever meeting, was a way of life. Then along came a spider... the internet web, and the pen-pal era was simply taken to a new level. No longer did we have to wait weeks to hear back from the one we wanted to meet. Suddenly, the world that was so very far away was right in our living room. It wasnt going to take 20 letters and 52 weeks to fall in love. Sweet words of passion and desire could be sen in less than an instant. Our hearts could be captured in a blink of an eye and the willingness of lovers flying or driving to meet became common.
Some were simply one time meetings, some for friendship but many for "More." There were kind and sweet people. The "Oops, did I say I looked like Brad Pitt? I meant ..." bad people as well as good people surfed the net in search of love, lust and friendship. Predetors that looked for their prey became evident and some shrunk away from the net because of hurt and pain and broken hearts that came with the meeting and or falling in love. And the question remained... is the love found here on the internet as real as love found off line??? And the answer, without a doubt, is YES!!!! Love found on the net is as powerful as any love found. It is invigorating and strong and more real than some think it may become. The love leaves us wanting to meet and causes people to sometimes not think as clearly as they should. The pain of a heart break on line is powerful enough to cause people to feel it deeply and to make them go as far as to shut their internet off ... forever. If the pain causes our hearts to be torn into shreds and causes us to cry for days, then the love we felt before the break was and IS as real as the pain.
Love is love, no matter where it begins. The heart follows a path that takes us to new places. The excitement of Falling in love, of being in love, is powerful and it can be the most beautiful feeling in this world. I know this feeling and I have shared sweet words and passionate moments on line and Yes, I have fallen in love right here, on line. I have met and touched some of the most beautiful ladies in this world and have felt love that is real and deep. And yes, I have known and I have caused the pain that I spoke of. I have been both on the receiving end and the giving end of sad love and heart break.
If there were a downside to falling in love on-line, and there IS, it is the fact that we touch so many lives. Sugar coated words are easily transfered from screen to screen. Love is everywhere and lust is easily found. The idea of being true to one is sometimes lost on-line because it is too easy to be several "places" at one time. IF you do find true love here and YES it is here, then take that leap. But remember, until you are side by side, you only know what you see on your screen. My heart Loves and knows of this Internet love... It is a beautiful. dangerous, exciting, heart wrenching adventure... Take a ride...............


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      Darrel Day 6 years ago from Iowa

      pedrn44, thank you for reading this and for your comments. Never one for one night stands or the "bar scene" I agree with you. I think that bar scenes often cater to the one night stand thing and that leaning over and whispering sweet nothing in the ear of someone that is feeling "chemistry" from the drinks is for me, unappealing. On line, though yes, you can meet some rather frightening creatures, you have a chance to get to know someone without the awkwardness of making yourself vulnerable. If red flags go up, you can simply "click" and move on. 1/5 of relationships and marriages are a result of on-line meeting. For those it doesnt work for, I say, ok... for those that it does, I say... o.k. It is a person own inside feelings. Thank you so much for your comments. Always, Darrel

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      Sandi 6 years ago from Greenfield, Wisconsin

      I too tried online dating and am currently with someone I met 2 years ago. I had my share of meeting people who totally misrepresented themselves online and those that were exactly who they said they were but there was no chemistry when we met in person. I think online dating is a better way to meet people than hanging out at bars or just waiting for that chance encounter. Thanks so much for sharing:)

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      Darrel Day 6 years ago from Iowa

      jami, thank you for reading this hub.It is, as you say, a little scarey sometimes and Yes, certainly there are probably more often than not, those that are NOT who or what they say they are. That is sometimes not a chance some are willing to take and I do understand. For all the ladies that came to "visit", yep, there were a couple that were well, not in control of their emotions, so to say. I encountered a few that were scarey. lol BUT, also, there are a few out there, that are honest and what you saw on-line was exactly whom you met, when you did meet. I have NEVER been one to feel a need to be anyone other than what or who I am. I am a writer, a lover, a friend, passionate, bipolar, laughing, crying, poet, sometimes a bit anxietically high, but I am ALWAYS exactly who you knew Here, when you meet me "There". lol

      I have truly met and loved some beautiful ladies, so I know that it is there. and as for You beingstraight and honest and mean and a snorer... lol, thats ok, because at least you warn people. lol "Roll over" is something we snorers get used to hearing. lol Thank you for reading and commenting. Always, Darrel

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      jami l. pereira 6 years ago

      Right after my divorce in 2003 , i had a friend that met a man online and they married , i was in awe ,and then a couple years down the road , another friend and two the following year , i guess im just chicken , it creeps me out to think of being with a stranger , because they only tell you what you wnat to hear and what sounds "good" in chatting online , me? well , ive always given it too them straight LOL im mean , ornery , hateful sometimes and I snore ! LOL and they usually run with their tails between their legs ! HAHA!!! This was a cool Hub ! i voted up all the way and the same on the Hub "At The Mall"

      Except funny ocourse. online dating is scarey have a great evening !:)

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      Darrel Day 6 years ago from Iowa

      I agree with you. Until you look in their eyes, you can not see the reality and truth or the deceit that lies with in. The averages for marriages and relationships on-line has increased 10 fold in the past 4 years. Will have to wait and see what the longevity is...

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      Becky 6 years ago

      Interesting and true. Sometimes, it is falling in love with a script, but it is love. I believe that watching a person in their interactions with others is the only real way to know their character.

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      Darrel Day 6 years ago from Iowa

      Saddle, I read and followed your words closely. I understand the loss, though mine came in the form of Heaven taking My love of 24 years from me. I still deal nearly daily but have managed to continue in my second love, Writing. Life finds a way of moving on even if we sometimes fall behind how quickly life wants to move forward.

      I have found and loved some of the most beautiful ladies and have found comfort, love and friendship ever lasting in some of them. The "on-line " love is as real as it gets. Thank you for reading me and for your comment. I wish for you only the very best in life and love.

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      saddlerider1 6 years ago

      I have had some interesting times on-line chatting and met a few ladies, had some fun and laughs. It helped me drown my sorrows from losing a marriage of 19 years and the love of 3 of my 4 children. There are often severe penalties imposed by one or the other spouse. In my case my ex told me with a very determined look, when you divorce me, I will see to it that you are divorced from your children.

      She won, I lost without going into any further details. My heart was shattered, so going online for me was trying to seek comfort and solace from another woman. It was to soon to fast and I finally backed away from chatting online and simply became a reclusive Poet.

      My Muse works on me and digs deep into my soul trying to heal me and it's working, by me lifting my Quill and spilling my soul out at the Hubs. Nice to meet you Sir, I look forward to following you and reading more of your scribes.

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      Darrel Day 7 years ago from Iowa

      It is nice to see you here. Thank you for reading my writing. Your G-mother is a very dear friend to me. I'll have a look at your hubs and again, thank you.

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      Alyssa Ann 7 years ago

      This is really good. I like it a lot. It seems interesting. And in case you don't know who I am, I'm Susan Bookman's granddaughter. :) I'm definalty going to read more of your hubs. Susan said your short stories are so good. Haha :) Check my hubs out if you get a chance. :)


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