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Being Gay In Todays Society

Updated on January 30, 2010

Coming Out

 Coming out is one of the hardest most difficult parts of being gay because you can’t move forwards until you come out, but you are also afraid to because your a mixture of emotions such as:

·What people might say?

·Losing your friends?

·Your families reaction?

·Being beaten, attacked or worse?

·Afraid of yourself and your reaction?

Trust me when you accept what you are others will accept you, for more details about this turn to the acceptance page.

Coming out is a big step and I will explain the above points mentioned.

People will always say plenty about you regardless of your gender,race or religion that’s life its up to you how you deal with it, personally I don’t listen to them as that is their opinion and not mine.

Friends will come and go in this life however if they can not accept who or what you are then they are not real friends and you are best getting rid of them because a real friend does not care what you are but likes you for being you.

Families are a tough one because we don’t all come from loving families like some and well in my case my family already knew what I was and when I told my mother she replied 'your still the child I carried for 9 months and I love you unconditionally.’ however it was not all rosy as I have other family members that don’t speak to me but it does not bother me nor should it bother you in todays society we are accepted and therefore your family should accept it but if you not comfortable get a friend to come with you for support. Don’t do it on your own if you are afraid and if you don’t get the reaction you wanted well its your decision not theirs but you don’t need their permission to be gay that is who you are and your identity.

Remember as long as you have told them what you are then and only then can you move on,

it sounds easy and for some it is but its up to you how and when you do it, its your life and your decision if your family can not accept that then its their loss not yours.

If you feel threatened have some one you trust and who knows that you are gay come with you and if you are the victim of an attack report it, you are not alone in this quest for acceptance we have all been there and understand what you are going through.

If you afraid of your reaction maybe you are not ready to come out, don’t worry that does not mean you wont come out, it means you need to get a little more confident and more at ease with yourself, it takes some people years before they come out, but it all depends on you and if you have accepted it yourself.

One little thing to remember if you have just came out or about too, not every one is against you even though its all new to you and your emotions are all over the spot and you wish to make a statement like its your private quest. Don’t lash out at those who love you and don’t flaunt it down peoples throats, this only leads to trouble and you could get hurt, trust me its not that bigger deal. .

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      Julianna 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

      I believe that all people have a right to be understood, cared for , respected and loved. It is so sad that people are treated horribly because of there sexual choices. People are born gay not everyone is born straight. God made all of us in his own image therefore we are all a part of him. :)

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      Callum 7 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland, UK (At Home With My Wonderful Partner)

      That is true I xx I just hope other people will take that view. xx

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      Isabelle22 7 years ago from Somewhere on the coastline

      I cannot even think how hard it would be for a gay person to come out. I have a very close friend who still has not come out to his friends only his family as he is seen as a macho guy and has women falling at his feet. No matter whether you are gay or straight, it doesn't change who you are.

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      Callum 7 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland, UK (At Home With My Wonderful Partner)

      Yeah its really hard for them to come out nowadays especially with the widespread bigotry we face for being gay. But in his own time he will x x and when he does he will a good supportive friend like you beside him thats all that matters x

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