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Growing Up In A Rude Family And How To Get Over It

Updated on April 15, 2019
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Kaylin is a young woman to a family of hypocrites that tries to break people down, so she knows how to block out negativity.

Rude Family? Let’s Work Through This.

”You look like a whale” is what my auntie said to chubby eight- year- old me when I was breakdancing in the middle of her living room floor. I know I’m not the only person on this planet that has to deal with rude family members that hates their guts for whatever reason. If you are one of the unfortunate individuals that has to deal with these miserable souls, then stick with me and find out how I got over the terrible comments and looks of disgust.

Always Have Someone To Talk Your Feelings Out With

Don’t ever deal with these intense emotions that come with feeling unwanted by your own family alone because it only allows more insecurities to creep their way in. If you have someone to talk with, they can you give real answers that do not consist of your personal worries and doubts.

As I Got Older I Began To Notice That I Wasn’t The Only Being Made Fun Of In My Family!

Of course, when we get made fun of, we think that the whole world is turning against us, but in reality if someone is talking about you, they also talk about someone else. I began to see that my family wasn’t only making fun of me, but they were also making fun of everyone else in the world. Their sons, their daughters, their nieces, their aunties, they all got made fun of because this was just something that my family did. I saw that it wasn’t anything to take seriously.

I Began To Stop My Pity Party And Begin My Success Party

I chose that emoji( its a black girl in front of a chalk board ) because it really represents what I did to achieve my success party. I did exceptionally well in school: I made honor roll every school year, except for one year.. thats another story, I had an entry in the science fair, I received a writing scholarship, I maintained a GPA of 3.96 in one high school and a 4.9 GPA in my second high school, and I graduated high school early. Do you know how I even strived to want to do these things? It was mostly because my mother wouldn’t accept anything less than a B, but it was also because I’ve heard so much negativity from my family that I didn’t allow anyone calling me a nerd or geek stop me from doing all of these amazing things. If your family is also saying terrible things about you and throwing negativity your way every chance they get, do not go into a pity party like I did, just find your outlet and create your success party. The real people that want you to succeed will be invited to your success party.

Just Smile At How Much You’ve Accomplished And/Or What You’ll Accomplish

This is a picture of me. I was just having fun, but the picture suits this article.
This is a picture of me. I was just having fun, but the picture suits this article.

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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      4 weeks ago

      Excellent advice.

      The problem most young people have is a lack of "long-term" visualization. They feel so intensely about things that happen to them (right now) that they believe it's always going to be (this way).

      In the "big picture" of life our "formative years" as children and teenagers is but a fraction of the total time we have on earth.

      The vast majority of our time we be as adults!

      In an ideal world it would be great to have a loving supportive family to help nurture confidence and self-esteem during those early years. However just because you don't have that does not mean you are forever "stuck" with what you have always known.

      As a teenager I viewed my household as being in a POW camp and I was counting down the years until I went away to college! :)

      Once one grows up, goes away to college, embark on a career, move to a different city or country, or travel and make friends you start to get an inkling of (who you really are) and what you may be capable of. "Friends are the family that you (choose)."

      As an adult you are free to no longer associate with family members who upset you. Just because someone is related to you does not give them a "free pass" to mistreat you. Move on!

      Suffering is optional.

      Life is a (personal) journey!

      Who knows your family may change how they treat you over time after seeing how the rest of the world respects you as a person.

      Being independent, having your own home, career, car, and rarely asking anyone in your family for help is the key to being respected and viewed as an adult among parents and siblings.

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