Has He Become Too Close to His Female Coworker
Has he developed a special relationship with his female coworker?
Any solutions to this problem?
Sue is married for twenty years, and are together for twenty two years. Her husband is much older than her. He recently got a job and has a female coworker the same age as Sue.
The issue here, Sue hasn't met the female coworker. Every time Sue suggested she would like to visit the workplace, John avoids it.
It's like John doesn't want his wife to meet his female coworker.
The whole time they have been working together they grew closer and closer, and Sue sees this in John's behavior.
He has become happier and looks forward to going to work every day. He is not stressed out at work as he once was. Apart from paying the bills and living a comfortable life. John has developed a friendship with this his female coworker.
They work very well together with constant joking around and with some flirtatious behavior from John. During telephone conversations they laugh, and joke a lot as if to say they know each other forever.
It is a sign that John has grown close to his female coworker. Sue would like to visit the workplace but still hasn't a clue of how to surprise them. Being married for so many years she has never once felt insecure, or in this way about her husband. This is something different!
Sue has never made false accusations about John from before in their marriage. In this case, something is wrong and Sue doesn't know how to find the proof she needs to ease her mind or that could destroy their marriage.
Would you go with your gut feeling?
Sue has never felt in this way about her husband in other jobs he had. This time it feels like something is going on between him and coworker. John has become very close to his female worker.
While on a trip with his wife John contacted the coworker. When they arrived from their trip, the coworker was the first person he contacted.
When he has on free days, he still contacts the female coworker and says its work related. He never can stay away from work related issues even when on holiday.
Has he developed more than a friendship toward the female coworker?
Does he flirt with coworker to feel good about himself?
John often makes excuses to contact coworker. Sue hasn't confronted John about her insecurities. She needs proof and doesn't know how to go about it. Sue has never had no reason to think this way. After recent acknowledgments she has become suspicious of John.
Everybody has friends of the opposite sex, but the important part about it you have boundaries. Sue feels neglected in her marriage because of that. A man should not be alone with a woman, especially if she is not his wife.
He spends more time at work than at home working with the female coworker and has to help her out a lot. John has no time for Sue.
Gossip runs like wild fire, and when others see they can tell what's happening between John and female coworker. The female coworker can misunderstand John's friendliness or flirtatious behaviors.
He needs to make his wife a priority.
John needs to be careful of how he spends time with his female coworker. He needs to assess who is dearest to him. The point is, John needs to know that his wife is that dearest and best to him not the female coworker.
If he makes the coworker the dearest and best then he is going down the wrong path. An affair happens in time not in an instant. Imagine if it was Sue working with a male coworker and behaving in the John is!
It is normal to get close to coworkers when you spend many hours working together. In Sue's case, John spends more hours at work than with her. Sue has become the lonely one and John fails to acknowledge his mistakes.
Some coworkers are happy or unhappy in their marriages. In this case, the female coworker's husband isn't a stable man for her. A female coworker should not be treated as your wife should be treated.
After hours of work your coworker remains in that position and nothing more than that. The reality is your coworker is to remain that to you as a coworker and nothing more than a coworker.
She is not living with you just giving you happiness at work. Sue knows John better than the female coworker in every way. Just as when she noticed the changes in John. Her gut feeling is not going away and it means something is not right.
John can't look Sue in the eye about his constant telephone calls to his female coworker. He fails to consider his wife's feelings and that is rude, inappropriate, selfish and mean.
John can be kind without flirting, be friendly. Sue tried to talk about the flirty behavior to John he just ignores her conversations.
Why should Sue feel this way?
Sue trusts John completely and never had to feel insecure. Lately, her gut feeling is telling her otherwise. She has never had to feel this way before in her marriage, as John never gave her a reason to be this way. Since the little signs have popped up, Sue has a wake up call and needs that proof.
Has John crossed the line with his coworker?
Sue and John met in the same way. Your spouse has a right to know what's going on with the female coworker, and with whom you have friendships.
Something is bugging Sue and it means something to her. If John doesn't stop certain habits he developed with the female coworker then he is going a different way. John ignores Sue's feelings and thinks she is being jealous like her mother.
An emotional relationship can be formed between two people working together. John defends his female coworker when asked about her. In the beginning of working with this female coworker, John mentioned a few negatives about the female coworker.
Lately, John changed his tone about the female coworker. He doesn’t speak anything negative about the coworker, instead he defends her. John doesn’t engage in negative conversations about his female worker.
He doesn’t bad mouth the coworker to Sue as he did when had started the job. The work related phone calls daily affects Sue’s thoughts about their marriage. The sad part about this marriage John doesn’t see the problem.
Sue has given most of her years to the one and only, and he just goes on flirting and making other people a priority in his life. Off-course Sue is always for him there but taken for granted is painful to her.
Sue and John have no time for themselves. Often John works and when he is home he is less talkative and tired. When Sue and John are out for the day for a little while, John is not happy until he phones the workplace. It has become part of John's life but in a selfish way.
Why the constant telephone calls after working hours?
During working hours it fine but after work is something else to think about in such situations. Whether, work related or not, after working hours there shouldn't be anymore of work issues. At some point you got to draw the line.
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