- Gender and Relationships
Fate is a funny thing...
What is fate?
According to the internet, Fate is "the development of events beyond a person's control, regarded as determined by a supernatural power."
Not everyone believes in fate, but it is a deciding factor in how things turn out in life; at least in my opinion. Things happen for a reason, even if one doesn't understand the reason behind it. So many things in my past I never understood why they happened...Until I grew up and began to realize that certain events and meetings led me to where I am and who I am today. Without this realization, I would probably still be wondering why all these things keep happening to me.
My dealings with fate
My awareness began in 2008 when I came down to visit Florida on vacation. My dad passed away while I was down here, but I realized it was good that it happened when I wasn't there because I don't think I would have been able to handle it had I been there when my mom discovered him. The next odd thing that happened was where he ended up being buried (section 8) in Quantico, and then me getting the letter for section 8 approval that I waited on for 4 years. I had no trouble transferring it down to Florida, and then I found an apartment on the same street as my friend John (what are the odds?).
After a couple years of being down here I decided to start college. There were times I wanted to quit, but John kept me going. Without him I don't think I would have remained motivated enough to continue. Everything worked out for me to get my Associates degree and then transfer to a University to get my Bachelors degree. Losing him right before my graduation for my Bachelors degree was very hard, but I continued anyway.
After graduation I was hopeful a job was waiting for me, but none came. I ended up hanging out with someone who was bad for me, but I was lonely and needing a male friend to keep me company. That ended badly because I could no longer deal with his crap. The very next day I got on the bus and had a fate encounter with someone whom I instantly connected with. It was the strangest thing ever. I've never been fond of talking to random people, but something about him made me instantly comfortable; especially after finding we were both from Virginia. Within a couple weeks of meeting him, my dog had an incident that caused paralysis in all 4 legs and he was in need of constant care. My roommate couldn't handle the situation and left me to deal with it on my own. Thank goodness the guy I met on the bus was still around and, without question, took over the duties of caring for my dog. He was such a blessing to me! He was supportive of me while I tried to cope with everything going on, and he was there when, two weeks later, I had to make the decision to put my dog down due to liver failure. It was such a difficult time for me, but he was there for me.
Now, as the year 2015 comes to a close, I have been contemplating my next step in life. I have decided to enroll in an online MSW program through Simmons School of Social Work. I am also happy to announce that I am still with the guy I met on the bus. Our meeting that day was one that neither him nor I expected, but we are both happy to have found one another. I don't know what tomorrow will bring, and we've both had some tough challenges lately, but I think together we are going to have a happy future together. I never thought life would lead me to someone who truly cares about me and likes me for who I am, and treats me how I've always wished to be treated; there are no words for the amazement I feel when he expresses his feelings for me at random. He's afraid of doing something that will make me not want him in my life anymore, but I continue to reassure him that the feelings I have for him aren't going anywhere, and neither am I. It's gonna be a long road, but I think this may be what I never thought I'd find, but always hoped that the one for me was out there somewhere. I'm not getting my hopes up too much, but I can't deny my feelings; and I am so happy that he shows me his feelings toward me so that there is no doubt. Maybe 2016 will be a great year. I'm keeping my hopes up that it will be better than 2015 turned out to be. I am so thankful for everything I had to go through this year as it reminded me that life is precious and one should never forget to show others how much they care.
Here's to a Prosperous and Happy 2016!