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Marriage God’s Way
Marriage, a complex and yet simple road travelled by many, but a road that more than often leads to a dead end. Why are there some many dead ends in marriages today? Divorce rates skyrocketing to a height never witnessed before, ever. Marriage counselors and lawyer’s making bank due to so many problems in marriages today, but nothing is being fixed and the question still remains, why so much chaos? The simple answer lies where most people dare to go, many despise it, and still many say it is only fictional stories put together for crazy people following after some God that may or may not exist; of course I am speaking of the Bible.
Standing in the cool, gentle breeze, while watching the lions and lambs lay together in a peaceful and loving way. Adam just woke up from his God performed surgery, feelings of emptiness ran through his soul as he rubbed his hand along the portion where some of his ribs use to reside. While rubbing the emptiness, a hand gently grasped on to his. Quickly looking over, he saw the most beautiful woman, a woman that touched his heart from the first glance. At that very moment the love between the two bonded and grew, even possibly, without realizing it since they were all alone and had never felt such alien emotions before. As they stood together glaring into each other’s eyes, they realized they were made for each other and probably felt as though they must cherish each other. Of course during all the romance Adam decided to finally uttered some important words and a command to all people and generations till the end of time. The uttered words and commandment was brief but to the point, “And Adam said, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be ONE FLESH” (Genesis 2:23-24).
What is one flesh? it’s obviously not a physical bonding, but a spiritual bonding, which consist of the eternal godly glue holding the two together; Of course if that were true then there would be much less divorces, correct? True that is, but false when the spiritual glue holding the marriage together is not strong and has no real foundation in God’s word or God himself. Many people’s divorce problems deal with just that issue and the majority are too blind to see it or just want a simpler route which then comes in the non-Christian counselor to tell them how they should approach their marriage. Now I have no problem with marriage counselors, especially when it gets to a severe point in the marriage that one is needed, but I do advise to seek counsel from a Christian counselor so therefore the advice the couple is obtaining comes from a biblical and godly perspective.
How does a couple obtain a true godly foundation? Spending time with God is the first and foremost important key to the whole process, time with him alone and together is crucial. Quieting yourselves, opening your bibles, meditating upon God’s word and listening for God’s voice is the beginning point. Just like the Lord said, “Be still, and know that I am God:..” (Psalm 46:10). Stilling yourself before God and listening for His voice will open doors that have never been opened before. It will help you dialogue with the Almighty and seek His wisdom instead or worldly wisdom, which is temporary and worth nothing. You will obtain new insights and joy that were never there before. God will open your eyes to a new view of life and your surroundings. Stilling yourself at first may seem a little tuff, as we are used to always thinking and doing things, but after a while of repetition and discipline you will be able to be still and speak with the Great Jehovah. “I will stand upon my watch, and set me upon the tower, and will watch to see what He will say unto me, and what I shall answer when I am reproved.” (Habakkuk 2:1). With both of you spending time with your Creator, it will enable both of you to grow in God together and both gain godly wisdom, which will bring both of you closer to becoming one flesh.
Reading and studying God’s word is another crucial growth opportunity for couples that should be exercised on a daily bases. Obtaining a better understanding of God and His commandments as well as True Love, will help both of you grow together in the right direction and with the right knowledge and wisdom. “Shew me thy ways, O Lord; teach me thy paths. Lead me in thy truth, and teach me; for thou art the God of my salvation; on thee do I wait all the day.” (Psalm 25:4-5).
God needs to be at the center of every relationship and every household. God should not be a foreign or forbidden word in relationships, which unfortunately has been the case in many of today’s relationships. My wife and I spend most of our time discussing about God and we set Him at the top of our relationship as well as our life’s. “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.” (Proverbs 3:5-6). Couples should head to the Word and trust the Lord God and not follow the advice of the wicked or their own deceiving hearts. A lot of Christian’s today take the option of divorce and say that’s what God told them to do and that they have tried every way to make it work. I call those people liars and tell them that they have been deceived by the devil and their own lustful desires. When thoughts of such happen, make sure you quiet yourself and really focus on God and His word, even when the situation doesn’t seem like it will improve; remember to not focus on the seen but the unseen. Stay close to God and keep Him at the top and he shall bless both richly and keep you safe. “Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.” (Proverbs 5:18-19). Love the Lord and Love each other till the end of the earth unto eternity and then shall both truly be ONE FLESH.
“The Lord by wisdom hath founded the earth; by understanding hath he established the heavens.” (Proverbs 3:19)