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Goals are Gaols

Updated on June 6, 2011

It starts with a dream

The man who has no imagination has no wings.  Muhammad Ali

It’s amazing how many people ridicule people who have dreams.  However, if there were no dreamers, we wouldn’t have the modern technology we have today.  Dreams are important and limitless.  They provide us with a vision for the future and the direction we have to to take.  Dreams inspire us, give us hope and help us to make decisions on how we want to live our lives.  Dreams are all about our perfect purpose for being on this planet anyway.  Do you dare to dream?  Many of us don’t as we’re too scared.  We let society and what other people think, limit us.  We don’t want to be thought of as fools, so we stifle our dreams and bury them somewhere deep inside us. 

    I always dreamed of being a writer one day, but so many people tried to put me off by telling me how one can’t get published, raising their eyebrows or just dismissing my dream out of hand.  So, I buried my dream, every now and then it would resurface, but other people always managed to bury it again with their negative comments.  Now, I am not trying to blame others for me burying my dreams, it was I who buried it – not them.  I was so concerned with what other people thought of me and their opinions, that I buried myself along with my dreams.  Sometimes, it takes something life-threatening like a brush with Cancer, to make you forget about what other people think, and be prepared to follow your dreams. 

    There is a popular misconception you have to change in your mind.  Dreams are not goals.  They are not the same thing at all.  Goals grow out of dreams.  In fact, goals are what get you your dreams.

Tip:  Write down your dreams and paste them up on your fridge.  Don't put a limit on your dreams.

Look on goals as small steps to a dream

Sometimes, we get so focused on our goals, that we lose sight of our dreams.  Our goal is to lose 2kg in a week.  We do it and it’s like – wow, I succeeded.  Now, let me reward myself with that huge slice of passion fruit cheesecake I saw in that Café…It shouldn’t end when you succeed and achieve a goal, but often that is where we end it.  We can’t see beyond the goal post.  Now, I’m not dismissing goals here, what I’m trying to say, is don’t let them restrict you in your thinking.  Look on goals as small steps towards achieving your dreams.  Don’t get so caught up in your goals, that you let your dream vanish into Never-Never Land somewhere.

    Goals help us to achieve more, they can improve our performance, they can even enhance our motivation, they create pride and satisfaction in our accomplishments.  They can completely eliminate self-defeating attitudes and our desire to ‘give-up’ when the going gets tough,  With all of this, you will also find a huge improvement in your self-confidence which will in turn, raise  your self-esteem.  Goals are mega-important as they can be life-changing.  If you fear change, leave it in my piggy-bank.  Jokes aside, as goal setting is so important, you need to be able to set goals properly. 

Tip:  Try and start off with one goal in each area of your life.

How to set goals

  • Make sure the goal you are working for is something you really want, and not just something that sounds good and will impress others.
  • Set goals in each area of your life to maintain balance.  I don’t want you to go all lop-sided on me!
  • Make sure the goals you set are consistent with your values.
  • Make sure your goal is high enough but still realistic.  Easy goals make us lose interest.  Unrealistic goals make us give up.
  • Write down your goals in complete detail, focusing on the positive – what you want, not on the negative – what you want to leave behind.  The more information we can feed into our subconscious minds, the easier it will be able to process it.  So, the clearer the final outcome will become.
  • Don’t be tempted to share your goals with others.  It’s human nature to be ‘supportive’ by pointing out all the pit-falls and telling you stories how other people tried and failed.  They’ll just discourage you and make you give-up.
  • Think about all the things that can stand in your way and stop you from achieving your goals.  Think of ways that you will counteract the hurdles.
  • Think about what steps need to be taken and what else you’ll need to help you achieve your goal.
  • Visualise your goal.  Close your eyes and see what it’ll be like when you’ve achieved it.
  • Read through your goals when you wake up in the morning, and again before you go to bed.  This must be done on a daily basis.
  • Whenever you are faced with a decision, and don’t know what to do – ask yourself, “If I do this, will it bring me closer or further away from a goal.”  If it’s going to take you further away, you know what your decision must be.
  • Stay focused.




Goal Setting Template

MY GOALS:


OBSTACLES THAT CAN  STOP OR SLOW ME DOWN:


WAYS I CAN OVER COME THE OBSTACLES:


DATE I’D LIKE THIS GOAL ACHIEVE BY:


WHAT I NEED TO HELP ME ACHIEVE THIS GOAL:


POSITIVE RESULTS/BY-PRODUCTS OF ME ACHIEVING THIS GOAL:

Good Luck!

 You’ve written down your dreams, set your goals, you’re on your way!  Remember not to let reality kill off the possibilities of your dreams.  Reality limits you, so you only bring in reality when you start strategising and setting your goals. 

    It’s okay to give up on dreams that no longer suit you, fulfill you or make you happy.  It’s pointless hanging onto a dream that makes you miserable.  Get rid of old dreams.  It’s rather like a grocery cupboard.  You can’t find room to pack away your new groceries if the cupboard is jam-packed full of old groceries that are half-eaten or you decided you don’t like.  Clean out the clutter and make room for your new dreams.

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    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Thanks Ixxy! It's always great seeing you on my hubs and I do enjoy your thoughtful comments!

    • lxxy profile image

      lxxy 

      9 years ago from Beneath, Between, Beyond

      Just...great, miss cindyvine. =)

      Please excuse my absense from your Hubs and Paper Moons; I do indeed get everyone that you and he publishes, and like all the people I've fanned I'm hellbent on my goal to leave nice little comments on each one I read. ;)

      Other than that...

      "I quit following my dreams...I just asked them where they were going and I told them I'd meet up with them later."-Mitch Hedberg

      AND, the sticker on the back of my car (before it died):

      "Those too weak to follow their own dreams with always find ways to discourage others."

      ;)

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Can't afford to do anything about the tooth at the moment, an implant will cost over $1000 here. So, will just get used to looking toothless.

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      ralwus 

      9 years ago

      I watched it several times. Oh well. Hey, how's the tooth dear?

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      think u were in murder

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      ralwus 

      9 years ago

      cindy I watched both of them, I never got a glimpse of me. Did I miss something? LOL

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Froggy good you wrote those lists as it seems to have helped you

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      she also made one with male strippers

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      Andria 

      9 years ago

      Cindy - I literally wrote a list ... don't know it it was about 'goals' ... after my marriage fell apart. I needed to. I was losing track of where I was going.

      Separating cast me adrift. I have to say that looking at the positives gave me something to aim for. It certainly stopped me from getting caught up in all the nasty fall out.

      Great article Cindy, thankyou :)

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      ralwus 

      9 years ago

      I have not seen that video cindy. I need to check it out I reckon. I saw the murder one though. that was very good. thanks

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Thanks BC, now if you want to get teased check my teaser hubs

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      That's a great quote LG, thanks for adding it to the hub!

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      LondonGirl 

      9 years ago from London

      An interesting hub, and great comments, too. I'm in a quoting mood today, and George Bernard Shaw springs to mind - might not be quite right, it's from memory, "Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will."

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Neil, I need to write down some myself. If you don't write them down you have a greater chance of not sticking to them.

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      George Poe 

      9 years ago from United Kingdom

      Dreams are very important not only to help identify and target our goals but also to clarify the direction we need to travel to achieve them sometimes. I used to believe I had no need to write my goals down as I knew exactly what they were but in reality if I dont then I can drift so far away from my goals that I struggle to even remember what they were in the first place - good article! Thanks for the reminder..

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Oh CC, BP made a huge song and dance about it on the forum on Thursday and even made a birthday video for me starring you? Haven't you seen it? You need to go and look.

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      ralwus 

      9 years ago

      LOL, young, well at heart maybe. happy birthday anyway, I never knew. now all will know. LOL

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Hey, watch yer step, young man!

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      ralwus 

      9 years ago

      alright, yer in the club and happy belated birthday to you brat. LOL thanks hehe old lady

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      CC, been there and done it

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      ralwus 

      9 years ago

      OK, got it. LOL what's yer birthday

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Yes CC, it's a play on words. If you set a goal without having a dream you're heading towards and hold onto it even if it's not working, it can become a gaol (alternative spelling for jail)

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      ralwus 

      9 years ago

      Is the second goal in the title spelled right? gaol

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Candie, sometimes we need to remind ourselves what we are aiming for.

      Blonde, can you imagine a life without a dream and some goals to get there? Then that life has no meaning.

      CC, you will achieve all your dreams my friend.

      Diana, am dying to sleep had such a busy day, but have an important rugby game to watch so won't be able to sleep until much later. Lol I am taking you literally!

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      dianacharles 

      9 years ago from India

      And I have many more miles to go before I sleep.

      Thanks for the inspiring hub.

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      maggs224 

      9 years ago from Sunny Spain

      It is hard to imagine anyone with your kind of talent as a writer being put down by someone. I am truly glad that you have found out that other peoples heads are not a good place to keep your self worth in. Another excellent and well written hub and interesting and useful as well.

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      ralwus 

      9 years ago

      LOL@Papermoon. I have very nice goals and dreams, too many I fear, but they keep me alive.

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      blondepoet 

      9 years ago from australia

      A man without goals will perish. Very inspiring Cin, something every needs to lift them up at this present time.(hugs)

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      Candie V 

      9 years ago from Whereever there's wolves!! And Bikers!! Cummon Flash, We need an adventure!

      So... what's new???? Ok, so this was a slap upside my head..duh..I know this stuff, I can recite this stuff, but do I do this stuff? No. So now I have it in front of me, I shall bookmark it to print it out later..that's a can-do goal!. many hugs!!

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Thanks for dropping by and commenting, FP!

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      Feline Prophet 

      9 years ago

      "If you fear change, leave it in my piggy-bank." Love that line Cindy! It takes courage to look change in the face and accept it, but it's not un-doable. I think more and more people are realising that.

    • cindyvine profile imageAUTHOR

      Cindy Vine 

      9 years ago from Cape Town

      Thanks guys! We all need a little motivational pep-talk now and then

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      nazishnasim 

      9 years ago

      "The only person who stands in between what you are and what you could be/want to be is ... YOU" ... Thankyou for the weekend motivation Cindy! I can't imagine people raising an eyebrow at you, those a**** must be pretty screwed up themselves to take it out on such a gifted writer as you are. Let's drink to your success today *raises a glass*

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      Paper Moon 

      9 years ago from In the clouds

      It all starts with baby steps. My goal upon reading that you had posted a hub on goals, was to read it and leave a comment. Now that I have achieved my goals, i am at a loss for what to do. I suppose I should just go to bed so that I may have more dreams. ;)

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      Elisabeth Sowerbutts 

      9 years ago from New Zealand

      Nice hub - Im not huge into dreams or actual goal settings - but with working for myself I found that I had to actually think about my goals a bit more - it keeps you focussed on the right things. I'm a pragmatist so I find it very difficult to actually believe in goals i haven't yet achieved - get a job which pays well -thats easy cause Ive done it before. Build my own online business thats hard because I haven't dont it. And yes I know other people do it so I am slowly discovering that I have to take that leap of faith

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      Hawkesdream 

      9 years ago from Cornwall

      great incentives Cindy, cluttered brain, thats where my problems lie lol perhaps I had better write it down like you suggest, will help to see more clearly. thanks for this

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      Millifan 

      9 years ago from UK

      Motivational words. much appreciated, inspiring.

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