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Feelings and Emotions: What is the Best Way to Express Yourself Without Getting into Trouble?
What is the best way to describe the word feelings? It sounds like such an abstract word that it's often hard to fully define to express without falling into a routine cliche. All that we know is that feelings aren't logic base, but something totally intuition based. Your mind, body and soul all know when something or someone is bothering you. The only problem is that you don't know the perfect outlet to express or channel your complicated emotions without going medieval on your life. Okay, dealing with your emotional turmoil/excess baggage isn't an easy task. It never is something that can be sorted through in a day or two. Sometimes it can take months or even years to sort through all the complication stuff that runs inside your head and makes you tick.
The first step to learning how to express your feelings is to find something that allows you say what you're feeling without saying it directly to avoid interfering with someone's feelings. Once you find your outlet, stick with it no matter what. Here are three possible routes you can take to truly express what you're feeling without crossing too many lines. Read on to see if you found your passion or something else to point you in the right direction.
Confrontational Payback- Okay, this may sound like the worst possible idea, but read on further before dismissing the idea entirely. The most polite definition of the word revenge is to confront those that wronged you in the past or present. It doesn't have to be with violent means like in the movie Seeking Justice where a husband (Nicolas Cage) confronts the men who attacked his wife (January Jones) by any means necessary. The idea is very extreme, but Cage's character took a proactive approach in dealing with his pain. The best way to confront a friend who has humiliated you is to make sure you let them know that what they did was wrong. Put your feelings out there without turning malicious. There's no need to be like the people who betrayed you. Make them aware that karma is a nightmare and will turn around to get them one day soon. You just have to sit around and wait patiently without letting your smile be too noticed when that day comes.
Artful Imagination- Do you have an inner ballerina that is dying to come out and not an opportunity to perform? In the movie Black Swan, Nina (Natalie Portman) is desperate to become the star of New York dance company's the latest production that had her playing dual roles as a black and white swan. She was believable as the white swan with her innocent demeanor, but she was too closed off to be the more sexually free black swan. She was in direct competition with another dancer (Mila Kunis) who was everything she wasn't. Nina was willing to do everything it took to win. All she needed to do was let go of everything, even her sanity. That's the ultimate challenge of expressing your emotions as an artist: letting go of your feelings without going completely over the edge. Find your limits and learn to define a line in the sand without stepping too far over it, unless that's the plan. Another example would be the movie Midnight in Paris where a writer (Owen Wilson) travels to Paris and ended up in an unlikely adventure that started a whole new journey for him that caused him to change his life for the better. Sometimes the best trip is the one that makes you realize that your routine needs to be shaken up before it's too late.
Love and Friendship- What's the greatest outlet to unburden your emotional burdens? Find the right companion to confess all your secrets, but not to the point where they feel like a therapist instead of a friend or loved one. In the movie The Other Woman, Emilia (Natalie Portman) is dealing with the guilt of losing her child by bonding with her stepson (Charlie Tahan). The relationship was based on questionable circumstances, but it evolved into something genuine in the end. Another example of a friendship forming in the oddest of circumstances would be the movie Unknown where a man (Liam Neeson) who lost his memory bonded with a cabbie (Diane Krueger) as they tried to figure out his true identity. They also tried to survive in the process, which was more challenging. It made their relationship surprisingly stronger than either of them ever expected. It was the beginning of a beautiful friendship.
In the end, it's simply best to let your feelings be known. Many doctors would say keeping everything bottled up inside would be more painful than any physical pain. Find your happy medium and express yourself freely. That's exactly what Dr. Feelgood would prescribed if he or she had a prescription pad handy. Take that advise and run with it, within reason of course.