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Have You Said "I Love You" Today?

Updated on March 1, 2012
The picture of a loving man.
The picture of a loving man.
The woman I love
The woman I love
Messages from the students that I loved.
Messages from the students that I loved.
Loving the peacefulness of my life.
Loving the peacefulness of my life.
My son, who I love deeply, on our trip to Yellowstone.
My son, who I love deeply, on our trip to Yellowstone.

I recently heard someone talking; she had lost a loved one and she was saying, “if only I had told him this,” and “why didn’t I do this for him?” and “why didn’t I spend more time with him?” and I thought about the number of times over my lifetime that I have heard those laments from people who had lost someone, and it again reminded me of how we all take tomorrow for granted. There will always be time to say I love you, right? There will always be time to visit and write that special letter and do that little act of love, right? And then when death happens we feel the remorse of not having done those things we thought we had time to do. There is a very simple solution.

Do those things now…make your loved ones your number one priority each and every day. The first thing you do each day is tell them you love them; show them little acts of love. Leave them notes, little gifts, smile often, laugh with them, hold them, be their visible and tangible means of emotional support always…do not waste another day!

ATTENDING THE SCHOOL OF LIFE

The first time this lesson hit home for this man was when my father died. I was nineteen and happened to be home from college that weekend, and my dad died of a massive heart attack that Friday night. I held him while he died and I whispered over and over again that I loved him. He and I had not been talking much prior to his death. We had disagreed vehemently over the Vietnam War and our egos and pride would not allow either of us to knock down the walls and just be father and son. Want to talk about regret and remorse? I went into a depression so deep that I literally did not talk for several months; I wallowed in the grief of his loss, but more importantly I could not run away from the self-loathing for not having told him I loved him while he was alive, for being so mule-headed that I allowed my anger to push aside my true feelings for the man who had stood by me for nineteen years.

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Remembering-My-Fathers-Death-January-9-1969

In the forty-odd years that have followed his death I have lost four people to suicide and countless others to natural death and though their deaths have never been easy for me to accept I have never had to regret not telling them how important they were to me. That is the one lesson I learned from that cold January night when my father died and it is a lesson I will not forget in my lifetime.

A NEW PLAN

So what do I do now? Each morning I send a message to loved ones telling them how important they are to me and how much I love them. I have, in fact, made love my number one focus during the day, and when I write about love I’m writing about unconditional love. I don’t expect anything in return; I don’t keep score of how many times they tell me that they love me. I’m not an accountant who keeps a ledger of the number of love proclamations but rather a human being who has finally figured out that love is the single most important thing in life.

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Love-The-Word-The-Meaning

My sponsor in Alcoholics Anonymous died two years ago. He had been experiencing heart problems for some time and finally was admitted to the hospital where he knew he would be dying soon. I visited him the day before he died and the happiness he showed when I walked into his room was indescribable. He weakly held my hand and told me how honored he was that I would spend those last minutes with him. He was honored? Here was a man who had unselfishly helped me for years, guided me through some very dark hours and gave of himself completely, and he was honored that I would spend time with him as he was dying. Can you say humbling? He told me that he was proud of me and that he loved me. I left his room that night understanding even more the true meaning of and importance of love.

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Alcoholism-My-Personal-Story

Love should be the guiding light of our existence.

Why is this such a difficult concept for people to grasp? Couples when they marry speak the vow of undying and everlasting love but invariably get caught up in everyday living and neglect acts of love that mean so much. Friends all too often speak of getting together soon but always seem to be too busy to make it happen, and yet when someone dies we feel regret for not having spent more time with them. It truly is insanity of the highest order and if you think that is overstating the point then love isn’t a priority in your life, plain and simple.

Strip away all the window-dressing in life and it all comes down to the fact that we all need love.

When I was born I was put up for adoption and spent the first nine months of my life in foster care. I remained blind for those nine months and doctors said I suffered from “Failure To Thrive Syndrome.” In other words, lacking love and nurturing I failed to progress and develop physically and emotionally as children did who experienced love during those same crucial months. After nine months I was adopted by loving parents and my sight came within a week of the adoption. Was that purely coincidental? I think not! When presented with love I thrived; in the absence of love I stagnated.

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/A-Letter-To-My-Birth-Mother-Who-I-Never-Knew

One of my favorite things to do is watch mothers at a park with their children. The outpouring of love is a beautiful thing to witness. The faces of those mothers radiate love and the smiles on the faces of their children are indescribable, but it is not just children who need that outpouring of love. Each of us does, whether we are married, single, young, old, healthy or infirmed. Presented with love in our lives, we all feel that we are not alone, that we have a safe place, that we are understood and valued. Without that love we all suffer from “Failure To Thrive Syndrome” and we will become stunted emotionally.

A LESSON LEARNED AND APPRECIATED

A few months ago I helped a friend take her mother, who suffers from Alzheimer’s, to a doctor’s appointment. I was helping the mother, Barbara, out of the car and I had her put her arms around my neck as I lifted her out of the car and into her wheelchair. In return for my efforts I was rewarded with a smile that melted my heart. Because of her illness Barbara had no idea who I was nor would she remember that particular activity the next day, but at that moment she recognized the compassion of another human being and she experienced happiness. As I write about that experience my eyes are misting over in true appreciation that I had the opportunity to help Barbara and in return receive the only gift she was capable of giving, namely love.

Moments like that are what life should be all about, human beings being human. Loving is the most natural emotion that we have unlike anger which is instilled in us as life progresses. We are quite literally loving machines but without the proper lubrication, without constant acts of love, our machine begins to falter and will eventually cease to function.

ALL WE NEED IS LOVE

Simplistic? Were The Beatles full of it that afternoon when they recorded that song? The pragmatists among you will say that I need to get real, that there are bills to pay, jobs to work, responsibilities to meet, business meetings to attend, errands and chores and the list is endless. When is there time to make love a priority? Besides, you will say, you do all of that other stuff to provide for the family you love so isn’t that making love a priority?

QUESTIONS TO PONDER

I don’t know, is it? Only you can answer that question. I know this for a fact: If other events and duties are preventing me from spending quality time with loved ones then I need to look at my priorities. I have posed these questions before but they are worth repeating: what is more important, working harder to provide a bigger home for your family or spending more time with your family? What is more important, your weekly poker game with the buddies or taking a walk with your child? What is more important, working harder to buy more toys for the family or actually having the time to be a family?

http://billybuc.hubpages.com/hub/Saying-Goodbye-To-A-Life-That-Wasnt-Working

The list of such questions is endless and we make similar choices each and every day of our lives; there always seems to be something that prevents us from just being a loving being.

Time is running out on all of us. The hourglass is slowly losing the sand of our lives and if you haven’t said I love you today then you are in danger of losing what may be your last opportunity to do so….and that would be a tragedy for a loving human being.

Have you shown your loved ones that you love them today?

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Life is so complicated that we often forget important things. I believe words are powerful tool to express our love, anger, hatred and all such feelings and emotions.

      Your observation and experience is very inspiring.

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      jacy albertson 5 years ago from Pittsfield, Ma

      Sometime's I feel like everyone sees the word "Love" differently And I go back to the fact that it's way overused. I don't want to hear from a friend; "Luv ya'"

      unless they're a real close friend. Because chances are it's not really true. When I think about the people in my life, who I truely love, really they're very few. I was brought up in a very demonstratively vocal, and affectionate household. And for me, I always found it almost second nature to say, "I love you" but only to those I truely loved. This was very thought provoking. Thank you for writing, sharing it. ...and , of course very well written. : ) Nice job, buddy!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Vinaya, thank you! I'm so happy you found it inspiring and may you have a loving day!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jacy, there is no way to piss me off faster than saying the words "love ya." What the hell does that mean? You either love me or you don't but making it slang is not a way to show me. Thank you for your support my friend; I can't imagine not having you around to brighten my day.

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      Mark G Weller 5 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      A beautiful hub filled with truth! So many of us forget these messages and are devastated when we do loose someone and realize how we failed to show them our love.

      Thank you Bill

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Mark; I'll be visiting your site shortly as soon as I make a paying customer happy. I appreciate you and your support.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Thank you for reminding us of the importance of telling people dear to us how much we love them. I too do not want to attend someone's funeral and regret never having expressed my love for them. Beautiful story.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you teaches; it such an important thing to do regardless of how busy we think we are. I appreciate your loyal following.

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      Old Poolman 5 years ago

      billybuc - Your timing with this hub could not have been better. I just returned from the funeral of my 19 year old grandson, my favorite grandson I might add, and he and I were very close. Although we lived over 1000 miles apart, we had frequent contact by phone, and shared many lengthy conversations. He could talk to me about things he was reluctant to discuss with his own parents, and we often talked late into the night.

      I spoke with him on Friday, and was going to send him a plane ticket to come down for a visit the following week. He seemed excited about the visit and we made plans on what we would do while he was here.

      The following day we received the bad news that he had shot and killed himself. The main thing I wish to point out in this comment is that it is impossible to tell how bad a friend or loved one is hurting inside. All any of us can do is express our love for another at every opportunity.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Poolman, you have my utmost sympathy. I have been where you are now and no words can possibly make it better. If my hub has helped in any way then it is I who am grateful. I try to write about the human experience, the good and the bad, and in doing so it is my hope that I can reach people, show empathy towards them, and let them know they are not alone. My best to you during this difficult time.

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      Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

      This hub is so timely and timeless. I think of those families who lost their sons and brothers as well as students who lost classmates and friends this week. I agree saying love ya is not the appropriate way to express emotion but to really say it from the heart. You don't love everyone in life but you definitely appreciate them. Lovely hub.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Alecia; this is a subject I feel very strongly about but a lesson I had to learn the hard way, which seems to be about the only way I learn lessons. Thank you for taking the time to visit once again.

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      Old Poolman 5 years ago

      billybuc - Thanks for your kind words.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You are welcome sir! :)

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      neeleshkulkarni 5 years ago from new delhi

      i have been married to the same woman for 33 years and love her immensely.I have for a little while in the past started getting the feeling that she did not quite love me as much as i do love her and this was causing me to wonder why she did or did not treat me in a particular way.It gave me a strong feeling of being rejected and made me behave in strange ways and even contemplate having an affair with a woman who would appreciate me more.(and rest assured for an accomplished flirt it is not difficult to think that the women who laff at your jokes actually do appreciate you) Mercifully my good sense always pulled me back from the precipice whenever i was about to step out.

      a few months back i fortunate in that I was blessed with the insight that if my love for her was dependent on her love for me, it was not really love.It was probably a business deal- you love me, i love you back, you don't i don't either-and if THIS is what i thought was my love then where was the point in complaining that she did not love me enough?

      I guess i made my peace that day and decide that my love NOT being dependent on anything she did or did not do was there and it was my duty to do all the things that made her happy and avoid those that did not.

      Did i find Joy, Exhilaration and peace in the thought? (that said " look i will love you in such ways as i know and can with all my strength but will accept anything that you give me because my love was not dependent on what you give me")

      to an extent yes but fully NO.I still get back into times when i want her to reciprocate in ways that i want and shed tears when she does not but have realized that i surely over time must also have traumatized her in innumerable ways which caused her to move away (if at all she has and it is not my persecution complex at work) and therefore it is also my duty to make amends such as i can.

      I really do not know if all this makes sense Billy because it is coming from too deep within to be too well organised but you talked of love and i thought i would write about mine.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Neeles, your personal thoughts are powerful and I don't think all that uncommon. I was married and felt the same feelings and the helplessness that accompanies those feelings. Can I assume you have talked to her about this? If not why not? Other than that I can only wish you the best; to be married for thirty-three years speaks of a strong commitment at the core of the relationship; otherwise why would she stay? Just random thoughts on this Thursday evening. Thank you my friend for trusting me with your deepest concerns....and please call me Bill; much more dignified. :)

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      Mark G Weller 5 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Wow Needles, this is so real, and we do share your thoughts. Bill, you provided the base for this response. I am grateful.....

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      As am I, Mark! This is why I write!

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      Maree Michael Martin 5 years ago from Northwest Washington on an Island

      Great article, Great subject. Great read. Love is a many splendored thing. When someone we love dies, I think is the truest testimony to how deeply we love. Eventually.

      It taught me to feel all my feelings, love isn't love until you give it away.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, I agree totally; it must be given away freely and with no strings attached...that is unconditional love. Thank you for taking the time to read my hub.

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      Sandra Busby 5 years ago from Tuscaloosa, Alabama, USA

      Whew! You are really digging deep, billybuc, and bringing out something that so many people are resonating with. What gifts are bouncing back and forth between you and your followers. It's my pleasure to follow along. Sandra Busby

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sandra, I am the lucky one and the gifts I receive every single day from the comments I receive is just incredible. This has been a wonderful experience for me and I am so grateful. Thank you for your kind comment.

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      Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

      This is a great hub and so interesting.A truth so evident in each word and left much food for thought indeed and maybe think clearly about our own lives also.

      Thank you for sharing this gem;'take car and enjoy yours day.

      Eddy.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eiddwen, thank you so much and I will indeed take care and enjoy my day. I have found joy in life and each day is a wonder. I appreciate you, as always, and peace to you this day as well.

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      shimmering Dawn 5 years ago

      Beautiful hub! Live and love like there is no tomorrow! Billy, your hubs are so simple an meaningful. I honestly love your writing, you write from your heart. Have a blessed day! Peace and Love!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Shimmering, coming from you, someone who writes so beautifully, that comment means a great deal to me. Thank you sincerely and may you always think my hubs are meaningful. :)

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      Xavier Nathan 5 years ago from Isle of Man

      Another down to earth message of truth reminding us of what our priorities are. For many life becomes a distraction from our true purpose as conduits of love and we make more and more excuses to justify why we do not live in the now. I love your words and I will tirelessly see that they are shared again and again. Thank you.

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      Marcy Goodfleisch 5 years ago from Planet Earth

      A very important message for all of us. When I grew up, my family never talked about love or shared affection, and I made a vow then to always let my children know they were loved. As an adult, I also started saying "I love you!" to my parents and siblings whenever we talked. My father never did get comfortable with that. At first, everyone was a bit awkward, but finally it became a family habit.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.

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      stockpicks 5 years ago from Chicago

      For sure, the "Don't forget," file located in my head...thanks for the article.

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      Paula 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      billy...So glad I drank enough water today, because after reading your hub, I had to walk away for awhile to dry the tears and calm myself.

      Problem is, when I read a hub, any hub, by anyone, I also read every single comment, even when they're a mile long (as yours are). I've been learning that very very few hubbers do this (read all comments)....It never once occured to me not to.

      So, after containing myself, I got to Poolman's comment and began sobbing all over again. (This is going to turn into an assignment)

      You know, billy, for months now I have tossed around the idea of writing a hub in a similar vein.....about the undying love I hold inside for my beloved departed. The reality is, it frightens me. I manage to exist in such a Fantasy world, which I, of all people, know well, is unhealthy. I've had a battle with myself for so long now, I can't tell if It's intentional and purposeful, or an inner switch that kicked in, to keep me sane.

      I'm not even going to ask if you understand this. I know you do.

      The most important thing I need to do now, is simply Thank you. Unaware, Mr. Bill, you worte this to inspire me. To give me that gentle nudge I needed to do what I've know for some time, I really must do.

      You are no simple "flavor of the month," billy buc. You are an amazing human being who has a magical power with words that begin at the depths of your soul and reach out to awaken our pent-up emotions....W O W.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Spirit, you are too kind and you are greatly appreciated by this traveler. May you have a peaceful evening filled with love.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Marcy, it is so important and I'm happy that you realized that despite your upbringing. I love that we can start new traditions based on the right values. Thank you once again for being by my side.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Stockpicks, you are very welcome and I appreciate you taking the time to comment.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Okay Paula, you had me crying with this one. Your comments and ones like them are the reason I write...to touch people...to find the common bonds. And I love that you read every comment and you bet your ass I understand exactly what you are saying. I once had an automatic "stop" button that switched on anytime I even approached emotionally painful subjects. Now look at me...a blubbering idiot most of the time unable to control that which pours out of me. I hope you understand that every single time I see a comment from you I smile...that is a gift you have my dear friend and I thank you for it. Now I need some tissue so I can get back to writing.

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      neeleshkulkarni 5 years ago from new delhi

      i am sorry bill did not know the etiquette and called you Billy just as short form of the hub name.

      yes we have talked and two people can never love each other with equal intensity except for the first few lust mixed years when everything seems so rosy.Due to that i guess there is a difference between the way she loves me and the way i love her and my attitude in the past may have been part of the reason for her current behavior.

      The point i was making is that it does not matter.If you love a person the reciprocation is unimportant.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      No need to apologize; I just wanted you to know my real name was Bill. Neeles, you touched quite a few people with your response yesterday. You are a man of deep thought and sensitivity and I am proud to have you following me...and I consider you a friend. Thank you!

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      Paula 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Oh heck, you'll learn to keep tissues handy. I was raised by a "cryer"....the greatest man ever born...a musician, writer, romantic fool, an extremely funny and loving man. A man's tears are not a rare sight to me at all.

      The only thing that ever makes me sad now and then, is that none of us can ever have enough time on this earth to learn all there is to learn and know all the marvelous people and see the incredibly breathtaking beauty that exists throughout this Universe...and I believe this is why we all have one another...for what we can share. If we fail to give and share and teach and reach out....we fail at our very purpose.

      My mother would call me a "dreamer" and it took years for me to realize that was her attempt to protect me from disappointment....which is one of those fatal mistakes Mom's make, believing we are super-human.

      Were it not for disappointments and falls and mistakes, we'd all be a tribe of empty morons, sitting in one spot, seeing who could touch the tip of their nose with their tongue. Now, THAT'S talent! Later, billybuc.

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      Bill...I hear ya!

      When my dad passed away a year back...his sisters had so much good to talk about him. I was shocked to hear all those kind words. I only feel that we should pause and let people know of what they really are.

      Life is short and we often get enveloped in its' hurdles.

      You have conveyed a beautiful message here. Gotta pass it around...sharing it!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Paula, there was no crying allowed in our household; it was a loving household but one devoid of tears. Must be why I'm making up for lost time now. And a world without dreamers is an empty world as far as I'm concerned.

      I love your words and I can't wait to see you unleash your full arsenal in that future hub from the heart you mentioned.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruchira, thank you for sharing this message. I love knowing that someone finds value in my words, and your faithful following warms my heart.

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      angela p 5 years ago from Richmond, Virginia

      This hub has made me cry. I quit my job a few months ago to stay home with my children. I felt like I was never available to them to show them how much I loved them. All that has changed and we love each other all day now. Great hub. Very touching.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Angela, in a very strange way perhaps only I can understand, your reaction to the hub is why I write. I have so much inside of me that needs to get out, lessons painfully learned but learned nonetheless. If I can reach people, share those lessons and know that perhaps in some small way my words have helped others, well, then my writing has a purpose. Bless you for recognizing that which is truly important...love. Thank you!

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      Anamika S 5 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

      Awesome Hub! It pulled all my heart strings. I have always believed in expressing my feelings. A few years back a friend of my lost her love in an accident. Though she loved him, she was playing hard to get. Nobody could console her and she was crying buckets saying, 'If only I said I love him too'...

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sadly, Anamika, there are many stories like the one you just shared. I am pleased that it resonated in you and thank you for your continued support.

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      Mary 5 years ago from Washington

      Thank you for the great reminder to say I love you!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, it was my pleasure. I hope you say it and hear it often this weekend.

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      Karen Hellier 5 years ago from Georgia

      This was beautiful. I agree wholeheartedly and do try to live my life this way. Great hub.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Karen, may you have a love-filled weekend and thank you.

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      Stephanie Hicks 5 years ago from Bend, Oregon

      Lovely, heart-felt hub! I really do not wish to end my life with regrets having not said I love you, or shown it to the many special people in my life. So many family members of mine have these hard exteriors to "protect" themselves, making them prickly and difficult to show love to, at time. I want to be the one to rise above their own personal issues, realize that its not about me, and live life more authentically. This is a very inspirational hub! Bookmarking and sharing. Best to you, Steph

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      emilybee 5 years ago

      Awesome and voted up, very meaningful hub.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Steph, I love your comment. Realizing that someone else's unhappiness is not about us is a huge step in moving on and living a happy life. It is a lesson it took me years to learn. Thank you and my best to you as well.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Emilybee, I appreciate you taking the time to read my hub; may you have a love-filled weekend and thank you!

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      Sky9106 5 years ago from A beautiful place on earth.

      This is beautifully done it bought memories of my own father . This is simply a must read hub for all hope you place it on you face book page.

      Thank heavens I too have learned and believe in exactly what you said and the vote I aced with great pride.

      My beautiful mother is now 91 and am real happy that I coud always say a meaningful thanks to her "Everyday" and more than once, I can only say when you get it , you get It !

      Thanks for sharing such a beauty.

      Bless.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sky, I truly appreciate a man who understands and then lives what he has learned. Thank you sir! It is a pleasure traveling the same path as you.

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      Sky9106 5 years ago from A beautiful place on earth.

      Thank You, billy. A fellow Hubber just lost his dad I promised him I will send him your Hub . It's such an honorable Hub , and a great piece of writing.

      I know he will find some much needed comfort in this Hub.

      After all this I believe is what it's all about.

      blessings to you and yours.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Sky, and to yours as well.

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      Karen Hellier 5 years ago from Georgia

      By the way, I forgot to comment ho the picture of you holding up the bulletin board of messages from the students you loved. That's SO cool. I have some letters and notes like that from students I loved too, but never thought of setting them up like that. What a great idea. And a reaffirmation on a tough day...to be able to go back and read all those wonderful positive messages. Thanks for the inspiration.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Karen, I would love to take credit for that but Bev did the work and presented it to me for my birthday a couple years ago. I love it and have it hanging in my writing studio so I can see it each day. I will tell Bev that you loved it. :)

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      Ann Carr 5 years ago from SW England

      Voted up, beautiful and useful. A great reminder of what we should all do. I'm much better at doing it than I used to be. Every time I talk to my loved ones on the phone and every time I see them, I tell them I love them. My two youngest grandchildren can't say it back yet but boy do they show it! I didn't say it enough to my daughters when they were younger and I regret that a lot; however, I've made up for lots of that since I hope and life is all the better for it now. My partner is my mentor and my rock and we remind each other of our love every day. Messages of thanks from students is also a huge source of affection from those who've appreciated what we've tried to do for them - that means so much, so I try to tell people how much I appreciate their actions when things go well. Thanks for the usual inspiration, Billy.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann my dear, thank you for sharing that. I think we all have a few regrets related to this subject; the best I can do is move forward and not become too fond of the past. :) As always I greatly appreciate you; your partner sounds like a wonderful person.

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      Ann Carr 5 years ago from SW England

      To 'not become too fond of the past' is a brilliant phrase that sums up the mistake I've made all too often - great motto, I'll remember it more often now!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm glad you liked it Ann; I really appreciate you taking the time to read a couple of my hubs today. My best to you and yours and may you have a lovely weekend.

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      Sharon Smith 5 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

      Hi Billy ~ I really loved this article as it touched me very deeply. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself. You really have a way of making us look at what our priorities should be in life. Today I was in the frame of mind that I needed to connect with people who are extremely important to me and I made several phone calls to let them know I was thinking of them. Just doing that made this day a special one for me.

      Sharyn

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sharyn, that was a beautiful thing to do. Thank you so much for dropping by; hopefully your comment will spur others on to do the same thing.

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      trish1048 5 years ago

      Good morning Bill,

      This brought to mind a time when I was married, when one day my hubby said to me, you have such beautiful blue eyes. It brought a huge smile to my face, and a question to my lips. I said wow, thank you! That is so nice to hear, how come you don't say it often? His reply was, well, if I tell you every day it won't mean as much. It will become commonplace and the feeling behind it will become lost. In a way, he had a point. Twenty five years after his death, I still remember it :) This is not to say he wasn't an affectionate man, he was, very. I was blessed to have had 20 years with him and bore two beautiful children. Sure, we had our ups and downs, even came close to a divorce at one point, but we persevered, and at the time of his death our love knew no bounds. We were well on our way to enjoying a healthy, loving marriage.

      That expression that things happen for a reason baffles me. Some things have happened that I have no answers for. I am still questioning the why.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Trish, I have no answer for you! There are times I shake my head and wonder what lesson I am supposed to have learned from a particularly tragic event. It seems to pointless! All I can surmise is that it is part of life, the good and the bad, and it is my job only to accept it as such and move forward.

      Thank you for sharing that beautiful memory with me. Have a special day my friend; do something nice for yourself today!

      Sending you smiles and hugs from Olympia.

      bill

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      trish1048 5 years ago

      Bill, I guess you are right. For the events I've experienced that have no answers for me, there is nothng left but to keep moving forward.

      I do have some nice things that are going on. I spent many hours last night with my ten year old granddaughter. (She and her mom live with me) To say she's the joy of my life is an understatement. Sometimes, I feel as though she's the adult :) She'll say things to me like, Bagda, how about we go through your books? So, last night we did, something I would not have done without her encouragement :)

      Let me explain, she calls me Bagda because when she was learning to talk, grandma didn't come out, she kept saying Bagda, so it stuck. I considered getting a vanity plate with that name on it, but it was too soon after the 9/11 tragedy. I thought, no,,it sort of looks like it's short for Baghdad, and I didn't want to be mistaken for a terrorist.

      Smiles and hugs back!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Trish, I love the name Bagda but I can certainly see where that would not have been a good idea for a license plate. :) I'm getting ready to sign off shortly and go enjoy the sunshine; take care my dear friend and I will catch up with you down the road!

      bill

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      ziyena 5 years ago from Southern Colorado

      Yep! I've already said it today :)

      I've always believed that the sole purpose of our existence is to learn how to love and be loved, that is all that matters. Voting UP

      Z

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Z, you are so wise and so correct; the rest of it all is just window dressing. Have a lovely day!

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      Chris Merritt 5 years ago from Pendleton, Indiana

      billybuc,

      I had spent the last twenty minutes trying to write something and I kept deleting and starting over.

      The bottom line is this is one of the most beautiful hubs I have ever read, and it is one that I am going to keep close by.

      Thanks,

      Chris

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Chris....I'm speechless. You just made my day and I am very appreciative. In case you couldn't tell it's a subject I feel strongly about. :) Have a wonderful day my friend and thank you for making mine special.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 5 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Bill, I know I am guilty of not saying 'I love you' enough. But that's me, ever since I can remember. I do try to say it more often now and after reading your hub I realize I must make more efforts. My wife on the other hand is totally unlike me and is very vocal with this phrase, both with me and our children.

      Thanks for sharing some sad and some beautiful moments in your story- yes, I will call this hub a love story- you made me realize the importance of saying, 'I love you', right now, when one has the time.

      I only hope my wife doesn't start thinking something's wrong with me!

      Voted up, all the way across and shared.

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      Natasha 5 years ago from Hawaii

      I couldn't agree more. You never know what will happen to anyone at any time. You have to make sure the people you care about always know, or it could be too late.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rajan, I'm laughing of course because she may very well think something is wrong. :) I'm glad you got something out of this hub; that's why I write these, to spur thought and reflection about life. Have a great day my friend.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you, Natasha! You may not know this but I am a big fan of yours. I think you add a fresh voice to this community. You are a beautiful person who has a great mind for history and an appreciation of lessons in life that need to be learned. Best of luck to you and thank you.

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      snowdrops 5 years ago from The Second Star to the Right

      Wow..i love your picture holding a bunch of messages! it's so cool :)

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      IAmForbidden 5 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

      i always say i love you to my loved ones. i've made a mistake once letting time pass by.. now i don't want to regret.

      Thank you for this hub. you have a wonderful family.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Snowdrops, that's one of the everlasting gifts of teaching. Thank you for your kind words.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Unknown, I happen to think I have a fantastic family and I appreciate you saying so.

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      catmalone 4 years ago

      Another Great Hub! This hub is so inspirational.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cat, thank you! It is a subject I feel strongly about.

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      MargaritaEden 4 years ago from Oregon

      I agree with you, sometimes we get so busy and forget to make our loved ones our first priority, good reminder to all of us. Thank you, sharing your hub!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Margarita, it is nice to see you again. Thank you so much!

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      Demas W Jasper 4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      Too good not to "resurrect." Someone will read this and give someone else the love they need today. And your Hub will have srved its purpose again. Did my bit today, too. May God bless you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Perspycacious, good for you! I love hearing that people are saying "I love you" often. Thank you!

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