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Girls Like Girls
Insecurities of being different still cage some of the lesbian, gay transgender and bisexual community. Thus, psychological rumor echoes even in the confines of an office, forcing most LGTB folks to hide under a queer veil-thus stopping them from becoming the leaders that they ought to be. Like for example my subject for this issue, Jena, a 25 year old lesbian. In her open letter addressed to yours truly, she expressed her fear and frustration, dwelling on the possibility of being rejected during promotion assessments because of her sexual orientation. The fact is, Jenna is not alone. Living in a conformist society has triggered this fear of inferiority. But the only thing that i would like to say is, wake up you little sappho!
Get to know your Charice side. First of all, as a lesbian, you have to accept who you are. You cannot go around and pretend that you have a huge crush in Mateo even it’s Sarah who you really want. Denying your identity will put a barrier between you and your road to success. How could you have that peace of mind if you have insecurities? And without that acknowledgement, how could you possibly deal with problems if you are in denial of your own being? No matter how much you think you could separate your career from your personal life, your true self will always reflect your decisions. Acknowledge that Charice inside or Aiza if you want to be nationalistic. Set yourself free and the rest will follow.
Be proud Martina! be proud! After acceptance comes another important factor of being a lesbian, and that is to be proud of being one. Careerwise, think of your experiences and how it can be translated into an asset for your company. For example, ask yourself if your trips to Malate mingling with it cohort of L-Word fans have improve your interpersonal and communication skills. Have you developed that knack for critical thinking after reading the works of Virginia Woolf or Willa Cather? Has Martina Navratilova taught you to be a tough cookie against all odds? If you've answered yes to these questions, then use these experiences in your career to give your boss a clear portrait of who you are and what you can achieve. Honestly, and knowing one's self can take your places. Believe me.
Welcome to the 21st century, pars-mars.Some lesbians may have the perception that her sexual orientation can't get her to the top because we live in a patriarchal society. If you are hiding who you are, you could never be firm in what you really want in life and therefore, you can only achieve a part of it. But if you know what you want and you are honest about it, it creates the real you and this in turn makes it all easier and therefore, attainable. To Jenna, and the rest of the Filipina lesbians, leap high! A chunk of your honesty will bring you your success and nothing can stop you as a lesbian, and most of all, as a woman.