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5 Easy Tips to Keep a Secret
Disclaimer to 5 Easy Tips to Keep a Secret
The 5 tips to keep a secret are not about legal issues, criminal activities or wrongdoings that one should not do in the first place. The secrets I will be discussing are those of a light nature and can be as simple as you going off your diet, splurging for a day, and telling your best friend all the details but instructing him or her not to tell your significant other, or someone else about your slip up. That secret is between the two of you. In other words, my 5 easy tips to keep a secret are about light-hearted revelations.
What is a Secret?
Before I discuss the 5 ways to keep a secret, let me explain exactly what a secret is. A secret is an action, information, or something of a confidential nature told to you with clear instructions not to divulge it to anyone else. The secret is shared by two people. The one who has the secret to tell, and the person the secret is told to.
Of course there are some absolutely personal secrets that you may want to keep to yourself. My article is not about personal secrets because the process of keeping secrets to yourself is very straight-forward. You just do not discuss your secret with anyone. The secret information is for you, and for you alone. It's at your own discretion if you want to share your personal secrets with anyone.
5 Easy Tips to Keep a Secret
Now that we have the preliminaries out of the way, it is a good time to start discussing the five tips to keep a secret.
1. Decline to Listen to the Secret
If you know right off the bat that you cannot keep a secret, then tell the secret-giver you rather not know about his or her secret. Depending on how well you know the person, you can let him or her know that you may unintentionally let the secret out of the bag, so it would be best not to tell you the secret in the first place.
2. Put the Secret Out of Your Mind
This may be difficult to do, because someone just told you a secret that you are not to spread to anyone else. You may have to play a mind game and simply first acknowledge that you indeed heard the secret, then just like you delete emails and they go to the recycle bin or are permanent deleted -- imagine that you have emptied your secrets "recycle bin" and you no longer have access to it or want to retrieve the secret.
Are you good at keeping secrets?
3. Do Not Go Against Your Own Word
There is a saying "To thine ownself be true." Remember this saying and let honesty rule. Let's say someone told you a secret and you vowed not to reveal to anyone. If you go against your word, you are at most a liar and a dishonest person. Is this how you would like to be described? I think not. So once the secret is revealed to you, let your sense of honesty and integrity overcome any urges you may have to tell the secret to someone else.
4. Put the Secret in File 13
Write the secret down and promptly discard, or shred the paper upon which the secret was written. Physically dispose it in file 13 or the trash. Even though you are not divulging the secret verbally to anyone, the act of writing the secret down should lift the burden of you having to keep the secret to yourself. In a way, you have shared it on paper -- now you must promptly get rid of it.
5. Use Your Power of Empathy
Feel empathy for the person who just told you his or secret and act accordingly. How? Simply put yourself in the other person's place who just told you the secret, and imagine how distraught you would feel if a secret you told someone was out in the open. Look at the situation from the other person's point of view. The results could be devastating, depending on what the secret is. By so doing, you may be prone to keep the secret rather than tell all.
Other Tips to Keep A Secret
I'm sure there are more tips to keep a secret. However, if you start with these 5 easy tips, you will be well on your way to not only keeping secrets but having a clear conscience as well.