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Follow your heart or follow your head?
Is there any logic when it comes to love?
Most people, if not everyone, come to a crossroads in life when you have 2 paths to choose from. The "heart" path or the "head" path.
The "heart" path is the path that doesn't make sense. It's illogical in nature. Everyone has heard the expression "love is blind." And that, my friends, is a true statement. People fall in love with other people that they should not fall in love with. People do things for love that aren't always the best decisions. Maybe you're a young man who has discovered that he is homosexual? Maybe you're 17 years old and the "love of your life" asks you to marry him. Or maybe you fall in love with someone when you're dating someone else. The illogical thing to do is to give in to your feelings and desires without caring about the consequence. Rarely there is no consequence. But, on the other side, you don't care about the consequences because to you, love and following your heart is the most important thing.
The "head" path is the path that is logical. You ignore the feelings in your soul for the sake of "doing the right thing." But, I ask, when is the right thing, the RIGHT thing? Just like people who follow their heart; people who follow their head don't always make the best decisions. These people are the people who end up regretting their decisions in the short and long term. If you're a young man and you ignore your homosexuality...you're going to end up unhappy. If you're 17 years old and the "love of your life" asks you to marry him and you say "no."..You'll always think about what might have been if you had said yes. The same goes for the person who falls for someone when they're with someone else.
Older people tend to follow their "heads" more often. They have important things to consider...especially if they have children. As much as you love your child or children, you have to realize that in the long-run, they are going to want you to be happy. This is something many of us struggle with. If you're single and dating, you tend to think "is this person good for me? Is this person good for my children?" Chances are, if they love you, they will love your children; in turn, making them a good match for you. Older people (like myself) need to stop thinking so damn much. But you have to keep in mind that love IS blind, and maybe you look over the fact that the person you love is hurting you in some way. It's a touchy and confusing subject...to say the least.
I've always been a "head person." I've made decisions that probably were not the best, just because they seemed like the right thing to do. BUT, as I get older and as I think about the matter, I realize that it's always best to follow your heart. Do what's in your heart & soul. Have faith. My new favorite saying is: "I'd rather regret the things I've done than to regret the things I have failed to do." And I'm sure a lot of people would agree with me.
Let me give you the ultimate example: Jesus. A man who loved us so much that he died for us. We believe that Jesus died for us and we love him in return...not because it's logical, but because it's what's in our hearts and souls...it's our faith. Do you think Jesus regrets dying for our sins? I don't believe so. Do you think you'll ever regret accepting and loving Jesus? Again, I don't believe so.
Back to the 'heart' of this message... I'm no expert on dating or even love. And I don't claim to be. I'll leave you with this, follow your heart. BUT, keep your eyes open, don't close off the rest of the world. Have faith in love...but love cautiously.
Thank you for reading.