He Wants Sex, AGAIN?!
He Wants Sex, AGAIN?!
Do you hear the word sex and cringe?
Maybe there’s just no time! It’s like bronchitis, “ain’t nobody got time for that! We schedule everything else in life to make sure it gets done, sometimes we go through seasons in life where we have to schedule that also.
Maybe you’ve always been disconnected with sex because you don’t fully understand the impact it has on your marriage and what it was created to be which is a beautiful time of intimacy between you, your SPOUSE and God, the very one who created it.
Did your eyes just pop out of their sockets when you heard that? What? God is supposed to be involved in my sex life? ABSOLUTELY! Who better to have involved and a part of it than the very one who created it?
If your dishwasher breaks you don’t take it to the lawnmower repair shop. You call the dishwasher manufacturer! They made it, they know all the parts and how they are supposed to operate and can fix it. Unfortunately, God has been removed from the equation when it comes to sex.
Dare I say even in Christian marriages sex is viewed as a duty, a need of just the man, or reduced to simply a physical act that feels good, BUT only when we are in “the mood”, and definitely doesn’t include God.
When in reality it is a mental, spiritual and physical act of worship designed by our creator that the enemy has twisted into a distorted, diluted, act of selfishness and self-gratification leaving many filled with misery, wrong attitudes, and dissatisfaction.
I believe Christian marriages can and should have the best sex out there! Don’t run to romance novels, movies, TV shows, and things of the world for advice on what God created or to get your emotional or physical fix. That only leaves you empty and disillusioned. If you haven’t figured it out yet, they don’t have the answer. The world is searching and we need to be the ones showing them in whom the answer lies! There’s a reason why Mick Jagger couldn’t get no satisfaction.
They should be coming to us wondering what our secret is, NOT the other way around! Our marriages are suffering because we don’t know how or why we should be enjoying sex, and some even view it as dirty or just another thing you gotta do, like brushing your teeth.
In Genesis chapter one after God created the universe and everything in it, he looked at Adam and Eve and said, now be fruitful and multiply! In other words, go have sex! He created this amazing gift and wants them to go enjoy it! If you are rolling your eyes instead of shoutin’ when you hear that, then we’ve got some work to do, so let's keep going!
I’ve heard women say that the only reason God created sex was to procreate (can’t ever recall hearing a man say that though!), and that’s definitely one beautiful aspect of it. But to say that’s the only reason it was created, I believe, would be an insult to our creator!
God in all His wisdom could have come up with a billion other ways to “be fruitful and multiply” but He chose for that to happen as a pleasure-based act, exposed physically, emotionally and spiritually. God fearfully and wonderfully designed it so that when a husband and wife come together we get the privilege of discovering with each other the many details of our bodies that provide so many intense, wonderful physical sensations to be enjoyed together! God intended for us to experience full satisfaction in marriage! Sex is definitely pleasurable, but, once again, if all we view it as is an act all about physical pleasure, we are still missing the bigger picture of God’s design!
Sex is emotional. There is a hormone sent from neurotransmitters from Deep within the Limbic System of the brain called oxytocin. Oxytocin promotes bonding and attachment and is released during childbirth and nursing to promote bonding. And you guessed it, it’s also released during sex! During sex this chemical is being produced and released in both individuals, creating an emotional bond between them.
We need to view sex as holy, sacred, selfless, life-giving, emotionally bonding and yes, a very, very pleasurable act designed by God to unify and strengthen our marriage relationship like no other relationship we are to have on this earth.
Ask God to show you where there are unrealistic expectations, views or mindsets that are not of Him and to give you a revelation of all that He desires for your marriage so that you can have the marriage and sex life God intended for you to have and all the benefits that come with it.
© 2018 Amber Byerly