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Are you Having Trouble Keeping your Relationship Due to a Mental Illness?

Updated on June 27, 2019
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I am a wife and a mother who suffers from bipolar disorder, major depressive disorder, PTSD, and anxiety disorder.

I've Been in Your Situation

I'm guessing you are here because you have been having some trouble in your relationships and you feel as if your mental illness is affecting it. It's tough living with a mental illness as is, but living with a mental illness and trying to keep your partner is pretty tough. You may think it is the end of the world and that nobody wants you because of your mental disorder. That is not true. Some day the right person will come along and they will not care about your mental illness. They will see through it and support you every step of the way. If they do not support you, then they probably are not the one for you. You could always end up with a partner who has a mental disorder as well. Now I am no relationship specialist, but I suffer mental illnesses and have had trouble in past relationships. I would either get angry to quickly or get sad to quickly. I fell in love too quickly. I did not take my time getting into relationships. I usually ended up ruining my relationships later on because I developed trust issues due to being cheated on. In this article, I will tell you how I overcame mental illness to keep my relationship I currently have. So here's how to get your relationship in better shape. If you are already in a relationship then you already know that you upset your partner from time to time and do not mean to. Below I will give some information on how you could fix your relationship or what to do when you get a relationship.

You can overcome mental illness!

Calming Down Your Moods

If you have a lot of uncontrollable mood swings which make your partner upset then here is something that might help you change your mood and their mood. For example, you have said something very hurtful to your partner. The first thing you should do is apologize. Then show them how much you care about them. Try to do things with them such as watching television or playing a videogame. Talk it out. Communication is key to a great relationship. Just remember nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes.

Communication is Key!

You Can't Seem to be as Happy as They Want You to be

So you might have depression and your partner is worried about you. Of course, you do not want them to worry. You want them to be happy. Seeing your partner in a depressive state can really put a damper on your love life. Try to change your way of thinking. Remember to think of how happy you want to make your partner. Talk to your partner about the way you feel and how you do not want your actions to affect their mood.

Don't Worry be Happy!

Explaining your Mental Illness to your Partner

Who says you can't have a successful relationship with a mental disorder? Your partner may not understand what you are going through and they might never understand. It is okay for them not to understand. You should sit down with your partner and explain to them what your mental illness is and how it affects your everyday life. You need a supportive partner. Without a supportive partner, it will be a lot harder to keep your relationship intact. But in order to have a supportive partner, you must also be supportive. It's a 50/50 kind of thing. You both have to work together.

I Think I Can! I Think I Can!

Get Further Help

If nothing you have tried works and mood continues to be down. You may need to get medical attention from someone who specializes in psychiatric medicine. It's okay to take medicine, especially if it keeps your loved one happy. Not only will the medication keep your partner happy, but it will keep you happy as well. The medication was made to keep your chemical imbalance in check. By taking care of yourself, you can further take care of your relationship.

Take care of yourself first!

You are Strong!

Many people suffer from mental illness and have trouble keeping relationships. So, do not think your the only one. I went through many relationships that did not last due to my mental illnesses. My husband and I have been married for 6 years. During the first 3 years of our marriage, I did not realize I had a mental illness. My marriage was falling apart and I feared we would not last very long. I soon realized I needed to seek medical attention. When I did my relationship was saved. I started taking medication which helped a lot. I am so thankful that I got help from a specialist. I am also thankful for my husband who supported me all the way. He has always been my rock and the one person I know I can trust with all my secrets. He has never once judged me for my disorders. I hope whoever is reading this finds a great relationship as I did. Not everyone can handle being in a relationship with someone who has a mental illness.

It's okay to take medication!

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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      20 months ago from Chicago

      I would also add that you're not ALWAYS wrong!

      It's not paranoia if they're really out to get you.

      Just because someone has being diagnosed with a mental illness doe not mean they are not entitled to have boundaries and deal breakers. They also have a right to speak up if they being mistreated, disrespected, or manipulated.

      Believe it or not some people will use your mental illness against you by "gaslighting" you and having you doubt your every thought.

      Even so called "mentally healthy people" find dating, relationships, and marriage to be a challenge! Anyone who has ever had a failed relationship carries around a certain amount of emotional baggage. Being hurt, betrayed, or dumped leaves scars on us.

      When it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. Very few people hit a homerun their first, second, third, or fourth time up at bat. If this weren't true we'd all be married to our high school sweethearts!

      Ideally we learn to choose someone who shares our same values, wants the same things for the relationship we do, naturally agrees with us on how to obtain those things, and last but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for each other.

      Compatibility trumps compromise.

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

      The choice is up to us. Suffering is optional.

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde

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