Habits You Must Avoid to Have a Non-Toxic Relationship
There are instances when a good relationship unknowingly turns into a toxic one. Many people also face the problem of attracting toxic people in their lives. If you are one of those people then you know how even after leaving those toxic people there are permanent damages and your other relationships still suffer from similar toxicity. Here are the habits that are unknowingly leading you into a toxic relation or making one toxic.
1. Your inability to say no
Learning to say "no" when you don't want something to happen or when you just don't like it simply, is really important. If you have suffered a toxic relation, you might know by now how difficult it is to say no but how much damage it does otherwise. In everything you do or any decision you make, remember that you have a choice and no other person can take it. Remembering this, just simply say no when you feel so.
2. Cutting yourself off from other friends
Yes, sometimes you like a person so much you dont want to be with anyone else but that way you become too reliant on that person and forget about yourself altogether. Whenever we are with friends it's not all about them but there are shared interests and an "us" which is really important because when you won't even know something is going wrong, your closest friends would. They are sure ways to keep you rooted to something good when help you not lose your perspective altogether.
3. Being reliant for money
Sometimes a relation becomes toxic when you become too reliant on them for money or they become too reliant on you for money. Money is a major factor in our everyday lives. When one is reliant on someone for it, there is a sense of superiority that comes with it. This leads to many times arguments and forcing someone do something against their will just because they are paying you. This is the major reason for toxicity in a relationship. It's okay on a date to pay the bill yourself or to divide it. But it's not okay when the other person pays bill but demand something you don't want to give in return of the payment.
4. Overlooking issues
Every relationship experiences problems but with some work it can be solved. But when you start overlooking them and find excuses for not confronting them, you are actually gathering doubt and negative feelings at the back of your mind that would mentally torture you from time to time. It many times leads to conjuring up hypothetical situations that again are not good in any relation.
5. Reluctant to seek help
When in a relationship faced with problems that are beyond your understanding, the best way to deal is seek help. Sometimes venting problems to a friend and knowing their views helps elevate stress as well as gives a fresh perspective. It also makes you realise your worth and gives you courage to walk out of something wrong with a helping hand to hold.
6. Not giving yourself enough time
When things get out of control and you can't distinguish between noise and music in your life, it's time you realise you are losing yourself in the same static noise. Therefore it becomes important to give yourself some time and do what you like and lose yourself in your own happiness. There's nothing more moving and mind opening than giving yourself time- away from chaos and toward your interests.
With all of this in mind. Don't forget that not all people and relationships are toxic and do not give up hope on something better. These habits are some sure ways to land someone in a toxic relation but one sure way to keep out of it is keeping your head high and knowing what you are worth.
