- Gender and Relationships
Friends: Who Needs Them!
Why do people come into your life and stay for a couple of years and then just leave? I mean is that how friendship works??? Are we just supposed to take it and say "well okay"? I don't get it..
When I was in high school I met Jason and Rebecca(Becca) and even though I was older than them we still got along great. Jason was like a little brother to me. We went through a lot together and Becca was hilarious. Her and I were like two peas in a pod. After I graduated I moved and things were rough for about 9 months, but when I moved back everything seemed to be just fine. Well when they graduated which was 2 years later, Jason moved away and we stopped talking. Which to me was weird. I don't ever remember him and I getting into a fight about something or one of us ending the friendship. I was super depressed because I missed him so much. I started calling him and trying to get us to meet, but he wouldn't talk to me and I didn't understand why. 5 years passed and even though I moved on I never forgot him and I never really understood what had happened... until New Years Eve 2011. I got a text from him saying that we were cool and that everything is fine.. I was like ""OHHH HELL NO!!" I texted him back asking him why he totally ignored me for 5 years. His responds was literally ridiculous! He said that he had thought that for some "STRANGE" reason I had been using him.. I was so mad. I sent this huge text message to him saying that I never used him. If I did would I have been there for him when things were bad, would I have let him live with me when his mother kicked him out of his house, would I have treated him like family if I used him?? A part of me is happy that we're talking and that I have him in my life again, but the other part of me is so mad and sad because I know its never going to be the same friendship as it was so long ago. A big part of me always thought that if we ever rekindled that the friendship would always stay as it was. Boy was I a fool.
Now Becca and I were still really good friends when Jason moved away. I think about a year later she started getting really sick and she wasn't able to hang out at all. I tried my best to see her and call her almost everyday, but I had a life of my own and I had a job, I was living with my fiance and I was trying to plan my wedding. I tried to come over and call when I could, but everytime she would always be sleeping and not want to hang out.. So I gave up. I moved on. I had my wedding and I didn't invite her or her family, because I wasn't talking to any of them. That was when shit hit the fan. As of today Ms. Becca is still mad at me because she see's it as I left her when she was sick. that and I didn't invite her to my wedding. She doesn't want to hear my side of the story and that's fine. I have moved on, I have found more friends. I don't need her in my life. I do miss our friendship and all the memories, but if she's going to be an immature brat about it, then so be it!