He Takes Me for Granted, What Can I Do?

All of us women have gone through that moment when we feel slightly less confident of ourselves, when we doubt that our man maybe ignoring us that he may be thinking of quitting the relationship because we did something wrong. I've been there and I am sure you have too (at least once in your life time). But before we start panicking, we need to ask ourselves if this is just in our heads, a result of our own insecurity or if something is really going on. It's true that your man could be wrong and may have started to care less about you, but more often than not it is in our heads, women being very sensitive beings. So before you start doing anything, ask yourself honestly what you really feel.

Once you have taken stock of what is going on in your relationship, it's time to open communication channels and ask him what is ailing him. It's worth keeping in mind that men are not always open when it comes to matters of the heart and it's your job to have him speak about what is bothering him. Remember that at this point it's best to not confront him and ask him outright what is wrong. Instead, it's always better to be friendly and ask him with as much love and respect as you can.

Often as women, we are very insecure and can leap into aggression when we find out that our partners are ignoring us or our not being sensitive to our needs. At this point, it's important to take a step back and think from his perspective. Maybe there is too much going on at work or maybe there are things that have nothing to do with you. You need to check the urge to not be too overbearing because that only increases distance. This is the time when you need to bring out the friend in you. If you do, it's only going to serve you well.

Once you have done all the listening and understand what he is going through, it's time to let him do the talking. If he doesn't respond to what you are doing or is still stand-offish, then make your point and stand on it. It's true I said that it could just be us, but sometimes it's them! Know that if you don't act like a strong woman, you are only going to attract men who do not have very high standards and who in the world wants that! Act like a high quality woman and you will attract high quality men. It's as simple as that.

This should be done only as the last resort, but if you feel like it's been a long time since the both of you have had a conversation because he doesn't take you seriously any more then it maybe a good idea to have a chat with his friends. Goes without saying that this must be done only with very close friends who he doesn't mind sharing his personal life with. Sometimes when confide in their friends more than their partners and this could very well be that situation.

They say that distance makes the heart grown fonder and that's true of all long-term relationships. May be it's time to take that trip to Maldives that you have always wanted to along with your girl friends. This not only takes your mind away from things, it also gives him the much needed space that he wants.