Going Back to the Tradition
Most of us are guilty of online dating. Claiming to be “in love“ with someone we haven’t even met. Going back to the tradition is about going back to the basics, about meeting people in person and making real connections. In this article, I will give multiple reasons why going back to the tradition is a must!
Not everyone using online dating sites is looking for love. Scammers create fake online profiles using photos of other people, even stolen pictures of real military personnel.
Online Dating - Catfish
One of the most important drawbacks of online dating is catfishing. In this time and age, there are thousands of fake accounts on various social media websites.
Let‘s talk about catfishing.
Catfish is a slang term used to describe someone who creates a false identity online. The term originated from a 2010 MTV base show, titled Catfish. The term catfishing refers to the process of befriending or chatting with someone online, while using a fake identity.
Not everyone using online dating sites is looking for love. Scammers create fake online profiles using photos of other people, even stolen pictures of real military personnel. They profess their love quickly. And they make you fall for them with made up stories about how they need money, for emergencies, hospital bills, or travel. Why all the deceit ? They’re looking to steal your money.
Carly Ryan, who was murdered in February after meeting with her online predator
Online Dating - Sexual Predators
There are so many sexual predators on dating sites, luring teenagers and even adults with false information, only to meet in person and end up being murderers and rapists. Not everyone online can be trusted.
I particularly remember a heartbreaking story which happened to a 15 year old girl in 2007, Carly Ryan, who was murdered in February after meeting with her online predator, Garry Francis Newman, who had pretended to be a handsome 18-year-old musician from Melbourne called 'Brandon Kane'.
This and many more has occurred and is becoming more rampant since the internet is accessible to both adult and children.
Online Dating - STI !!
Acording to Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) data and other studies, STIs have been on the rise.
Some have blamed online dating in part for this rise by encouraging hookups without getting to know your partner first, such as his or her background, friends or name.
Could swiping right mean that you that you eventually have to swab right and left at the doctor’s office?
Back to tradition
Love is beautiful and sweet — when with the right person, and the best way of finding this said person is in person!
What you see is what you get
It is difficult for someone you are meeting face-to-face to misrepresent their physical description such as body type, size and level of attractiveness.
Traditonal Dating protects one from internet fraud, catfishing and also sexual predators.
The earlier we go back to the basics, the better for all of us.
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Interesting article.
It's seems people either love online dating or they hate it. Most people who hate however either have unrealistic expectations or they are unwilling to take responsibility for which people they chose to engage with. The simply truth is online dating sites and apps are nothing more than a (tool) for meeting new people.
Much like a fork is a tool for eating. One can choose to eat a garden salad or a slice of double fudge chocolate cake. However no obese person would ever blame their (fork) for their weight gain!
And yet people who have bad dating/relationship experiences with those they met online will blame the whole online dating industry.
Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
Each of us has our mate selection process/must haves list.
Each of us has our own boundaries and "deal breakers".
It's not that online dating sucks, too many people suck at online dating. Many people don't even bother to research sites before joining one. They don't know what the average age, income, educational level, male to female ratio is, and various other types of criteria which might help them choose the best site/app based upon what they're looking for.
In addition there are niche sites geared towards religion, race, and just about any other "must have" one might have.
Contrary to popular opinion the Internet did not invent liars, cheaters, conmen, players, or predators. More than 3000 sexual assaults were reported by Uber ride sharing services this past year alone. A child is far more likely to be molested by a (family member), (friend of the family), neighbor, or someone who is physically within their daily encounters.
The job of the media is to get viewers, listeners, and clicks. The more people the outlet attracts the more they charge advertisers. Therefore they're not going report on all the millions of non event online dating interactions where two people had a boring date and went their separate ways. You'll only hear about the "nightmare stories".
I recently wrote a book Online Dating Avoid The Catfish! How to Date Online Successfully which I hope will help people put things in perspective. https://www.amazon.com/Online-Dating-Avoid-Catfish...
