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Updated on June 24, 2011

To all my dear friends,

I'm sorry I haven't been around much to read and comment on your wonderful hubs - I will rectify that soon. I've been doing more therapy this summer hoping to be able to return to work by autumn.

I've also discovered a new hubber and I've been talking with him. His name is Sanjay and you may have seen him on here as Babasanju. He is getting ready for an arranged marriage in India. He has such a positive attitude and is so full of love, faith and anticipation for his new life. I didn't really know anything about arranged marriages before I started talking to him and I didn't know how common they still are.

He's begun a hub series on what its like - his journey, feelings and sort of an education about arranged marriage in such a loving positive light - I wanted to share it with you. If you get a chance, please read.

I'll be back to visit you all soon, and writing soon too hopefully.

Love and Blessings,



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    • sligobay profile image


      7 years ago from east of the equator

      Erin darlin, you are a true poetic spirit, rising and falling like a chest full of heart and lung, full of inspiration and waiting to exhale. Keep your heart full and open and the blessings will flow. gerry

    • Erin LeFey profile imageAUTHOR

      Erin LeFey 

      7 years ago from Maryland


      I'm not going anywhere, I just was not writing as often as I had been. I couldn't live being away from you and all my friends at hubpages! My next trip is to go to Arizona for a week in sept, but I plan to write then, although I may have to post when I get back.

      Thanks so much for your words, you are right - arranged marriages aren't in our culture - so our journey is to take the advice that we can or will when we are young and do the best with it that we think at the time. So we make some mistakes - but because of that, we are very strong in spirit and learn to be resilient and hopefully wise along the way.

      I think that's what makes life such a journey and I like that I don't know what tomorrow holds, I like hearing about everyone's journey and its what keeps us open and so tolerant of others.

      blessings and hugs!!

    • sligobay profile image


      7 years ago from east of the equator

      Hello Erin and be well. Both you and Martie look great. Others aren't responsible for the way we feel. They are often a distraction from the way we truly feel about ourselves. Acceptance of ourselves and where we are along our journey is a healing step that Sanjay has climbed. An arranged marriage may have worked out better for me but that was not a part of my culture. I will follow Sanjay at your suggestion and will look forward to your eventual return. Take this time for you and be well. Hugs, Gerry

    • Erin LeFey profile imageAUTHOR

      Erin LeFey 

      7 years ago from Maryland

      Hi Ruby and Nell,

      Great to see you both! I think you will find the hubs a great read, informative, passionate and funny! He is an awesome writer, storyteller and human being. He's only 27 though, so I've gotten used to being the "wise ancient one"...or "old" lol.

      Brightest Blessings to you!

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      Nell Rose 

      7 years ago from England

      Hi, Erin, I will definitely go and take a look, and I hope you are feeling better, glad to see you!

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      7 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Hello Erin, I will be happy to learn about arranged marriages, i know it's accepted in other parts of the world. Who knows, it might be the best. Be well my friend.


    • Erin LeFey profile imageAUTHOR

      Erin LeFey 

      7 years ago from Maryland

      Will, that's what Sanjay is teaching me. He seemed so receptive to the idea of sharing that idea with others, he's now hubbing about it, and I'm learning so much. You're right, I think that many people confuse "arranged marriages" with "forced marriages". Thanks so much for commenting and visiting.

    • WillStarr profile image


      7 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      In today's romantic world, arranged marriages get a bad rap, but in reality, they had much to offer as long as the two intendeds were receptive to the idea.

    • Erin LeFey profile imageAUTHOR

      Erin LeFey 

      7 years ago from Maryland


      I was thinking the EXACT thing!!!

      Love and blessings!


      Doesn't it sound good? I'd sure give up some of my decision-making for some time off!

      Love and blessings.

    • Katharella profile image


      7 years ago from Lost in America

      Hi Erin, yes feel better soon! Hey and sounds like a good idea, when my fiance' gets here I'll make him do all the arrangements while I watch football! Oh wait... I don't like football, guess I'll have to resort to soap operas :)

      Take care, your fans will be here waiting! -Kath

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      7 years ago

      Hi Erin...maybe that was my problem all along....I didn't have an arranged marriage. lol..

      Hope you are feeling better soon.

      Take care....Mary

    • Erin LeFey profile imageAUTHOR

      Erin LeFey 

      7 years ago from Maryland

      Thanks Martie, and by the way, YOU look GREAT! Love looks great on you!

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      Martie Coetser 

      7 years ago from South Africa

      Hi Erin, it will surely be interesting to know how arranged marriages work in the 21st century. Thanks for the link. I hope you will be fine by autumn. Just do what you've got to do and, I believe, everything will turn out for the best.


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