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Give Up; Let Go

Updated on February 19, 2020
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I am a writer, author & blogger. I write on relationships based from personal experiences. I also blog on everything & anything.

Sometimes in the course of a relationship some issues may arise. This can range from a variety of factors. I have always emphasized on communication being key in all relationships. When this is done things are addressed in a more civil manner. This not to say that arguments won’t occur; those eventually are inevitable. However when you take the time to have a decent conversation with your partner or spouse; it’s just more effective in a civil tone.

There can be a number of situations that may certainly have an impact on your relationship. Such as; sacrifices.

Is making a sacrifice for the other’s happiness a must? What exactly is considered a sacrifice? Is it accepting a job offer in another state & expecting your partner to drop their entire life to go with you? Is it leaving a child with one parent because the adults ended their relationship? Is it putting up with belittlement from a parent all your life because you respect them? Is it continuing to stay in a loveless marriage? Is it going to work every day, all day long and not spending time with your family because you’re working 24/7 to provide for them?

What is making sacrifices in a relationship? It all comes down to this. It is giving up your happiness for the sake of others. When you love someone you do everything in your means to promote wellness, happiness, comfort & joy to all of them. It means putting them first before everything.

So, when your spouse is offered that out of state position. You pack your life up and go. When the spouse is working hard to provide for all of you; welcome them home with a hot meal, a romantic dinner, a hot bath/massage and a heart full of love. When they’re gone most of the time, show them they’re still loved & appreciated.

When you make sacrifices in your relationship. You just may be surprised at the outcome. You may never know what is to come. The fact remains you do it together. You communicate; doing this allows your relationship to grow together or apart.

Every relationship is different. There are many who will choose not to do anything for another. Then you have the ones who will do everything for the other. You and only you have the choice to decide whether you make the sacrifice of following your own happiness wherever it may lead.

© 2020 Lynn Rocha

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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      12 months ago from Chicago

      "I have always emphasized on communication being key in all relationships. When this is done things are addressed in a more civil manner. This not to say that arguments won’t occur; those eventually are inevitable. However when you take the time to have a decent conversation with your partner or spouse; it’s just more effective in a civil tone." - Very true!

      However it must be stated communication is NOT an "ask and it shall be given" proposition. Communication is the GPS for relationships which lets us know if we are on the same page or want the same things.

      We're either "growing together" or "growing apart".

      Life is a (personal) journey.

      Each of us gets to (choose) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      Each of us has our mate selection process/must haves list.

      Each of us has our own boundaries and "deal breakers".

      The word "sacrifice" is equivalent to "cost" or "paying the price".

      How badly or how much do we WANT a thing determines how much we are willing to "pay" or "sacrifice" to have it.

      The irony is if you have what YOU want the "sacrifice" really isn't a "sacrifice" because you're celebrating your achievement!

      Imagine someone working two jobs to save up for a down payment on a home and the day arrives where they have moved in and are sitting in front of a roaring fireplace sipping on a glass of wine.

      They're not looking back on what they had to "give up" (the vacations, going out to dinner, spending money on new clothes..)

      They're beaming with pride over their accomplishment!

      Whenever we find ourselves stuck on the idea of our "sacrifice" it usually means We really Don't Want or value the goal very much!

      People often say relationships require "hard work".

      {However if you have what YOU want it's really "a labor of love".}

      You're doing whatever it is to obtain/maintain what YOU want.

      We are responsible for our own happiness!

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