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How to Get Over a Break Up
Almost everyone experienced the same heart-wrecking situation. Getting over a break up is something easy or difficult depending on how deep your emotional investment on a relationship is. How soon depends on your will to move on. It may take a little or long time. No one can help you as much as you can help yourself. Try to do these things to help you recover from a break up.
Forgive the person for all the pains he/she have caused you. You can't have peace of mind, you cannot move on and live positively if your heart is full of hatred.
Or if it's the other way around..
Forgive yourself from committing mistakes or for having to hurt a person just to be true to yourself. As the song says, there's no easy way to break somebody's heart. Really, it is. What will only make the matter worse is if you have not broke up with the person in the right, acceptable way. Break up really sucks so you should have done it in a humane gentle way. You don't break up someone else's heart through an SMS message. You should have done it personally, sincerely and sensitively.
Accept the fact that the relationship has already end..that you cannot continue the relationship alone. You're partner should have want to fix any problem in the relationship otherwise he /she won't break up with you in the first place.
Accept the fact that people do fall in and out of love. When someone has fallen out of love with you, it doesn't mean that you're no longer desirable or lovable, it's just that your partner has develop new feelings for someone else. It's time that you also should.
3. Ask yourself.
a. Why would you push yourself to someone who no longer wants you?
b. Why would you still be with a person who no longer wants to be with you?
c. Why would you give so much importance to someone who didn't learned to appreciate you, value you or who no longer cherishes you?
d. Why would you go back to someone who already dumped you?
4. Ask yourself again.
Is he/she worth your time or tears?
Learn to fight for someone if he/she is worth fighting for. Don't allow yourself to be drowned in loneliness and self-pity. Cheer up! You deserve someone better.
A book to help you with
© 2009 Caroline Guillermo